My friends and I are planning a vacation this summer to celebrate the end of A Level exams-the only problem is that my parents arent too keen and think itll be a big drunken orgy...im nearly 18 and will be going to university alone next year surely they can trust me and ive saved up enough money so that i will be able to pay for my accomodation and spending money, i just need them to pay for my flight...a few suggestions please!
2007-03-06 00:48:28 · 18 answers · asked by umbrellophone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i forgot to mention, i dont live in the uk and we dont get easyjet or cheap airline deals like that
2007-03-06 01:03:21 · update #1
Just ask and if u r responsible..she will let u go
2007-03-06 00:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's that your parents don't trust you. I think that they are remembering the headlines of Natalie Holloway (I think that was her name) and the class holiday she went on. That was every parent's nightmare.
No parent likes to be in a corner. Tell them you understand that something like that wold spook the parent of a son or a daughter. Ask your parents where they think you should go. Ask them if they would be comfortable with a "call-in schedule".. I know it sounds extreme, but not knowing where your child is and seeing headlines like that can bring on heart problems for a parent.
My son had to be home with the car by 10pm on school nights in HS. At 10:10 I was nutz.. the first time he was late, I told him... everyone gets 1 for free, this is your 1. He didn't understand what the big deal was... 10 minutes!!!!!
I was a claims adjuster.. I told him that I knew that every car that went by our house in that 10 mins , was a cop that was going to tell me what hospital I could find my son. And he would never, ever put me through that again! He was never late again without a phone call.
Maybe you can work it out with your parents so that they have an out, and not a corner at their backs. When we've got a corner only, we tend to say NO, it's easier.
Bend a little, don't keep reminding them that you are almost an adult. we like to think that you still need us. we like it when you call, just to let us know that you're back at the hotel. And we really don't mind if you tell us ahead of time... you know mom, we might be late, so don't be surprised if I don't call until 1 or 2am... she'll be so thrilled that you want to check in with her that she won't care.. your safety is her concern.
They have already said no, so what do ya have to lose??
2007-03-13 16:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by larsgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have managed to save up enough already for spending and accomodation then saving up enough for a flight as well shouldn't be too dificult, especially as you have until the summer.
I was in the same position as you when I was 18 and I did a lot of babysitting and worked as a waitress to save up for the post A-Level holiday.
You can get really cheap package holidays on lastminute.com or why not try cheapflights.com
If you need to focus on your studying, why not explain to them how much the holiday would mean to you and promise you will work really hard for your A Levels if they will contribute towards the flight.
2007-03-06 00:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.
I also know how much you really want to go on holiday with your friends, whether or not it will be a cozy standard vacation or a kind of rampant one.
The point is to be tactic and try to get what you really need and cherish not in the short-term perspective but in the long-term perspective.
OK. Here are two things which you should respect.
ONE: Your ties with your friends.
TWO: Your relationship with your parents.
So, in order to respect and value them both, you should persuade your parents to the end. The worst thing you do is to be hasty and get your parents irritated or let your parents down.
They are, in a way, testing you. How many parents do you think give their daughter or son a prompt on-the-spot reply of consent when one day he or she comes to them and says "I am going to marry this person". They are figuring out how sincere and serious you are about this idea of going on holiday. So, be nice to them, and go on asking them to give you the green light.
Tactically speaking, you should first get either your father or mother at your side, according to your own sex. (Sorry I don't know if you are a boy or a girl.)
In the meantime, if you don't have anything to feel guilty about your vacation plan in terms of who are the people you are going with and what you actually planning to do and such. Show them everything. This can greatly help your parents to convince you are nice to them and trust them.
What comes from heart goes to the heart.
Good Luck!
2007-03-06 16:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ids say the holiday will be drinking ans sex... but given your age its normal...
May even do you good.
Look it all depends of how sensible your mates are. Ie no priest and nuns.
but the kids who avoid fights, drinking too much and making sure all get home safe.
You should mention that they cant protect you from this as the first week in Uni is called
fk a fresher week with good reason...
ie in uni there will be lots of parties, lots of sex, and drinking so whats a few months ? other then the beach
Plus you wont be seeing some of these mates again for a while so you want one last go.
Actually rent out American Pie two... good idea
2007-03-06 14:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say what you just said here. Sounds good to me and I am a strict parent. Offer to let them give you the flights a) for doing your exams and b) for birthday. I hope you have a great time and get a chance to let your hair down before going and getting a big fat 1st at Uni.
2007-03-10 09:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to show your parents how mature and responsible you are. Sit down and discuss it calmly with them ,try to see it from their point of view but put your point across without shouting or argueing. Explain to your parents that you understand their concerns but remind them that you are nearly an adult and will soon be moving away to Uni. If you can show maturity they might rethink their decision. If you need them to pay for the flight, show how responsible you can be. offer to do jobs to help them out and they wont mind giving you the money so much! Good Luck!!
2007-03-06 01:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by vickyvixen84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to show them you are serious, ask them to lend you the money for the flight and just say you will get a job or another job if you already have one.
That way they will see how responsible you are and they probaly wont ask you to pay it back.
2007-03-09 20:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give her that letter man. This could seriously destroy your family. Sounds to me like you need to talk to a counselor about this And I dont mean this rudely. You are feeling some feelings that are just not normal. Thst doesnt mean that you are weird or anything, it just means that you are confused. And you should really take some time to think about this decesion before you act on it. Tske time and pray about it.
2007-03-13 20:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by dodfish99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are sending you to college next year by yourself, then they must know that THAT will be a big drunk orgy haha jk jk. I would explain to them that you are mature enough to make the right decisions and that you wouldn't want to let them down, just give you the chance to prove that to them!
2007-03-06 01:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in exactly the same position as you, have managed to work my mum round, but dad is still a problem. remind you that you are responsible, make them feel bad by sayin you need something to look forwars to after the exams. crying always helps as well.
2007-03-12 11:07:39 · answer #11 · answered by helen b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋