2007-03-06 01:07:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am lucky. I live in a community that values family and believes that SAHM's are an asset. I went back to work for a while after my dauhter was born (she was four months old...this is significant because in Canada we have 12 months off after baby is born) and a lot of people were asking me if I was insane. Actually, I was combatting post-partum and work really helped. But to your question, people are normally not that narrow-minded and rude to me.
2007-03-06 03:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get TOLD to do anything by ANYONE! *grin* Not even, and especially not, my husband! :)
But yes, I've been asked a LOT of questions by friends as to whether or not I'm bored or if I'm just doing my hubby's bidding (hehe right.....).
Mostly, I just tell them the benefits I've noticed by BEING a SAHM, and by being RAISED by a SAHM. That, combined with the fact that I believe in homeschooling (when our 2 year old is "old enough" for it, and because of my own experience at being advanced in the best public school system in our area, and one of the best in our state at the time), often raises eyebrows, but many people see my points, even if they don't think THEY could do it. But I tell you, I was in their shoes before I had our daughter, and I said the same things with the same arguments. It's amazing how your mind can change once you see the impact that you have on your child's learning. My daughter is 2, yet she speaks and comprehends better than most 2 year olds I've met. She's begun potty-training, and she's expressing an interest in learning to read. If, by staying at home, I can have THIS much of an impact on her learning, why shouldn't I?
Most parents just sniff at what they consider to be my "assumption" that a parent/grandparent staying at home can have such an impact. That same person will have just commented on my "3 year old's great manners" (she's only 2!), and how intelligent my husband and I are (we were both raised by a stay at home person!). Now, I don't claim to be "super intelligent" or anything, but there WAS a marked difference in my siblings and I compared to other children our ages as far as intelligence, comprehension, reading, and understanding, and so, in my experience, I find that being a SAHM FAR outweighs being a working mom.
2007-03-06 10:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by jlene18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been told to go to work. Even when money is tight. B/c this is the best thing that I can do for my son and myself. Plus, b/c he is not in daycare our Dr. bills are less. He has only had one cold and one fever and he is 7 months old. But if he was in day care, he would be sick all the time. It would cost more to put him in day care then I would make in a week. Plus, I get to see everything. Every day he wakes up doing something different and I don't miss it. I don't care what other people think or if they think I should get a job. This is my life and my son's...and this is what we choose to do.
2007-03-06 09:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Stefanie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been on both ends, working and staying home. The ONLY time I'd comment about a mom staying home instead of working is if financially they were bad off, the husband was working full time, and she's at home complaining that they're broke or unable to pay bills! Otherwise, in my opinion, a mom should stay home with their kids if they can afford to, until he kids are in school full time. But to each his own....
2007-03-06 10:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by chelelab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No most of the people I associate with are SAHMs too.
2007-03-06 10:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by eebrs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have, but it doesn't really matter what others say, most of the people who have told me to go to work are those who aren't even parents themselves.. so their opinions don't mean that much to me... I have had my mother-in-law say that we could have a bigger house or nicer things if I had a job, but I am willing to sacrifice those things for the time being to spend more time with my children... It's soooo.... worth it!!!!
2007-03-06 09:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to tell me that, our bills are paid and me staying home is a decision my husband and I made together.
2007-03-06 09:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but I have been told that I DON'T work, and I hate that.
2007-03-06 10:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone would have the gall to say that to me.
2007-03-06 09:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Only my ex used to & he is sorry he did...
2007-03-06 10:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋