Would you leave him???

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and a half yrs. Im 28. In the beginning of our relationship an old friend of his named Danielle came up once or twice in conversation. She called him 1 or 2 times in the beginning also. I had a problem w/ this since he told me she used to like him "but they never did anything". I have not heard anything of her until last night...she called him saying something about their lunch plans. I heard the message @ his house before he did. He went 2 eat at the restaurant she works at and ran into her friend and asked how she was doing.Then he said "tell her to give me a call". She called him and he asked her to "lunch on Monday" He said he forgot 2 tell me!! He knows I would never b okay w this. He says he only asked her 2 lunch cause he was in a rush when she called and need an excuse 2 hang up. (BS) He says shes an old friend and I shouldnt be mad. If she was a friend I would have met her or at least heard her name more than 2-3X in the last 2 1/2yrs

He is divorced. The reason he is divorced is because he cheated on her.

Answer 1

my feelings are that if she was just a friend, then he would have told you about the lunch - or better yet, he would have invited you to go along and meet this girl. on the other hand, how are the other aspects of your relationship? if they are good and the only thing that is bothering you is the fact that you are suspicious or a little jealous (it's ok, i have a jealous streak too) about this friend of his, maybe it's all in your head. if your relationship isn't that great in other aspects, then maybe you are looking for a way out. only you know how you feel about the relationship and where its going - 2.5 years is a loooooong time - don't thow it away over something silly, but don't stay in a worthless relationship one minute longer. maybe ask if you can join them - see what they are all about - hey, you might even like her and find a new friend yourself! anyway, my advice is to really look at the big picture and put this incident in its place and then make your decision. best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Well I don't think I would dump him because you two are supposed to be in a relationship and should trust each other. Even though he should of told you about them going to lunch because that a little suspicious especially since she used to like him. Just like my boyfriends best friend is a girl who used to like him and probably still does because they spent new years eve together and he constantly ignored me when I was trying to talk to him on the phone, but i am still with him because I have to trust that he really loves me and you should believe the same.

Answer 3

I'd let it go until there was something to worry about, if you love him after 2 1/2 years there should be trust there. He is allowed to have friends isn't he. From my point of view, I'd say you were really controlling and I'd tell you to lighten up.

Answer 4

This is just me, & I'm completely intolerable of ANY kind of BS like that! His a** would be W A Y out the door. Sorry, sounds a little fishy to me. You don't 'forget' to tell your girlfriend of 2, almost 3 years something like that!! Sorry, again, this is just me, but I can guarantee you, I wouldn't tolerate any crap like that.

Answer 5

I think you're overreacting. Men and women can be friends without a relationship, in-case you haven't heard. And maybe the reason your boyfriend doesn't want you to meet her or mention her very much is because he senses that you would overreact.

Answer 6

He's trying to play you, or at least test the waters with this other women, just to see if he can conquer without getting caught, and to see how far you will let him go. when everyman gets in a serious relationship they know the little black book is buried until the end of the relationship and if it ends in marriage then it is never dug up. maybe is not a serious relationship for him and hes looking for more territory to conquer.

Answer 7

course i would