i got dumped last week. it was totally out the blue. we had only been seeing each other for about 2 months. she was spot on, funny and cozy. she said she felt the same way, like we were ment for each other. i was in love, but very weary to tell her. my mates said to tell her. so one night after some alcohol. speaking to her, i felt the urge to tell her. i did. but her reaction was, "you dont wanna love me". Hmm!
she's just out a long term relationship, as am i. i am looking for friendship as well as a relationship.
my question is. when is the right time to tell someone you love them.
i felt this way from 2 weeks into the relationship. i thought she was the one. i can honestly say i do love her.
2007-03-05 23:24:22 · 4 answers · asked by techno mentalist 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its the 2 months thing. I have been here, I find it very hard to carry on going out with a guy after 2 months. They either are too aloof and I feel that I don't see them enough and that makes my self esteem go through the floor, so I end it, or they say I love you. To which I reply, you don't know me well enough to love me, or I'll say, don't worry you'll get bored soon enough, or I say, you don't want to love me.
It puts me off, as it pressures me to be either 100% for the relationship or 100% gonna break up with the person. Then I start to think. In my case most of the guys I've had relationships with should have not lasted 2 months even, but I think that you don't open your eyes until you've been in a relationship that long.
What your girl is saying is that she isn't sure if she is ready for a long term relationship again.
I truly think you can win her back, by being light and funny. Try to avoid slipping into casual routines with her for a few months and she will feel more free which is what she wants.
If your sex life with her is good, don't mess around with it too much. I mean keep it interesting but don't stop having sex to help cure your relationship (If you have a choice), it will make one of you lose interest.
2007-03-05 23:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You can honestly love her. I think that she doesn't trust herself in relationships. Maybe they all end the same and she feels that she is somehow at fault. She could be terrified that if you love her ... you'll eventually leave her. I've just recently been through an unbelievably hard break up. I at first kept thinking... what did I do? How could I have prevented this from happening? After all... I've had 3 serious relationships in my life and they've all ended the same. My girlfriend pointed out that it is not ME... It's the men I choose. I am terrified of picking the wrong type of man again. I'm afraid that anyone I fall for will be just like the previous and end. I've lost hope that I could actually find my Mr. Right and be happy. Maybe she's afraid of the same thing. It's horribly terrifying. Give her some time if you honestly think she's worth it. I wish you the best of luck!!!
2007-03-05 23:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 06:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by barile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh thats terrible! im not sure when the right time is to tell some one you love them, i myself have never told someone (with real hosnesty and no sarcasm/playfulness) that i loved them. i guess its not a good idea to say it when your kinda drunk because a lot of people say they love people hehe! i think the best time is when you feel like you can't say anything else...
good luck i hope things work out for you!
2007-03-05 23:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by sprite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋