I have a delightful 18mth old girl. The only problem is she bites. If I take something from her / stop her doing something, she is likely to bite me. If she is frustrated she is likely to bite me. And sometimes when she appears happy and calm, she may bite. Occassionally, she will bite other children, apparently for no reason.
I know that all children at some stage bite, but it seems that she bites more than most, and has been doing so for over 3 months. It is also strange that she bites me (her father) but not her mother, grandparents etc.
I've tried a lot of things to stop her. I've removed her from the situation, got onto her eye level and told her no biting. I've shouted at her (and then felt very bad). I've ignored it (painful). I remove my arm / hand / finger / neck / cheek when I se her moving in for the bite.
None of the above strategies have worked.
Any ideas?
2007-03-06 00:31:24 · 24 answers · asked by Paul M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
when she bites you, bite her back just hard enough so as it hurts her a little so she knows that's what happens when she does it, then she will associate pain with biting
2007-03-06 00:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by angie 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
If she is only biting you, carefully examine how you are relating to her. She may be doing it to communicate something to you. Try giving her the words she does not yet have.
You say you have tried things, but have you been consistent? Same behavior = same consequence. She needs a logical consequence. When she bites you, take away what she wants most - you. Put her in a 1 minute time out, just until she gets the message. Let her know by your behavior that she gets to be with you when she is not biting. Give her tons of love and attention when she is behaving appropriately
When she is with other children, you must remove her from the situation for their safety.
Biting back is not the greatest solution. She will grow out of it, even if you do nothing.
Sometimes biting can be an immature or rough form of kissing. Show her how to be soft.
2007-03-06 00:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by s f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a question...Is your child talking? Sometimes if a child at this age, which should be speaking in small sentences, cannot communicate very well, take their frustrations out the only way they know how. If this is the case then I would definitely take her to a physician and speak with them on the terms more of concern on speech. If this is not the case, then I would try the calming method. Okay, this going to sound strange considering your little one just bit you, but anyways...you take her in your arms, holding her very close and gentle and look at her directly in her eyes while you're petting her, so to speak(rubbing her head, face, and especially cheek). This gives her a calming feeling and allows you to talk to her easier. I have three children of my own and my oldest daughter, now 13yrs old bit me so hard that my first reaction was to turn around and smack her mouth(sounds horrible) but it shocked her so bad that she didn't even cry and the best part was that she never bit again. Now looking back on that I feel terrible for my actions. Since I opened my own child care business I've learned that the calming method is the way to go...not just saying that...it really works! I've had to refer this method to many of the parents that have this problem and they thank me later. Although honestly this doesn't work for everyone, but at this point I'm sure you're willing to try anything. Good Luck!
2007-03-06 01:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say no very firmly and remove her from you when she does it.
She is still very young but you must be firm and must be consistent.
Once you've said no ignoree her. don't pick her up if she cries stand up and carry on with something nearby.
Wait a few minutes and then you can carry on as if nothing has happened.
At this age a lot of behaviour starts to occur to gain your attention. So give the no message and ignor behaviour you don't want and praise and give attention for the behaviour you do want.
Consider speaking to your health visitor for further advice.
I don't feel comfortable with the idea of biting a child no matter how softly it gives the message biting is OK
Good luck
2007-03-09 01:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by mistyblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she bites u say in a firm voice "no biting it hurts" then remove her from the room - we use the bottom step for 2min, if she gets off the put her back on with no talking if she goes mental (my 2nd 1 would head butt the wall if put on the step) u should sit on the step with her on yr knee & hold her on the step again with no eye or speech contact.
After the 2 min - 1 min for every year of her age say "no biting it hurts" and leave it at that.
If she bites another child then give her no attention at all & give the bitten child lots of cuddles & ice for the bite to show u do not get nice things when u bite.
u could ask yr wife of parents to in turn give u kisses & cuddles & ice when she bites u (bit silly i know but it works)
My 2nd daughter was a biter & i would be mortified to pick her up from nursery & see some poor child sporting her nasher marks, she even bit a childs face !!!! as soon as she could talk it stopped, she is now 3 & we do have the odd vicious pinch of her sister when she can't get her own way but i no longer fear she will become a canibal !!!!!
2007-03-06 00:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by K W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Under no circumstances bite her back! It only shows the child that it's acceptable behaviour and it most certainly is not. My daughter was also a biter - she once took a huge chunk out of my husband's brand new leather coat - she wasn't popular that day! It reached the point where I was holding her at arm's length away from me because I was black and blue. We dealt with it mainly by ignoring her whenever she did it. I know its awful for you as the parent but it does get the message across. I would always give her a very stern "No!" as well. Do you have a play pen? I know they're a bit old-fashioned but we used a travel cot as one (my son is only 11 months older than my daughter so it was useful for daytime naps as well) I'd sometimes put her in the play pen for some 'time out' when she bit me. The good news is it's a short-lived phase and I promise you she'll soon get over it.
2007-03-06 00:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it sounds cruel but i am a mum of 4 kids who have all gone through the biting stage, the best way to stop it is to bite her back obviously not very hard, every time she bite you she will soon get the message. worked for me, good luck x
2007-03-06 01:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The nursery college won't enable her to be there if she is a cronic biter. particularly if she attracts blood. She could understand the interest "NO" If she replace into my daughter i might grab her (gently yet, adequate to get her interest) by her chin and say in an rather loud voice "NO" and make constructive she is watching you and take a seat her in an afternoon out for 2 minutes. does not matter whether it particularly is at a table, or in a empty cornor. She needs to learn that their are outcomes for her strikes. And biting isn't ok. ~my mom suggested that my brother replace right into a biter and he might bite me consistently. sometime she had had adequate and she or he bit him lower back. He replace into in such marvel! (in all probability on the reality that it particularly injury) He in no way bit lower back! sturdy success
2016-12-18 06:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my little girl who is now 9. I actually got so frustrated that i bit her back. Not as hard as she bit me of course but hard enough to get the point across that it hurts and is not nice. Honest to God she never bit me again. I have never spanked or done anything like this to my kids either before or after and i felt really bad afterward...but it worked. If the child doesn't know what it feels like they are more likely to do it to someone when they are frustrated. Good Luck!
2007-03-06 00:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Slap her on the mouth. Everytime my parents popped me, I straightened right up. I was a little s*** head when younger, and I can admit now that I should have been smacked a few more times than I was.
Beating a child and leaving bruises is abuse however, a quick smack can do a lot of good. Kids have been getting corporal punishment for hundreds of years and now when it stops kids are more disobedient than ever. Give it a try and don't feel too bad when you do it. You're teaching her a lesson. Tough Love.
2007-03-06 00:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by quit breathing my useful oxygen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your daughter is a vampire and now she has got the taste for blood she will just continue biting people.
All i can suggest is hanging garlic around your neck as a steak through the heart is probably a bit brutal!
2007-03-06 01:22:51 · answer #11 · answered by natashia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋