my boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years and we're really serious with our relationship. One day we were at his house and He wants to get intimate with me, i dont want to do it coz his sister is right in front of us. so He wants me to go to his room with him, for me it was something unethical. Im his girlfriend, I know that but having sex in his room with his sister knowing it is really unappropriate. Id like to spare some dignity for myself. so I said No! and he said I was stupid! and asked me to leave. i didnt expect him to say that, I thought he'd understand. I was hurt and so I left their house, what do you think? is he a keeper? or should I just leave him? I love him, i know he loves to me too, but the way he treated, I just cant accept that, coz it really hurts. need help please.. give me some advice
2007-03-05 20:57:05 · 11 answers · asked by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Has he ever done anything like that before, in the 2 years you have been dating? Am wondering why he would want to have sex with you right in front of his sister. That in its self is very odd.
The fact that he asked you to leave is normal, he was hurt. Give him a chance to get over the hurt feelings. if you have been together for 2 years, you shouldn't let one hurt full incident break you up. If it happens on a regular basis, then yes you should say good bye to him.
2007-03-05 21:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 - In front of his sister?!? #2 Asked you to leave because of your discomfort?!? #3 Called you "Stupid"?!? All of these are major disrespect. I am willing to bet that if you look over the past 2 years you find many instances of this kind.
Please relieve yourself of this situation, this "man". He isn't a man at all. These are things that will lead to heartbreak of the worst kind and I think the mere fact that you are asking is the answer to your question. Not only is he not the one for you, he isn't fit for any decent female of any species.
2007-03-06 05:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think this guy is totally dumb. u were right to leave his house.i mean it was totally wrong from his side to tell u like this. i think any girl who has self respect would behave the way u did. but if u really luv him and even he luvs u then i will advice u to have a talk with him on this topic face to face.all the confusions will go away(if there is any).
2007-03-06 05:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nivs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him about it. let him know how u felt about what happened and how he treated u. give him a chance to apoligised or sumthin. if he goes off all b.s.ing u then i'd say jus dump him cuz u were rite in not letting urself in being in that position that nite and he has no rite in disrespecting u like that just for not wanting to do sumthin u are uncomfortable with doin. hopefully he realize his mistake and start apolising and making it up to u.
2007-03-06 05:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. RNC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
felt very sad....
ask him the reason behind this behaviour?
u didnt mentioned regarding ur marrage?
if u r geting marry then whats hurry to have sex in front of sister?
tell him to have patience in him...
as u love each other dont create a misunderstandings among u...
try to know him better with his nature and intention and then think over...coz next time if he behaves same then seems to be wrong..
take care
2007-03-06 05:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by sai 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. Im sorry this is going to hurt if he loves you he won't push you. My friends scott and jessica having been dating 3 years and never had sex. He has asked and she said shes needed more time and he has waited. I would leave him right now. Your not ready and if he doesn't respect that he doesn't respect you
2007-03-06 05:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by charlie2182 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is harsh
You do not deserve such an inappropriate behavior . You are a good person I think because you did the right thing . It is very disgusting to have sex with a person in front of her/his family . So you did the right thing do not worry . If he keeps on behaving rudely you may split up . .. . .: . .. :. . : .. : :. : :. :: : . . : . . . :: .. .
2007-03-06 05:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
any guy that tells u that u r stupid, for whatever reason, is NOT a keeper! if he is telling u this over sex he absolutely does not respect u and should b dropped as soon as possible. that he asked u to leave is just as bad and only emphasises his lack of respect for u. if he loved u he would understand, or at the least he would just accept that u r not comfortable with it. i have a similar story...one time many years ago a bf of mine wanted to have sex b4 taking me home after taking me out for my birthday and i didnt want to...he wanted to stop at this little park nearby my house and i didnt feel comfortable doing that and i said no. it was my birthday n the last thing i wanted was to get busted by the cops. he argued with me in the driveway (like thats gonna get me in the mood!) at my home n was so mad that he told me to get the f*** out of his car! i was so surprised and offended that he would act like this that imade the decision that i couldnt b with him and said back to him "u want me to get the f*** out of ur car? fine. dont call me again." and i got out of his car and went inside my house. he tried calling, apologizing, even brought me flowers, but a bunch of guilt-ridden flowers arent enough to buy me back. i accepted his apology but i didnt see him the same as i had b4 and told him that he ruined it n just has to deal with that. he also wanted to b friends after, but i dont need friends like that, a real friend wouldnt have that type of reaction in them. it was tough, but i was proud of myself for handling things the way i had. make the decision to keep ur self respect and ditch this guy, seriously, u will thank urself later. u may love him but there r lots of other guys u can be with that will treat u far better than this and that will love u the way u want and deserve to b loved. this guy is viewing u as his property, thats why he got so mad. something (womanly intuition?) tells me he doesnt let u hang out with ur friends or gives u a hard time for hanging out with ur friends...break up with this jerk and rekindle ur friendships, it will keep ur mind off of him, or at least it will b something for u n ur friends to bond over lol, thers nothin like a good friend when dealing with a break up. hes gonna try to get u back with him, and he will apologize, cry, call u, and write u letters...but u dont owe him anything. he made the choice to act the way he did and has to live with the consequences. u dont have to give him a second chance, u dont have to "just b friends" and u dont have to put up with guys like this. i hope u do the right thing and leave this guy while u still have ur dignity, cuz it sounds like u have high standards for urself and u shouldnt compromise them for him. stay strong n good luck :)
2007-03-06 05:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by carmen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He felt rejected and hurt because he did not share your idea of modesty, and evidently you never discussed it before. I think you should make that all about you, get mad at him for having feelings and ideas that don't jive 100% with yours, and then leave him.
2007-03-06 05:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he doesnt love u.......... he was lookin for some.. and didnt get it that hurt his pride..........so he asked u to leave... for all u know he had a bet with his sis to see if he'd get " some" nah hes not a keeper..................if he cant respect ur needs.. hes not worth it.............. run !
2007-03-06 05:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by I V X 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋