today when i talked with him on fone..he said that he don't love me at all...he feels very disturbed when he hears my voice...but there was a time when this guy wants to marry me...he wanted to leave his family just because of me...he loved me so much...but now from last 5-6 days he is totally changed...he says that he don't loves me.... why he is doing so...is he serious about this or he is just doing this because of his some personel problem which he don't wanna discuss with me....help me yaar
2007-03-05 22:48:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but he doesn't love u any more.
Know that it will be difficult for u not to phone him but don't.
It's over.
Am sorry girl.
Someone else will came soon to take his place.
2007-03-05 22:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Words of encouragement won't help at all if you don't prepare yourself to move out of it.
I think I amy be able to help you out. But for that we would need to communicate a bit more. Better mail me through yahoo answers. Trust me... All my friends ask for my opinion whenever they are stuck. Hope I would be able to guide you too.
I case you donot want t oget into the mailing stuff, you can still think about your present and your future. Someday, maybe your bf would miss you a lot and ask for apology. By that time you would have balanced your life. He would drop in again and disturb things again. It's better to just consider all that happenned as a passing phase of life. You don't need to try and forget about it. But rather think about the days, you were together. Try to estimate, that things could have been worse. Try to remember the incidents, were you pulled yourself out of few awkwards situations with you bf. There were times when you enjoyed together. Try to remember those moments. Think over them. At a point of time, you would find those moments as some stupid events of your life which actually never meant much to you.
That was a suggestion to move on. Time for a different fundamental. let's try to make up the things. Just let your bf know that it doesn't matter to you whether he loves you any more or not. Let him know that you have forgiven him for the heartbreak. Also ask him, whether his problems are really that big? Is a break off really required? Let him know that after all the commitments he made to you, and all the faith you had in him, it's difficult for you to really belive that there could be any such thing that could split you apart. make him feel the guilt. Let him feel the pain too. Not because he hurt you, but because he played with Love. maybe he would realize his fault and come back to you. Maybe he would start ignoring you.
I personally believe that a person who backs off from his commitments is not worthy. I would prefere to move away from such a person.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-06 15:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is serious than think about the following things>>>>>>>>
1) He said that he can leave his family 4 u- WHY? has he asked his parents that he loves one girl & want 2 marry her.If yes than kya usne tumhe apne parents se milvaya bcoz he will only leave his family when his parents are against this marrige & they have seen u or atleast tallllllkkkk on ph.
Baten toh is duniya ke 90% ladke ase hi karte hai jaisa apne likha but serious r only 5%-10% .. THey just use the girl 4 some time & after they do........has already happened 2 u. Just think about his saying & doings.
UR ques is PLEASE help me 2 forget him .
Now I tell u that 2 forget true love is nt tough but impossible.
As, I am also suffering from same prob. since last 4yrs, IT is too muchhhhhhhhh........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 07:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by ikshu g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people don't undstand depth of love,, for them it's just a time pass,, no matter how much u love him, he'll simply say goodbye when he is no more interested in this play on his part,,
It may be possible that some misundstanding is paining him,, if this is the case just ask him to talk ,, tell him ur heart,, if he really loves u he'll try to undstand but if he's more interested in saying it's over n u r nothing for me,,
just move away from from his life,, because some people hate "true love",, so give him just ur well wishes ,,
2007-03-06 07:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok 5-6 days is too soon to completely freak out. However if he could say something so hurtfull maybe it just isn't worth it anymore or you need to take a break and as hard as it is surround yourself with your girlfriends and go and have some fun and meet some new people
2007-03-06 06:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by Candy_8866 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds too immature if he can tell you that over the phone without an explanation!!
Don't call or text him, if its was a personal issue he will come back to you and explain the situation. But, what he did is a clear indication that things are coming to an end.....if not ready.
2007-03-06 06:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by loves_nature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he has some problem in his family. so give him some time so that he can sort out his problem & then think for u. if he really loves u he is sure to come back. b calm and ask him the reason for his behaviour. may b u r wrong somewhere and u r unknown to that. u can both talk once and solve it properly.
2007-03-06 07:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
poor baby, ok, the way i always get my mind off of a guy is praying. but if you are not into that kind of stuff then talk to your friends about it, if they are your true friends, they'll understand and help you with your problem. and if that doesn't work, then hang out with a different guy and try to become good friends with him so you can tell him things that you don't tell many other people.
2007-03-06 22:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by jesse's girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he tells you he doesnt want you you cant persue him
you need to cut him off and move on
men need distance to secure love you need to give him space and if he comes back then great but if he doesnt you know your answer you cant do anything to get him back anything you do will just push him further away
i know it may feel too soon but i find dating other guys helps me move on cause it stops me thinking about him
try joining a free dtaing website and just tlak to other guys
dont hound him or he will get nasty
just cause he said he wasnt to marry you doesnt mean he did
he might have been forcing himself to do what he thought would make you happy
they do change their minds instantaniously and for no reason it seems take it from me i know
you have to take what he said at face value and move on i know its hard but the longer you prolongue it the longer you will take to get over it
move on you have to be practical now
and from my experience the next one is always better than the last
i guarantee
2007-03-06 07:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by leelu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him then have faith on him.I think he is just passing bad time which he dont want ur involvement.Try to leave him alone 4 some times,let him settled his problems ,m sure he will come back to u n explain everything.Till then NO CALLS,NO SMS,NO E-MAIL OK????wait n watch!! if he really dont try to contact u then it means he is not made 4 u.
Its HARD to forget but not IMPOSIBLE.
2007-03-06 11:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a family he's probally founded out that he shouldn't mess with anyone else and stay with his wife and kids. He's probally not the speical someone. Try looking for someone else. Try hanging out with your friends, like bowling or something. Keep yourself enteriment and hopefully you'll forget him. O yeah, don't go to were y'all use to go to during dating. I hope you feel better.
2007-03-06 06:59:52 · answer #11 · answered by Robby M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋