What would you do if you are in a relationship with a very intelligent woman. She has been sharpened by problems and strengthened by defeats. She has a lot of common sense... She has a lot of humor... She is beautiful... She has a problem... She thinks low of herself... because she is fat... What will you do to take out that idea in her head? Please give me the most intelligent and creative way you know how... Thank you in advance...
2007-03-06 00:29:35 · 9 answers · asked by DEADPOOL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep loving her, no matter how hard she tries to be negative about herself. The only way to convince her is through your actions of love. Compliment her but don't go overboard. Just you be yourself and you just love her the way you do. It will take time but somewhere along the line something you say or do will hit that switch. Respect her desire to loose weight if she has it rather than telling her she doesn't need to. Help her to do it if she really wants to, but tell her you're doing it because she wants to, not because you think she should. Just be supportive, either way.
2007-03-06 01:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is more serious than you think. I also think this can become a serious threat for your relationship, because if she does not love herself she cannot possibly love another person..you may see the beautiful person she is but if she keeps denying this then she has some serious low self esteem problems..she could even have body dysmorphic disorder which could lead to eating disorders..people with these issues won't listen to loved ones, they need professional help, trust me I was like that once. Get her into therapy, go with her and support her, you seem like a great guy to look beyond her weight problems and I think you will have no problems sticking with her. Best of luck to you and your girlfriend.
2007-03-06 00:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Diana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the most difficult things to do. She has to change her belief about herself. She has to come to this on her own and there is nothing you can do. It has to be her epiphany. Once she realizes that it is as easy as changing her belief then she can do it and, poof, it will be done. You can encourage her to read certain books and I can recommend some. They teach you a different way of thinking. One good one is "Conversations with Seth" by Sue Watkins Vols 1 and 2 and another one is Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. These books may not seem to have anything to do with the problem at hand but they are extrememly good books which teach you a way of thinking. At ay rate, it can't hurt!
2007-03-06 00:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Keenu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take her out to a very nice club and let her see all the man look at her and tell her she still got it then take her home have the best sex for 7hrs till she feels like a woman again and every morning tell i love a kiss on the cheek.
2007-03-06 00:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by dream_harts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her everyday that she is beautiful. Make her feel pretty. Maybe offer to join the gym with her, only if that will make her feel better.
2007-03-06 00:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is fat because god knew that you liked fat girls, so if she wasn't fat, she wouldn't have met you. Tell her that it really doesn't matter what people look like, and that she's 100 times smarter than most skinny people in the world, take her to a gym, go to weight watchers, idk
2007-03-06 00:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by yoyoyowatup3579 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her what you wrote about her here. Let her know that she is a special person to you who has great qualities and deserves happiness.
2007-03-06 00:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be supportive and keep telling her how beautiful, pretty, wonderful, etc she is
2007-03-06 00:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋