I am. My baby boy just turned a year on the 20th, and started to walk today. Not just afew steps, but he just literally stood himself up and started to walk. On one hand, I'm ecstatic and so proud of him. On the other, I want to cry and am sad because my baby is no longer a helpless infant and cuddling will be on his terms now. As a baby, I loved to just sit there and hold him. Now he moves too much. I am happy, but also sad and questioning why God puts us as mothers through this. We want our babies to stay little for longer than this, but they won't stop growing!! Or learning, or developing, or talking (yes, he's saying words and knows who the people are around him by title "mama, dada, his sister's name, gamma, gampy".) How can I let go and allow him to grow without being so selfish?
2007-03-05 20:20:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not from the ME. I'm born and raised American, as many of the Irish/German ancestors of mine are.
2007-03-05 20:34:18 · update #1
He has a three year old sister who loves him a lot and is always playing with him.
2007-03-05 20:38:32 · update #2
First Of all congrates for him being able to walk now mashAllah, You should be happy and hey there is still lot of struggle left and you would forget this sadness.....you know i was also thinking the same when my only nephew has started walking but you see now i have lot more to think of regarding him becuase now he is grown up and is 4 and half i don't remember any moment that he has not given us trouble and thats troubles are just lovely..now he is going to school so my sis in law has an other motive in life..it would go on like this ...these feelings are temproray and do pray for him to grow up soon becuase he has to give you even more joys with and his cute and lovely mischieves and talks....believe me sis :)
2007-03-05 20:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by ★Roshni★ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good mother, and you are going through what all loving mothers go through. Maybe God puts mothers through this because it is a reflection on some level of our relationship to God. Religions often use the metaphor of the relation between God and human as between a loving mother and a wayward child. (NOT that your child is wayward!) But anyway, this is strong imagery, because it draws on the purity of the love of the mother. I don't think it's selfish, but actually maybe the opposite. It is not so much that you desire to be loved, but you desire to give love. A desire to give love seems anything but selfish to me. Realize that love takes many forms, and as your little boy grows, your way of showing him your love will change according to his needs. I think you will adjust and do just fine!
2007-03-05 20:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not mrried, not a father yet.. and might never be.. but I can tell you.. sure I can tell. till now.. I still need my Mother's care, she gives me Advice and everything good.. God will replace your Joy with your baby with another great joy one day: HIS baby! When he marries and give his son to you.. you feel something difference.. When my Older brother gave his son to Mama, I saw her look, I remmeber, I remmeber very well how she held him and cuddeled him.
I'm Egyptian, in My country there's a proverb says: Nothing beats the love of a mother to a kid, save his kid!
You are still able to cuddle him, take him to school, help him with homework, be proud of yourself lady Proud! you've just made a man.
You'll help him to choose his clothes later, you'll help him to pray, He's still with you, Cuddling has just been transfered to another limit.
He'll always stay young in your eyes, trust me.. You should be proud, it is not easy to raise ababy.. potty-train him, learn him to speak. You've done an excellent Job.
One day you will be the one who needs cuddeling by him, that's why kids grow. It'll be your turn to have some care.
Another thing, you're still young, you might have another baby.. untill then, be happy and proud of your child.. and Thank God he's with you.
Mothers suffer, it's true, 'cause God made them to himself.. to accomplish his peaceful mission.. God says to Mosses after a series of suffering in Taha Verse: "I've made you for myself; you are My eye".
That is the story of any mother.. and that's why they have "Heavens under their feet".. Enjoy the coming interval with your kid and teach him new words. You wanna Cry? you bet I can make you laugh? Teach Him how to say: L O A A N C E OV ARAYa :D.
Good Luck...
2007-03-05 21:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank God they grow up and become independent! God has rightly decided that we need our own personal freedom and I personally can't imagine I will like the fact to have a 1-year-old not growing for my whole life, especially when I am old and will need care myself.
And it's so much fun to see your children develop, start to talk, then to reason and then to have conversations like grown-up people and if you're lucky, then they become your friends for life. Accept what God has devised because it's the best for us!
2007-03-05 20:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by petyado 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It would be much more dishearting to you if he was 20 years old and still sitting on your lap and wanting to be cuddled. Talk about struggle of the spirit, that is the one that is happening today in the spiritual realm, no one wants to grow up and become mature in God.
2007-03-05 20:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my advise to you sister is the following
1- in case you forgot what happened with his sister when she was his age, take some rest now while you can very soon when he is confident walking you will start chasing him around the house to prevent him from injuring himself or destroying your belongings.
2- if you think the time was too short, give it another try in a year or so and bring him another brother or sister. that is if you did not learn your lesson yet LOL
Salaam
2007-03-05 20:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Temsah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are a gift from God - so, quite obvious a parent who is estranged from God cannot know the will f God for the child. You need to first draw near to God and he will draw near to you, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
It is after this that you will not have that fear of your child growing and seemingly losing control over him.
2007-03-05 20:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by RealArsenalFan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just celebrate his development. It is the same with any good parent. I would not call this struggles of the spirit; in any event, I am not at all clear on what that term even means -- if indeed it means anything at all.
2007-03-05 20:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to let go sometimes, but if you don't let him grow now...
well do you still want to be changing his dipers and hand feeding him when hes 10?
You could always try haveing more kids,
or get a pet.
2007-03-05 20:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Oracle Blackrose ( Pagan ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have another child perhaps? I know they're so cute when they are little but let them grow up and have abother one it has 2 benefits: Your child has someone not much older to play with and share stuff, you get to enjoy them being baby. :) Good luck!
2007-03-05 20:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋