I'm worried about telling my 10 year old that I'm going to have a baby! She used to want a baby brother or sister, but changed her mind and now cries if I bring it up. She doesn't want to give up being an only child and grandchild. She's a wonderful big sister to a little brother at her dad's house...she just doesn't want ME to have one! I'm sure she'll get used to the idea and even be happy.But I'm just dreading the moment of telling her and the tears. Any ideas of how to break it to her?
2007-03-06 01:13:12 · 12 answers · asked by dog8it 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is just afraid. She depends and loves you very much and she feels that she will be less important in your life. Tell her that this little gift from above is not just for you, it is for her aswell. Tell her that she has a very important role to play in this she is going to be a big sister. Talk about all of the things she can do for the baby, make her feel important. It can be a bonding experience between the two of you. Tell her that you need her to do this, you need her help. Even if she is upset, it wont last for long. She will come around and she will love her new little brother or sister. Crongrats on your part! Good luck and Good health to you and yours.
2007-03-06 01:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell her soon so she can get used to the idea, but also think about maybe throwing her a big sister party-invite people over to celebrate her new role. Let her see that it is a good thing. Get her a little doll so she can practice being a helper and always remind her that you love her very much and that won't change. I also saw somewhere a shirt that says "I am a big sister." These can help her be proud of her role and realize that a new baby is not a bad thing. I hope that helps and good luck!
2007-03-06 01:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Alison 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's a wonderful sister to her half brother im gonna assume, she'll proubly be a great a sister to this one as well, but why don't you sit down and ask her again what she would think about a new little brother or sister, she could just be secretly thrilled by the idea if she used to ask for one, but then when you wernt having one she decided that you were the one who didnet want one so she just changed to thinking how you think, children tend to immitate there parents so there could be a chance she would actually want another baby, also how did she react to when her father had another baby? You could also go by that. I hope I helped you at least some.
2007-03-06 01:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Klara L 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can start the story by asking her why does she react like that whenever you mention a new baby in the family and why is she OK to the one her father has. After talking about that, and explain to her that she won't be left aside,she won't lose any of your love and attention, then she may even ask you for one. You have to listen to her and see why she feels like that. Maybe she's scared, mislead or something. try to show her that, it will be good and even funny for her. That it will be a baby sister/brother but also a new challenge and game(in a way) for her. Be as close as possible to her, to help her deal with her fears. She will accept it, it may require some work from you, but se will.
2007-03-06 02:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you are the Mother and she is the daughter and 10. She might throw a fit but tell her that she is going to be a big part of this babies life that she is the oldest and no matter what that the baby is going to look up to her. Let her help with baby names or let her help with the babies room. Let her pick out an outfit its the little things that count Best of luck:)
2007-03-06 01:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Megan R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know anyone (family/friend/neighbor) who has a baby that you could go visit with your daughter, and that they would be wiling to let your daughter hold and feed the baby? Maybe if she had a chance to spend time with a real baby, she might be more excited about the idea.
2007-03-06 03:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..just tell her what a wonderful big sister she is with her dads child... maybe when shes at her dads house she has to share him and she doesnt feel like the special one.. though she loves her litle brother...and when she goes home she has ur 100% complete attention.... you just have to always tell her how much you love her and that nothing will ever change..im sure she will change when she sees the new baby and she will love it also....just always make her know how special she is to you..
2007-03-06 01:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest -
All you have to do is tell her the situation
she probably doesnt want you to have one because she has you all to herself at the moment and does not want to share you.
Tell her that things will not change once you have the baby and make sure they dont. Show her lots of affection
2007-03-06 01:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you don't want to upset your daughter but you have to tell her. you are the mother and she is the child, she will have to basically deal with it. i mean, what are you going to do if she tells you that she doesn't want you to have the baby? have an abortion? adoption? i don't think so. i am sure that your child has cried for other things in her life..and just like she eventually got over that...she will get over this.
2007-03-06 01:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of the Nile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go somewhere she really likes, like if she likes shopping take her and have fun and go out to eat...and then just break it to her.....and if she gets upset tell her its going to be ok because she is still your baby girl and nothing will ever change that and you love her very much....Hope This Helps Some <3
2007-03-06 01:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by HelpMe123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋