given the divorce rate of modern times (and please don't say 'oh you should know that you will be together for ever' because you don't know for many reasons)
2007-03-05 23:33:51 · 38 answers · asked by waltzing matilda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sorry - i should've said this:
I have noticed that on reality tv shows that are based on weddings the couples spend around $40K plus - i was just wondering how many people out there actually does spend that much - like i've already got a house and two investments and i'm only 22 and i'm looking at a budget of $8K cause i'm a scrooge - i was kinda thinking if it just me or if the world is totallly nuts for spending big on something that is not an assest/investment
2007-03-05 23:54:28 · update #1
The reality TV shows focus on brides in Large cities on the coasts (generally New York and Los Angeles) which spikes the wedding costs drastically.
The money spent on a wedding doesnt have to be extravagant to have a "blow-out" bonanza, and where you live will make a huge difference in your wedding budget (average cost of a wedding on the coasts are about double that of those in the midwest).
Your $5000 - $8000 wedding could end up MORE beautiful than the $40k wedding as long as you pay attention to detail and shop around for the best quality you can get at the lowest prices. :)
2007-03-13 20:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watch the wedding shows and think that, although the weddings are beautiful, there are much better things to do with $40k+. I think $5-8K on a wedding is more than enough. You can have a memorable wedding on any budget. It's not how much you spend, how many people you invite, etc. It's your special day--make it memorable, whatever that entails for you personally. And honestly, although you'll have fond memories of the day for years to come, the details will fade. Why start your marriage with the burden of unnecessary debt?
2007-03-06 00:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by royalserendipity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to spend all that money than dont. Having the extra money that you didnt spend would go to somthing thats in your future instead, like a house or car. I wouldnt go crazy and spend 40k on my wedding, thats a bit over the top, I would try to hit a lower number such as 15 to 20k instead. Trying to get good deals and hit all the right prices that would work best for me. I would rather have the other 20k that i didnt put on my wedding to our house or honeymoon or somthing else. I think that having a smaller budget wouldnt make the wedding less perfect, its not about the money, its finding good deals and working with what you have and making that perfect. As long as your family and friends get to share this day with you than thats all that matters, no matter how much you spend.
2007-03-06 02:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you go into marriage thinking that it is not an investment, into your future, you are already doomed. However $40 K is absurd unless that $40K is but a drop in the bucket. You can have a lovely elegant classy, or inelegant romp whichever you prefer, for much cheaper than $40K. $5000-$8000 will probably make you very happy. There are people who spend a lot less and still have a very memorable day and are very happy with it.
2007-03-09 17:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wedding only cost $5500, including my dress (not the rings though). I had about 200 people at my wedding. I just did as much as I could by myself, made my own invitations, decorations, etc. Ordered my wedding cake from the local grocery store and it was beautiful and exactly what I wanted. Got all my flowers for the wedding at the local grocery store also from the floral department. All this saved a ton of money. I had a good friend of the family who BBQ's all the time, BBQ for the wedding, so we had ribs, chicken, and a ton of salads and breads. It was great. It was an outside wedding, that I did at my parents house, they have 3.5 acres. You can do it, I could have done 1.5 weddings with $8000. Good luck and you can do it!
2007-03-11 19:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by tiff98444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many couples concentrate on the wedding and not enough on the marriage. I think you are a very smart young lady to realize that you can be just as happy with an $8,000 wedding as spending a fortune. Get married someplace outside, limit the list, ask friends to take the photos, get your dress at someplace like David's bridal, don't have favors, just have fun.
2007-03-12 12:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its how much you spend on your day that makes divorce rates go up. its about how you feel about marriage and your attitude about it going into it.
marriage is what you make of it. a wedding is one day, a marriage is a lifetime and you need to work together as partners. your decisions effect both of you. just because you have a cheap wedding, doesnt mean youll be together any longer than someone who had a million dollar wedding
too many people go into marriage as a game. and think its ok to act like idiots and cheat on eachother.
if your having doubts and arnt sure if this marriage is going to last forever, then dont do it. people get married all the time for all the wrong reasons.
so basically it doesnt matter if you spent $5 or 5 million on your wedding, marriage is what you make of it.
2007-03-06 01:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent about $11,000 on a wedding and honeymoon. We had 160 guests and had our reception at a nice banquet hall with an open bar. Our honeymoon was a resort in Mexico for 6 nights. A beautiful wedding with $8,000 is very reasonable, if you're willing to make some things yourself (invitation kits, centerpieces, favors) and possibly skip some things altogether (we didn't have church decorations or a videographer).
2007-03-06 01:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that 40K is about right. I went to my brothers wedding the beginning of january and thats about what his ran. I also went to my aunts wedding and she got married at the court and had a little get together at a country club.
They both were really nice. The bottom line is you do what you can afford. Dont go into debt just for one day! Congrats!
2007-03-12 08:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by fireworksncastles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My budget is $6000. But the divorce rate has nothing to do with it. If you are thinking "divorce" before you say "I do" you may think about WHY you are getting married. Also, divorce is a painful thing (from what I've seen, have never been divorced) and no matter what amount of money you spend on your wedding, it's going to hurt to have to sever a relationship with someone you once loved.
2007-03-06 01:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋