A friend of mine hosted a birthday party for her son. His cousins were invited to his party. But one of them came with a laser light pointer and was pointing at the other childrens' eyes. So, My friend took away the pointer from him and he was VERY upset!Afterall, he had purchased this laser pointer with his own allowance. Well, at the end of the party, my friend had seemingly lost the boy's laser pointer. Hence, my dilema. The child's mom thinks that my friend should have to replace it while the birthday boy's mom feels no responsibility to replace it. She feels he shouldn't have been misusing it. Furthermore, the child's mother was not at the party to supervise her son.
The child's mother feels that , if, this situation had happened at school that the school would have the responsiblity of safe-keeping for any article that had been confiscated. Who do you think she be held responsible and why? What do you think shouldbe done? This happened in Nov06. The pointer costs $5
2007-03-06 00:05:33 · 19 answers · asked by FemFatale 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Ok, I think I'm going to have to add that this child has acted inappropriatley at birthday parties hosted by this person before.
2007-03-06 00:31:40 · update #1
One more thing, when the child was chastised for misusing the pointer, he called the mother hosting the party a liar to her face and then denyed it to his mother.
2007-03-06 00:33:25 · update #2
This sounds like it has turned into a "who can be the most stubborn" war. Granted the child should not have been shining the light in other children's eyes. The host had the option of telling the child not to shine the light or if the child would not respond to the wishes of the adult then take it away. Yes she should have placed it in an area where she could retrieve it easily and return it. If this little conflict is over five dollars good grief I'll send the five dollar toy. Why in the world would someone let a five dollar toy turn into what is now a five month obviously still going argument. Five dollars there are worse things going on in this world than a dang laser pointer.
2007-03-06 00:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by stitch 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The host of the party who lost the pointer should have to replace it.
If the child has been a problem at past parties, then the hostess should have told this childs mother that she would have to stay because her child is a problem OR just not invite the kid in the first place.
Nobody told the child (or the mother) that the laser pointer was not allowed at the party so they shouldn't lose it for good. I agree she had a right to take it away until after the party was over, but once the party is over and the child is going home, it should be returned. She lost it by accident but now she should replace it.
2007-03-06 04:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in all fairness and honesty, I think "birthday boys mother" should be the one to replace the toy. The boy was just being a child. Nothing new. As a parent, you can't always know what your child is up to, maybe the mother had told him not to take it and he took it anyway. Kids are sneaky like that. Now, I do think that the mother should make the boy personally apologize to the other mother for disrupting the party. In person, face to face. But I do think that the other mother has the responsibility to replace the child's toy. Or at least give him the money to replace it himself. If she doesn't, she is showing the child that it's ok to blow people off and do whatever you want to them. Not sending a really good signal there to the child. If she wants to be the better person and be a good role model for any child, she should pay the child for the toy. He should apologize to her and then I think that everyone would be happy.
2007-03-06 00:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What were the lessons taught? By taking a toy that was being used disrespectfully by a disrespectful child the child was taught that he couldn't do that.
By loosing the toy the child was taught that people don't have to watch out for items that belong to someone else. Which leads to the lesson that he doesn't have to be either.
By not replacing the toy both of the last 2 lessons are forced home with a vengeance along with the lesson that people (and therefore the child, too) don't have to take responsibility for their actions.
Personally, I want the child to learn the first lesson. I'm pretty sure he could do without the others.
2007-03-06 05:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep in mind it's a laser that cost 5 dollars. It wasn't his Ipod or something. Peronally I don't think it's worth the fight or arguing over it. Sure- it was 'rude' that she lost it-- but secondly- it was her house- and he was breaking rules- when you are a guest in someone's house and you break the rules- children need to learn that they have to follow their consequences. Yes- i think the host should have at least given the laser back to the childs mother and explained why she took it to his mom- but apparently she lost it- so what? The mother could ask the host to replace it- or to give her 5 dollars to cover the cost of getting a new one- but that would be tacky. It' probably better that the kid learns a lesson from all of this- because i'm sure next time he will think twice about bringing one and misusing it. I know you cannot control your children- but peronsally i wouldn't have allowed my kids to purchase a laser pointer- let alone bring it to school or to a birthday party with my knowledge.
2007-03-06 02:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The mom who hosted the party should replace the toy. She is the one who lost / misplaced it. The toy should not have been taken to the party in the first place unless it was a gift, but kids are kids. The host was right in taking the toy and putting it up but should of been responsible in remembering where she put it and if it's not found replace it. Heck it's a $5.00 toy why ruin a friendship over it or argue about it.
2007-03-06 00:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The host took it away, so the host should pay to replace it. We're only talking $5!!!! However, I'd no longer invite this child over for anymore parties UNLESS the mother of the child stays with him to supervise him.
2007-03-06 03:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by chelelab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The birthday mother should not have lost it. She owes the kid a laser. He is a relative, but he would not be at any other birthday party i hosted. She is not a school, just an individual. She has no right to not return an item she took from the kid.
2007-03-06 00:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately, your friend should have to replace the pointer. But I would make sure that the cousins were not invited to any other parties for a while. When the mother of those cousins asks, just tell her that her kids are not welcome until they can learn to stop lying, stop disrespecting adults who ask them politely to stop damaging other kids' eyes, and until she can attend WITH them. They are HER responsibility, and no one else's. If she can not be responsible for them, you do not HAVE to either.
And anyone who DOES ask the cousins to attend in the future (with their parent, of course), has every right to ask the kids (and parents) to respect their wishes in their own home, or to leave. If it sounds mean, then think about whether or not the cousins' mom would want to pay eye doctor bills for any kid that started having eye trouble. Then mention that possibility to her. Kids WILL be kids, but adults still have to set limitations.
2007-03-06 01:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i may well be arranged to pay extra, yet to dodge the poisons linked with some toys made distant places it may well be properly worth it. i think of that fogeys of youthful babies could abandon plastic toys and go lower back to wood ,made interior the rustic handcrafted products which could many times be discovered at craft gala's. An enterprising individual could make and marketplace those style of toys to fill this prefer. Ann McGarity, Tamworth NH
2016-12-18 06:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋