please help me to solve my mental stress?

Question

I am graduate and working in a company I was married in the age of 22 to a person where they said that he had studied bsc., bbm later came to know that he has not finished his pu also I thought it education would not cause any misunderstanding and ignored it but he had a habit of alcholic consumption and cigrette which really irritated me I still tried to adjust with him but later last few months back he was hospitalised for a month due to brain hamarage and doctor suggested not to take any more alchol & cigars but he did not now while searching something I got his old medical reports where he had some mental disorder & was taking medicine for it I am 24 now dont wheather its good to conceive now or not with all such problems but I really feel to have a kid because atleast with the coming child the peaceful relation would arise between myself and my husband he is also mental harrassing me a lot but my parents says try to adjust whatever it is what shall I do please help me

Answer 1

Rashmi i think that u don't talk to him only for 2 days ,don't do anything for him and after it ur husband wiil come to right path

Answer 2

If your relationship is not working out and you don't wanna leave him seek help from a marriage counselor. Otherwise your better off with someone else, but talk him first to see if he is still willing to commit to you. A child would not help your relationship, maybe in the short term but you cant cover your problems up with a child. ask yourself if its worth bringing a baby into a world with its parents having problems. If you decide to leave him remember your still young and can remarry and conceive with someone more supportive and reliable. Most importantly of all ask yourself where you would be better off and be more happier, in a marriage with a unreliable and lying husband or waiting a little longer and finding someone else. also consider what is best for the child you are willing to have. Finally your parents are wrong you don't have to adjust and change for him, you shouldn't need to be unhappy to make others proud, do what you think is best and not what anyone else thinks.

Answer 3

i could say seeing a psychologist can be a reliable theory. the stress of being a pupil could properly be truly confusing each now and then. As for being a reliable motivator on your friends, i understand the feeling because it truly is my function im my team of friends and flow through an identical issue each now and then. Your perfect wager is to save your chin up. inspect your self contained in the mirror and quite of questioning undesirable issues, imagine about posisitive issues. you're a reliable man or woman, you're literally not a failure. issues receives more suitable positive. And until eventually then, it would not damage to ordinary a candle and take a warm bath to reieve pressure. continuously works for me! reliable luck!

Answer 4

Please join some religious sect either Sai Baba mission or a mission known SGI, if u are residing in delhi, I would give u a number 9810017782 - Sangeet, one of leaders of SGI residing in Gurgaon - call her and ask about SGI - They are very good at praying with u and guiding u to pray. U will get guidance as u start praying for solving ur problem. Hope u will soon get relief from ur predicament. Prayer will solve all ur problems.

Answer 5

u see u must first think whether he is right for u. then plz think that he has done a fraud and on that he also never told u abt his habits and his disorder. u should be knowing that ur life now may be stable but think later on when u have ur baby and this man drinks and smokes in front of them what will their impression abt him be? and inhaling smoke decreases life span so its not good for ur child too. and if u haven't been able to adjust with him till now then how will it be possible later on?

Answer 6

No, you should never conceive in this situation. Try to solve the problem yourself. Don't get the child involve in this. You should have some good friend to share your things. He will help you to come over these problems.

Answer 7

Go to Alanon and learn how to deal with living with an alcoholic.
You need the support before you make any decisions.
Meanwhile,don't try to get pregnant yet,it won't "fix" things.

Answer 8

Don't look for children to solve a bad relationship ---very UNFAIR to child. You made your choice, now you have to live with it....sorry about that, it's not easy, but another reason you don't want to have a child with him is his mental illness ----the child will have it too.

Answer 9

just don't go for kids..as now ur relationship is not gud n wat abt future, a man who had mental disorders n had gone to te hospital due to bran hammrage, how can u find a secure life with him ahead. I didn't mean that u leave him but don't go for a child, if something will happen, ur life will be hell. u have along life ahead..don't mess it.

Answer 10

Sever the ties with this man. He has disrespected you from the beginning. If you stay with him your life will continue to be disrespected as your future child's will. Good luck.