Do you think my man's cheating on me?

Question

i have a fiancee. wev'e been together for close to three yrs. all we do is go to work and come home. we spend the weekends together, but during the week days. he claims he's tired and has to wake up at midnight. i know for a fact. he does work long hours. and my ex boss. informs me that all he does is work. i feel like he has no time for our relationship and he grumpy. i do keep close tabs on my man. but he does not know this. how can i keep my relationship, where he won't get bored or has he found someone else?

every great once in a while, i over look a lot of things (in front of him), so i wont be insecure, and he also tells me that im probaly with some one else because he sees our relationship where i wont argue with him. we talk about a lot of things besides whats in front of us

Answer 1

Wow,you are possesive..jealous and not very trusting..people do get tired and grumpy......when they are treated like that..give the guy a break..don't worry about being cheated on until after it happen ...100% innocent until caught with the pants down if you want it to last...stop spying..that's just wrong..

Answer 2

Close tabs like that are only signs of insecurity really. Trust your man because trust is the foundation of a good relationship. Is there a reason he's working so much? IE to pay for the wedding, honeymoon, ring, debts, house down payment or any reasons? You should talk to him about not working so much. If he's working so much he shouldn't be getting bored with you at all. He should be cherishing all the time he can spend with you when he gets a chance as long as he's able to sleep still. Take it from me I have been working my @ss off for years now and it does take a toll on a relationship and really puts it through a test. Not only that it never seems like you have time to do anything and when you finally get a day off your so exaughsted you just crash. Don't work your youth away hahah.

Answer 3

Hey there,
Sorry everyone is not defending you here! I agree with them that it is wrong you dont trust him or give him the benefit of the doubt, but he should also show you a little effort despite being tired. Every weekday using tired as an excuse means one is lame and/or already half dead. He should get a cup of coffee and fire up those sheets! Do you really want to spend a life with this person if it is going to be this way? If you dont trust him, do NOTTTT marry him. Trust is absolutely one of the hugest factors in any successful relationship or partnership. Dont give up hope but sit down and have a long talk and if that doesnt improve the situation, seek counseling...on both issues- effort toward intimacy and trust. My bf works extremely hard but we make love almost everytime I visit, including during the week. Best of luck! :)
PS: He's not cheating but he probably needs a new job if hes always grumpy!!

Answer 4

You said yourself that he's had to work long hours lately, and that would make anybody tired and grumpy. It's not like he's going out with the guys & doesn't have time to put into the relationship. He's working to pay the bills. Try to spend early mornings together or have a specific date night for the 2 of you to get out of the house together. It will do you a world of good if you both start paying more attention to your marriage.

Answer 5

Relax. Your man needs his rest. do you ever give him a back rub to help him relax to go to sleep? Men have a thing, when they work, some of them like to work more than others. Longer than others. It's the "provider" part of them. Or a workaholic. Please, just on a weekend day, sit down with your man, and let him know how you feel. That you don't want him to be bored with you, or the relationship you two have. Please, don't make a really big deal about it, just talk , and listen to what he has to say. If you want things to get better, instead of talking with him to staart, or even if you do, make a weekend day a day to do something different, not routine. Go on a picnic, go to the beach, or a park, or where ever. Take your man out to lunch for fun sometimes. Maybe make up some fun coupons for the two of you. One could offer him a massage by candle light, a romantic candle light dinner, etc. Use your imagination, and the knowledge you have of the things he likes. Please, relax, enjoy your man. He sounds like a good guy. Take care.

Answer 6

From the little you have mentioned, I think it is hard to tell but only you know best. You keep your tabs on him, So what does your info say? As a man, I'd say try to keep things interesting. Go back to the basics. What made him laugh or smile or even turned him on a little. Don't give to much of yourself however. Make sure you get a little back in return.

Answer 7

Be understanding that he works long hours and needs you to trust him. Then you wont have to worry about losing your relationship. Has he done something that warrants all the distrust and keeping tabs on him? If not--

Answer 8

midnight is a tough shift not to be grumpy..it really screws up your sleep pattern even on the weekend

both my wife and i have had our turns at this graveyard shift and it eventually takes a toll on your emotional health as well as your regular health.

if you are not happy with his actions then explain that you are tired of his grumpy actions and he can change shifts or change women..its just that simple..why should you be miserable?
it sounds like you are on the insecure side anyway..maybe you are doing him a favor if you break up.

Answer 9

The fact that you say you "keep close tabs" on your man tells me that You are the one with the issues.Try counselling or you will ust keep pushing men away with your jealous behavior..
This ones on you.

Answer 10

I don't think he's cheating. I think he's being honest and he is just tired. Still you can't put up with that because you will end up doing your head in. Only you know what the best thing to do is whether you work on it or end it.