a guy that like asked me to go out with him?

Question

okay heres my story:

this guy that i like is a high school friend of mine. ever since in high school, we always went out. sometimes with our common friends and sometimes just the two of us. i didnt give much meaning to that of course coz we're just teens then. whats sweet is that he didnt forget me till college. he always invites me whenever our common friends have plans. but a common friend of ours emailed me saying that he(this guy that i like) plans on courting me. at first i was flattered coz all those years when we were in highschool did have a meaning lol. but im worried coz we haven’t seen each other for a long time. i am fat now lol. i was slim then when we were going out in high school.

so one time, he (the guy that I like) sms me, asking if im free. but i made all sorts of excuses: i have acne(, i have work, etc :(. and then he sounded disappointed.

if only i could tell him the true reason that i am hesitant of not going out with him coz im not pretty anymore, he wont like me . since then, he didn’t sms me anymore.

two years have passed. i focused on my work. had some short-time-not-so-real relationships. but every time i come home from work, i still think of him. i think he’s just enjoying his manhood lol.

to cut the long story short, i got an sms from him last week and he asked me if im free this coming weekend. yehey! lol. he still remembers me . then i texted back “i will see through my schedule”. “i will text you if there’ll be no conflict with my sched.” (see how coward i am haha). and then he said he’s free every weekend.

so should I go out with him or not?

if i go out with him, there will be a possibility of rejection. i know him since were in high sch, he likes slim girls lol.

or if i don’t go out with him, i will save myself from rejection but forever carry these regrets .

thanks for reading my story yeah, and sorry if im having a hard time expressing myself through this. thank you yahoo answers lol.

Answer 1

just go out with him! lol. :)

if he's been wanting you for years, he wouldn't be that shallow and judge you from your looks. he understands that you've changed over the years but prepare him a bit before meeting up with him. tell him you've gained some weight and you're not as beautiful as you used to. *wink*
see where things go from there. ;)

being overweight is a great time to find the person who'll love you no matter what! :)

Answer 2

I think what attracted him to you was your personality not your physical looks. Why are you depriving yourself from love or being loved. You have nothing to loose & an attactive guy to gain what more could you want? Everyone of us fear's rejection as much as others like to hide ti's true, so give this guy & your heart a chance you know that it would crush you to see him with another girl walking by laughing his heart out. I read your story & from what i've concluded you adore this guy & vise versa. Why would he bother after such a long while decide to see if your free so you guys could go out!

Answer 3

I know girls need to feel beautiful, but your self worth shouldn't be so heavily based on your looks. You hung out with him. You're friends. Theres a good chance hes remembering that more. If you say no then the answer is already no. If you like him back then give it a shot and if it doesn't work out then maybe it was your looks, maybe it was something else. Either way you shouldn't base your self worth on your looks and you shouldn't kill it before it has a chance to survive.

Answer 4

omg, it's so sad these's days where women have sooo many body issues and think that guys will only like them if there stick thin, i know coz im one of them, and hell do i wish i was stick thin...i totally understand what u mean, you don't wanna go, incase he sees u and thinks omg shes so ugly now, but u do really wanna go because all u do is think bout him and if you don't go you will neva know what could have happened and it'll be in the bak of ur mmind forevaa...
GIRLL just go, DO IT...u said in high school that he likes slim girls, well high school is way way ova...his not a teen anymore, he now has some brains...JUSTT GOO!!!

Answer 5

You should send him a picture first and then ask him if he is still interested. I think that the outer doesnt matter... I think that he might have met some hot but not awesome chicks and realised that your character is what he wants. Why fear rejection???? You have nothing to lose my dear and if he cant accept you for who you are then he isnt even worth your time.

Answer 6

Tell him you are able to go out.......

Don't let yourself be your biggest roadblock to a great guy, which it sounds like he is. Go for it and stop pushing him away from you. That is what you are doing, pushing him away......guys already have a hard enough time asking us, so by your rejection doesn't make it easier for him in the future......He isn't always going to be there for you to reject....

Answer 7

Do as we do in the Philippines, tell him the situation or you will lose him!
Then eat plenty of rice with a third of a cup of soup on it for flavor, I lost 35 lbs in one year and feel full all the time!
I had little or no exercise!

Answer 8

depends "how fat" you are . I suggest you go to the gym and lose some kilos . My friend ( a girl) lost a lot of fat by going to the gym in just a month , its unbelievable .

Answer 9

If he asked you out, you must be attractive to him. Just go out with the guy already!

Answer 10

no one's gonna read ALL of that.

if he asks you out, he likes you, go out with him. he was probably scared to ask you becuase of what you'd say. you are horrifying him haha.