my sister seems to think that I have not thought about what comes along with getting married. There is a part of me that thinks she is jealous because she is 40 and unmarried.
2007-03-05 22:59:52 · 13 answers · asked by Soon2beMrs.B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i dont listen to what my family says when it comes to my personal life
2007-03-06 00:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Question 1, do you truly love him and want to be his wife?
Question 2, does he truly love you and want to be your husband?
Question 3, have both of you sat down and discusses what you want out of life as two seperate individuals and as a married couple (because it will no longer be just about one or the other but both)?
Question 4... if you have done all these things and you really believe in and are dedicated to the marriage... why are you worried about what others think? I had people asking me the same thing... some even started the "oh they must be expecting" rumor. Just follow your own heart and make the decision that you think is best for you. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-03-07 06:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first why do they think you are rushing into it? Are we talking about knowing someone for a few weeks or few months before you decided to walk down the aisle? Some people know after a few days or weeks. But there has to be a reason your family think you are rushing into this.
2007-03-06 07:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by firefly06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes an objective view is what's needed in these situations. Maybe they see something you don't see. The old saying, "You can't see the forest for the trees" may ring true here. Be cautious and ask them what their reservations are and don't rush into anything. What's your hurry?
2007-03-06 07:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by capnemo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At some point it might be a good idea to go to them with a datebook or a notebook in hand and ask point-blank, "how long is long enough?" In the event they give you a date you can live with, you've set the date; Congrats! If they can't, then they're just interfering for its own sake. Disregard and get on with your own life.
2007-03-06 07:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by dBalcer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Sis, I really appreciate that you're concerned about me and are looking out for me. But I really have thought this through. My fiance and I understand that there will be challenges ahead of us, some that we can't even begin to understand now. But we're prepared to tackle them together. I know that this is truly what I want to do, and I hope that you will support me in this decision."
2007-03-06 09:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her, and maybe think about what she is saying. Don't believe for a minute that she is jealous; she just has your best interests at heart.
2007-03-06 10:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family DID think this, I did not listen to their advice and went ahead and married anyway. 3 years later I was filing for divorce...so maybe it is good to listen to the advice, it does not mean you have to follow it, but at least consider that they are older and wiser. I wish I had listened!!!
2007-03-06 07:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe not exactly like that. perhaps she wants u to reconsider and think wisely before u do it. marriage is not something u can juz divorce after there's problem inside it. it is a serious matter and it will effected in ur own life. u should share and talk to ur sister and please be open to her words and opinions. it wont cost u anything coz the decision is in ur own hand. so i think its ok to be wiser and open. it can avoid "regrets" in ur life.
2007-03-06 07:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sis is no expert..that is for sure..but she is probably right and when your marrages is a flop guess who will be one of the first to say "i told ya so?" yeah right...that is a no brainer as look at the failure rate of most marriages..your chances of getting a happy marriage are very slim...but its your life...you just tell her this..?
yes, it was worth it if it only last one day..it was worth the happiness because now I had to give it a go...its my life sister
2007-03-06 07:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are firm abt the fact that you are truly in love with the guy and he also truly loves you, FORGET abt ur family. Run away if they dont accept it
2007-03-06 07:20:10 · answer #11 · answered by SidBridge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋