what goes around comes around?

Question

this is a bit cryptic but too long to explain all the facts! if a family member has been appalling to you and not done right by your kids(their flesh and blood also) and you have believed in karma for that person, then something happens to them where you can choose the outcome, and you could either think serves you right or be mega forgiving and help them, but put yourself at risk of upset and harrassment if they let you down again(the trust has gone, as this has happened in the past) what would you do?

Answer 1

I wouldn't help them. They know what they have done to you and your kids and didn't stop to think about you. If people are horrible to others then they should expect no help. They will let you down again if they have been like this all their life. Would they help you if the situation was reversed? I doubt it. Don't feel guilty.

Answer 2

You actually answer you own question. The righteous and forgiveness is the main key of our lives, and although, we can't control the out come ones lesson. You assure it will be very effective and perhaps even hurtful. If it is hurtful then, this is what the one deserves...

You had done righteous to forgive. Although, the same nasty game was play again, don't hold a knife to your throat, because you have shown to be a honesty person. You are going to do what you do best keep that strong you have in your heart.

You won't seek revenge, but you will be cautions of next time. You won't hate the person, but you will pray and watch how your prayer become to life. Mostly, if possible, prevent this from happening to anyone else. Don't allow this person to play the same ugly portrayal game on anyone else.

The more you allow your heart to be broken by this person, the more you are allowing the person to twist you apart, and that won't happen! Right!! Never put faith in people, but understand their (stupid) faults, because we all have them. Keep this person in your prayers, because prayers get answer(s) in many many ways, even to the point where you will jump for joy. Talk to Christ,

God Bless

Answer 3

I've been going through this this past couple of years, & I am still really hurting inside cos an awful lot of really nasty things have been done & said to hurt me (& my family) & I go between wanting revenge (I am comtemplating chucking red paint over her house), or saying nothing (like I usually do!)
You can only stand so much! If no-one ever stops their awful behaviour, they swan through life thinking ha ha.
Forgive, forgive, forgive, everyone's saying BUT that is so hard to do when their words are ringing in your head, putting you on a major downer all day, everyday, & you're still struggling with putting back the pieces smashed by their deliberate, very antagonistic actions!
I know I wont do the paint thing! I want to do it!! Does that make me a bad person? Oh, what hell is this? This is all crazy s...t!
I'm sick of this person. I never, ever want anything to do with her again. I know she'll be back to use me, & trash me again...
Guess the only thing I can do is say NO, NEVER AGAIN! & truly mean that.

Answer 4

If this has happened in the past and the trust has gone you have to be strong 4 your kids also 4 yourself NO ONE has the right to disrespect you or your family . If your worried about the backlash (and you should not have to) try and distance yourself from that person and let the rest of your family know whats going on , but if all that fails CONTACT THE POLICE they are there to help

Answer 5

If we forgive someone we experience peace but if not we could be eaten up by resentment and maybe ideas for revenge. If someone hurt my son or daughter I would find it hard to forgive them but I would try and work towards it I think although it may take some time

Answer 6

id distance myself not put my kids or myself in danger or through trauma again maybe u need to contact the police. Just because u dont help them or become involved in that cycle again doesnt mean ur a bad person but dont have bad thoughts for them just dont think about them at all

Answer 7

I would keep my integrety as to how I treat people. You can be a good example to your children and help this person. Yes, he or she may let you down again. You can't control how others act, but you can control your own behavoir.

I don't need to hear your long story since I have been there too. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

i think if something bad has been done that u have 2 ask yourself a question like that then id go with the serves you right choice, no matter who they are,especially if its family as they are the ones who are supposed to never do anything displeasing or hurtful.just move on

Answer 9

hi there if you stress youre self out about what ever they have done then you are going to make youre self ill .....if you decide to go ok that is the last time you get away with that and do not go in there with both guns blazing but just decide in youre heart and head that you have had enough then you have decide to move on it is up to them to feel guilty and deal with there actions sometimes in life you have to take a step back and then decidde to move on and let them get on with there lifes no matter how we have tried tpo help them and support them ......good luck and take carexx

Answer 10

yes, forgive whoever is doin whatever theyr doin to your kids i mean they are family or maybe you shouldn't listen to my advice i mean when i was in middle school i think it was sixth grade i had some family problems my parents were devoriced since i was 5 and i had a hard time in school but mostly in math because i hated math and my math teacher because he thought i was little miss perfect and i didn't have a hard time at home but i did and my math teacher would treat my like sh*t and make me feel bad about being alive and stuff but then i went to scince and that teacher made me feel the same way but not as much as my math teacher but then i went to social studie after lunch and that teacher was my most favoritest teacher because i felt like she understood me and i didn't tell her i was going through a hard time (it was so hard for me because i wanted full custody with my dad and my mom flipped out on me) but i think she could see it in my eyes that my life was so hard and i think she really cared so you take the path your heart tells you to take : )