my love got married,but want me to indulge in intimate relations. what shall i do to avoid him?

Question

my boyfriend worked with me in same office. i dont want to loose my jaob. but now he got married. i tried my best to avoid him and brake the relationship. but he was not ready. he kept on talking o me. Now he not only want me to get in touch with him but also indulge in intimate relations. although i past i denied. he wants me to meet regularly i refused . now whenever i met him he tried to make relation with him. what he want from me . i raelly dont know pls sugget me. what should i do? should i braak all realtion with him or continue the relationship.

Answer 1

break it off i think you know in your heart that what he is trying to do how would that make you feel if you husband did that to you i am not trying to blame but you need to break it off its for the best he is scum and he doesnt deserve you or her so tell him that you know he is doing wrong and you dont want any part of it do it as best you can without hurting your job just be nice about it and see how it goes good luck

Answer 2

If you only now see him in the office let him know you are very uncomfortable with the situation. This is very unproffessional of him.
Make sure you make it clear you are no longer interested in any kind of contact outside of a proffessional matter.
He is a married man and that you will not submit yourself to his own turmoil. It is not fair to all parties involved, even the one who is not aware of this.
The problem can also get resolved by dealing with upper management.
Bringing it to his new wife will just cause you a headache you really don't need. There will be alot of denial on his part, which will make the work enviroment harder.
As far as keeping in touch, you can not allow it outside of any work relations. Do not allow him to discuss personal matters with you of any sort. That will keep all doors open for further closeness.
Once you show him you are going to stand your ground he will back off.
I know this will be emotionally hurtful for you, but you will be better off in the long run.
Start with a night/ day for yourself or the girls. This will make the process easy for you.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

ok. do no longer cry. If a guy cares for you and has a solid coronary heart he won't go away you over a dermis condition. i could advise you no longer point out it until you recognize he's intense. Then i could have your mom tell his mom. you could instruct his mom so she would be able to assist settle on or perhaps tell him, i don't understand islamically in case you have a distinctive-up photograph taken (I mean, one that would not instruct the place that's, close sufficient that it must be any area of somebody's physique) or no longer, yet you should instruct his mom a minimum of. If each and every little thing else is going properly, with a bit of luck this isn't a difficulty are you able to exfoliate? Use a loofah/leefeh? extra moisturizer? Does something make it worse (specific ingredients)? you could try countless issues to make it extra effective, extraordinarily for the 1st evening :) yet without understanding the call of your condition, that's puzzling to assert what could paintings suitable, fairly. solid luck to you and could God provide you an information husband.

Answer 4

U know the guy is very cunning. You shud stop any contact with him. Completely ignore him. I know its impossible since u're working together but if u try, you can do it. If u're walking and he comes your way, avoid him by goin the other way. Try not to be alone in the ofis. Always mingle around and never response to him. Maybe he'll get the message and stop harassing you. But if that doesn't work, go to your superior and tell them bout his harassment. It's better that he loses the job then you. So take care and be brave

Answer 5

come on yaar this man is really not worth of any relation. he's not only trying to do wrong with u but is also ditching his wife who is completely innocent and is unaware of all these things. plz don't be the reason of anybody's sorrow. i think u should break all the realtionships with him and tell him face to face ur decision.i think thats right. just remember today he's cheating on his wife bcoz of u, tomorrow he can cheat u for somebody. he surely doesn't luv u, otherwise he would have not married someone else.

Answer 6

You know what you should do
If you have any difficulty ask yourself this ?
he choosed another woman over me, why ?
Because in his mind you either not wife material or he does not love you enough to spend the rest of his life with

Answer 7

don't detroy ur self, if he has loved u why he didn't get married to u. Just leave him n tell him if he will disturbu u ever u will call her wife n wld telll her everything abt ur relation.

Don't get hurt n understand that he is not made for u, he really wants to be lucky one at home n one at office..forget him

Answer 8

Pls dont continue this relationship.I think, now y r a single that'swhy he was
thought like that.If you are getting marriage he wont disturbe y.
it is better that y should avoid dating with him.tell frankly to him that y r not
interested that relationship.y must avoid this & live peacefully

Answer 9

Pls.brake/stop all relationship with him...If he is really serious then why he didn't marry you....means after marry somebody he wanted to use you just for sex..... and if you continue this relationship he is going to spoil your image,your life later it could affect your job as well....and one way or the other you are going to spoil his home/family...later every body would blame you....as .".You break their home"...etc.

Answer 10

Break it off! It was cruel of him to marry someone else while dating you. If he won't let go, threaten to phone his wife. Tell him that he cannot have his cake and eat it too.