So ever since I was a small child I have always dreamed about my perfect wedding. Big church, glamorous dresses, fantastic desserts, beautiful cake....but nowadays weddings are all based on relgion. And I am not a religious person...at all. I am more of an "energy" and "spiritual" type person....now my boyfriends parents are Christians..so my question is how would I incorporate a non-religious wedding so I dont offend my future in-laws??
I was thinking getting married in Vegas and coming back and having a big reception...??
Whats your dream wedding? Colors? Themes? Specialites?
2007-03-05 23:18:27 · 12 answers · asked by 88776 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are plenty of gorgeous heritage building that you can get married in these days, so the splendour of marrying in a beautiful church is not taking from you. Find a big and beautiful stately home that does civil marriages and go for it!! I am getting married in June in a great big statley home and all the travelling guests are staying there for the weekend and the receprion is there too. Its a perfect setup and no need to worry about you religious beliefs. Good Luck Hun xx
2007-03-06 01:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jaksi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not give up your dream wedding.
Find a beautiful location - a garden, a site designated for events, etc. Then be married by a justice of the peace and include clergy from your in-law's church to do a blessing. Just because someone is blessing you, doesn't mean that you believe what they believe. I am a Christian, and I would happily take the blessings from anyone of any religion that wishes to gift me with such, I don't see it as being hypocritical at all. You could also include anyone that you look to for spiritual guidance.
It would be the same as if any two people with different religions marry. You have to find a way to incorporate both traditions without offending either. That is why a secular location with a justice of the peace will allow you to include both spiritual and Christian elements.
I would find a location that you love first, then pull your colors and themes from that. (PS - the posting above that said she was heavily using feathers sounds beautiful!).
2007-03-06 02:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm the same way, more spiritual than religious, well I would have an out doors wedding (depending on the weather) but if its good weather an outdoors wedding with a beautiful settings, surrounded by flowers and all of that, and a justice of the peace to do the ceremony.. It's your wedding, your day, and you do what makes you happy, everyone else just have to go along with it..
2007-03-05 23:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family is very strict in their beliefs, but I am not, neither is my fiance or his family. We have decided to marry in a registry office, and have my brother and my fiance's brother do a reading, a non religious poem cannot offend anyone. We will then have the pictures and the meal etc afterwards, we're just keeping it totally neutral and having music that we like rather than hymns.
I'm having a dream wedding, There is no theme, but feathers feature heavily on the invites and in my hair, my colours are peacock blue dress, cream flowers and accessories. I am not having any bridesmaids/flower girls/attendants/ring bearers etc. The special thing about it all is that my fiance and his friend (who are both chefs) are cooking our meal for us on the day.
2007-03-05 23:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're thinking of going to Vegas anyway, I suggest the Valley of Fire State Park. There are companies that will pick you up from your hotel room in Vegas and drive you and your party out there for a sunrise or sunset ceremony. It's beautiful and intimate.
My husband and I got married there in 2005, and we loved it. For a spiritual but not religious person, you'll probably really appreciate the spectacular views of nature at its best.
2007-03-06 04:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by calliope320 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are getting married on a cruiseship this summer. Neither of us are very religious but his parents are (mine are not). I have always wanted to get married on a cruiseship and my fiane has fallen for the idea as well. Having cruised before, my family is very game for the whole things. I was quite nervous about telling his parents and rightfully so at first. They were a little concerned about the idea but to my surprised, my fiance's mother is now the one trying to arrange all the details!!! It is going to be fabulous.
We are planning to have a reception (potluck barbeque) when we get home as it will only be parents and siblings on the cruise. I really believe that marriage does not have to have a religious context. You are marrying because you love each. If you want to be religious that is your choice.
Hope this gives you another idea.
Congrats!
2007-03-06 05:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by PAWS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am non-religious person and here is how I am getting married...
I am having the ceremony at a town gazebo and having my friend marry us. It's called a solemnization when someone who is not otherwise a priest, rev, or JP gets a certification for a day from your state's Governor. In Massachusetts it cost's $25. I am going to sit down with my friend and map out what she will say...
you could do that same thing but maybe you should keep them involved so that they feel their religion is included.
go here...http://www.sec.state.ma.us/pre/premar/marone.htm
2007-03-05 23:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither my wife nor I are religious, but members of our families are... We got married on the beach. It was a beautiful ceremony that eveyone loved. It was non-religious, but out in nature, which the religous people could enjoy as well.
2007-03-05 23:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by djstickylee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you totally faithless, not even an inkling of a consideration or curiosity that there might be something out there that is much bigger that all of us. Or are you just one of many who question the churches self declared monopoly on all things religious. I suggest that you give this some thought and equally give a lot of thought to the wishes of your parents and the grooms and his family. You are getting ready to stand before God, your groom and your entire combined families and freely give your most solemn vow of marriage. This is a vow that reaches to the very pit of your sole in which above all else YOU will not even consider breaking. A vow of that depth, has to fall into some spiritual thinking because you give your body, mind and sole to this endever, as does your groom. While I'm spouting off, There have been cases where people have been acquitted from MURDER charges because they were drunk at the time (believe it or not), How then could a man be held to a marriage vow he took when he was drunk...I've seen too many films on Americas Funniest Videos where the drunk Groom passes out in the ceremony. I think this is a disgusting display of disrespect for the whole proceedings.
2007-03-05 23:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
If you are not religious, PLEASE don't get married in a Christian church, as it is mocking the belief of those who worship there and believe in Christian marriage.
A Unitarian Church might be just the right thing for you. If his parents do not care that their son is marrying a non-believer they are probably nominal Christians, so being married in a church at all would probably satisfy them. (It is a good start, BTW, that you care about their feelings.)
The good thing for your situation about the Unitarians is they are said to "believe in everything, and believe in nothing," meaning that they accept all religious beliefs as equally valid.
It is fine if someone goes to a Unitarian church and calls themself a Christian, and it is fine if someone is an "energy" or "spiritual type" person, and it is equally fine if they consider themselves Jewish or Buddhist.
Good luck to you!
2007-03-05 23:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋