She moans about having to do too much yet when I offer help she doesn't want it most of the time. I've also noticed that she's spoiling her two older boys a bit too much lately so I wonder if she is feeling guilt for having the latest baby...
2007-03-06 00:21:54 · 9 answers · asked by Liz S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
she very well could be,or she may be suffering from post part em depression,maybe she needs to talk to her Dr their is meds that will help good luck
2007-03-06 00:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know for sure if it would be post partum. I think it is very hard to raise 3 children and very normal for a woman to complain about being overwhelmed sometimes. Maybe she isn't getting enough support from her husband. And I really understand her not wanting you to help her. It's probably not that she doesn't want it, but she might feel bad about asking, or having you do it. When I had my baby, I never asked anyone except for my husband for help. I wanted to know that I could do it on my own if I ever had to. Next time I will definitely get the help!! Lol! But why don't you try talking to her, ask if there's anything going on that she wants to talk about, and if she wants help, then make some phone calls for her. She might be spoiling the boys a little more than usual, but that is up to her. Maybe she wants the older kids to know that she still loves them and doesn't know a better way to do that right now. Maybe she is very overwhelmed and doesn't quite know how to distribute her time evenly between all three yet. But that will most likely come with time. Newborns require a lot of attention. Just keep being supportive to her and keep asking if she wants you to help her out with things around the house.
2007-03-06 08:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that's postpartum depression alright. She's just venting her frustrations to you...she's definitely overwhelmed! She doesn't want to accept your help because she wants the feeling of knowing she can accomplish it on her own. As far as the older boys...spoiling the children at this point in time is alright ya know. Not just the mother has gone through this whole ordeal. It's just her way of showing the boys that they are still loved and included even though her time is dedicated mostly to the baby right now. I assure you it will pass. I'm only speaking from my past thoughts...I have three kids myself and went through the same thing...more emotionally exhausted than time consuming. In the mean time, just keep being the wonderful friend you seem to be...she'll thank you for it later!
2007-03-06 08:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like post partum depression. Perhaps as a friend you could get her to confide in you. Sometimes talking about it helps. Just keep on being her friend and let her know that you are there for her. And help her in anyway you can!
2007-03-06 09:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has post partum depression. i had it with my son really bad and didn't want anything to do with him for the first 2 months. it sounds terrible i know but i happens to some mothers and some it don't. I am praying it won't happen when I have my second baby. good luck with your friend and tell her to talk to you or her doctor about whats going on.
2007-03-06 08:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Durty's Wifey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like post=partum, strongly advise her to seek professional help!
2007-03-06 08:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by bandit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably what things done her way , i feel like that sometimes i dotn want someone else to help because if they do it worng then i have to do it all over agagin and then that is twice the work for me to do, i am like that
2007-03-06 08:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's just stressed out and she don't want you too feel that it's your responsibilty to help her out with her kids. after a while she will want all the help she could get soon.
2007-03-06 08:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by LATRICE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a postpartum thing.
2007-03-06 08:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋