My friend keeps telling me that she can't believe I've never had a boyfriend. I tell her that I never have found a christian gentleman in which to go out with. What do you think?
2007-03-05 21:11:34 · 37 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Friend my 1st wife died in 1989, I though I would never marry again, I was 40, We had been maried 21 yrs. I met a sweat little Christian lady in our church that also was a widow, I never knew she was a widow, let alone her name, Our church is big, But One Day God spoke to my heart & said, There is your wife to be. I was never so nervous, so as Time went On we started dating & I ask her to married me in Sept. & she said Yes, then we set our wedding date on March 16, th & we will be married this month 16 years, & not one time have we ever disagree with the scriptures. Good Luck to you & wait upon God, God will send someone.
2007-03-05 21:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with it.
I think peoples expectations about relationaships are very different from each other.
Perhaps your friend is caring about you, and she puts herself in your place, and thinks that it must be terrible not to have shared love in that way SHE thinks.
Its really about what YOU feel and think.
And if you are waiting for Mr Perfect, im sure hes out there somewhere waiting for you as well...
Just be carefull...he might be just be in front of you, and you dont realise it before its too late:-)
Have a good time!
2007-03-05 21:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by samantha21it 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People's interpretation of someone never having had a significant other is that of a person who doesn't socialise very much.
In having a boyfriend/girlfriend, it's assumed that that person has had a lot of friends/social contact, from which they have found someone special that they would consider a boyfriend/girlfriend. By never having one, people (rightly or wrongly) assume that that person has not socialised enough.
It's usually enough to dispell the stigma by explaining that you've not found anyone suitable. There's no need to go into details - depending on who you're trying to explain it to, this could open up a whole lot of other stigmas.
2007-03-05 21:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by k² 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Our instinct to find a mate and reproduce is determined by nature. To subjugate this fundamental part of your being by restricting your pool of potential mates to a limited group created by religious rules is to deny the very purpose of your existence.
A great aunt of mine spent most of her life as a member of the Plymouth Brethren and later the Exclusive Brethren. She believed that God would find her the right man but she died a virgin without close family and abandoned by the evil home breaking Brethren.
2007-03-05 21:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Clive 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tulip: To yourself be true. Too many people rush from one doomed relationship into the snasres of another disaster. They become huut, cynical and selfish. Maybe you will find a suitable partner, maybe not. Try to judge the real person and not the shell. That person who is right for you may not even be religious, but I imagine he would have to be spiritual. (Christ in the middle of life). Good luck.
2007-03-05 21:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Sparticus 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Howsabout going on a church social? Or else use one of the christian dating sites. Hobbies and interests are also a good ice-breaker.
2007-03-05 21:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by mesun1408 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is your choice whether you want a man in your life or not. It's not big deal because you are single. You aren't the only single woman on earth. Tell your friend not to worry about it.
2007-03-05 21:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you haven't found anyone out there yet, then that's okay. If she is your friend, then she should be considerate of your personal life - whatever choices you make. Maybe she feels superior by comparing you to others who do have partners.
2007-03-05 21:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by Presea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey,each to there own as long as you're happy.Maybe the right man will come along one day.Usually does for every one it's wether you choose to go with it or not.Who cares what other people think.
2007-03-05 21:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Looneylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is in disbelief, then her disbelief is her own problem. =)
If you are happy as you are, then why make a deal out of finding someone? As it seems, you are letting God bring a husband to you instead of you going out there and looking. Probably a good way to do it anyways as God knows best!
2007-03-05 21:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋