Question for guys over 30 yrs old.?

Question

Do guys over 30 still play games with girls hearts? I am talking to someone who seems really sincere and has actually told me he is a man of his word. He still does the same childish things like not call when he says he will. I am not stuck up at all but I am a very attractive young woman and I am intelligent. I give no reason for a man to think he can play with me and I wont just say see ya. I am not to sure how emotional to get or how involved. Is it not true that if he really wanted me he would be trying to impress me not play little boy games with me. Also after only dating for a month and talking on line for 5 should I even let him know when he hurtes me? Should I just go on and pretend like it doesnt bother me? Why is this so hard? I am an adult just trying to date one. Please give me your honest advice!

Answer 1

....Hello darling....I'm turning 50 this month,...and I still have a mischievous little boy left in me reasonably. Maturity is gonna be very important when making life's little decisions though...but sometimes my "young at heart" behavior does precede me. I don't condone playing with any ones heart recklessly these days. My high school days are far behind me now. I want a mature thoughtful considerate sensual relationship with another level headed human being...not a gamer. I expect most people would feel this way at this point,...but don't ever expect that everyone will sweetie. I believe most intelligent men my age are reasonably well adjusted,...but not all of us are darling. You'll have to be the judge of his character and integrity hun. Go easy with this fella darling. Your guts generally won't lie to you hun. You need to use that wonderful internal instinct of yours. God gave it to you for a reason. It usually will steer you clear of troubled individuals that come wandering around in your lifetime occasionally,...if only you'd let it! Be smart and be sensible hun. Do what's best for you first,...and everybody else comes second.

Answer 2

If something he tells you bothers you then you need to say something. Or he will continue to say those things. Any good relationship is based on honesty and an open line of communication. He said he was a man of his word yet he doesn't call you when he said he would. You don't really seem like the desperate type so I don't see why you would have to put up with this. Especially since you guys just met. Don't get too attached to this guy. Seems like there is alot you need to know about him before you get hurt. If your really interested perhaps just be friends and see how he treats or talks about others. That will tell you how he may treat or see you.

Answer 3

Dont lie to yourself. I cant stress that enough. I lied to myself about what i was really feeling in my relationship. It is the worst thing you can do. You end up feeling worse later on, trust me. Tell him how you feel. True love is not a game. You dont pull strings to get what you want or to make the other feel bad. If you dont feel like you are getting the respect or attention you need tell him. As far as the not calling thing, he should be calling out of respect for you to let you know where he is if he is late, or not coming home after work etc. If you just explain to him how you are feeling he will understand and respect that. If he does not understand then you know he is not the one and it is just wasting your time. I hope this helps, by the way I am not a man, but i dont think that really matters.

Answer 4

As a young woman who's been screwed around by a 40 year old ... I say "Yes! They can!" But not all of them are like that. I'd say as a whole they area a LOT more mature than their 20-something counterparts.

For the reccord, you should ALWAYS mention when something hurts you ... you have the right to a loving relationship based on mutual respect and trust!

And they're not all bad...

Answer 5

i can only speak for myself. i'm 32 and i can honestly say that i don't play games at all. i just don't have the energy to play games anymore. i've dated here and there but i'm finding that i enjoy spending time by myself. i'm in a different situation than your guy friend because i was married for 8 yrs and i have a little girl who's 6. my ex and i are best friends but as husband and wife, it was emotionally draining. that's the main reason why i don't play games.

what's your guy's background? does he have a history of bad relationships? is he a self proclaimed player? how does he treat his mother? is he financially stable? all of these factors play a part. the best thing for you to do is live your life to the fullest with or without him. it's his loss. good luck!

Answer 6

If he has given you behavior that betrays his words, why would you continue to trust him?? Personally i say what i mean, say it one time, and practice it . All who know me know that if i don't practice what i preac , they have my permission to confront me on it, and then offer me a solution to correct it. But if they don't care enough to offer me a solution then they don't need to address the situation in the first place.

As for him impressing you, i am who i am , and i'm not here to impress people; i'm here for a purpose that i was born to fulfill and with the help of The Most High and those sent to me to enhance my journey, i can do that while contributing to others my rewards are continuous and provide more that i can offer to others. Good luck; stay or go, but the decision is yours.

Personally i think you deserve better

Answer 7

Building a relationship is like building a house if the foundation is shakey then sometimes the house can come tumbling down. It doesnt should like you guys are meant to have a serious long term-leading to marriage relationship. It doesnt sound like he really wants that.

Answer 8

any guys can play games at you, you have to make sure that you have certified bf standard, example, you are looking for non drinker, non smoker, non cheater, non gambler, not a criminal, non violent. If those fit to your prospect get him, doesn't matter if he is not good looking, or if he smoke its ok or drinks, will upgrade him later. Make sure tell them what you like to do and not. Be honest and be firm of what your demands. goodluck!

Answer 9

Hi

As with life in general, some do and some don't. Tell him how you feel and, may be, he will come to his senses. If he won't, there are plenty other guys who will treat you with respect.

As a single guy in my mid-30s, I certainly wouldn't and none of my contemporaries do.

Best wishes

Answer 10

It is not playing games, it is just that he's not expecting you to take this promises seriously, or he's really busy?? you need to have a talk with him.