Do Jewish men really only want to marry Jewish women?

Question

I recently became involved with a Jewish man. I adore him and the relationship is great so far. Though we only began dating, I can't help but wonder if he has to marry a Jewish woman and I wonder also if that would be intimidating or offensive to ask? I am Christian and open to other religions. Is this something I should know upfront before anything goes further or should I just roll with the punches. Thanks.

Answer 1

Better ask him than us, strangers. He might have different views. The love between you too should kick any fear away, be brave, fire the question.

Answer 2

You're wise to think about this now, instead of later.

Some Jewish men will marry outside their faith, but others won't. This depends on a number of things: how observant they are; how they feel about their future children's faith; and their familes' view on the matter.

My own dear husband is Jewish. His late wife (married for 53 happy years!) was a Baptist. He loved her with all his heart, but their children (now all adults) were not raised Jewish. This is something that secretly saddens him.

His hope is that, perhaps, his grandchildren may someday take an interest in Judaism.

I mentioned this situation because it may have bearing on what your boyfriend may wish for the future.

I certainly hope that your respective beliefs won't be a wedge between you; best wishes to you!

Answer 3

If he is really Jewish he must only marry Jewish women. But I do know a Jewish man who married a Catholic woman and they are expecting a baby and I can't stand to hear them argue about wether or not the baby will believe in Jesus etc...

The mother wins anyways, children are born into their mothers religion.

Answer 4

Religious Jewish men don't marry people from outside their faith. If he's dating you, he's not that religious. I imagine, for him, Jewishness is more an ethnic identity than a faith. If he is not religious but still won't marry you, its just because he's a racist.

honestly though, nobody should marry someone of a different religion. If a person has no loyalty to their religion, they have no loyalty to other people either. If they suddenly develope a loyalty to their religion, which happens, you are going to be nothing but a source of guilt and somebody to be divorced or resented.

I know it's not nice to hear, but it's true.

Answer 5

Jews just like any other people,some of them must follow the family tradition and some are
Independent thinkers but because they're in the minority ,sometimes they're under pressure to
merry from their own faith to keep the race and the Jewish tradition alive and there's nothing wrong if you talk about it with him
that's your future,No ?
My best wishes

Answer 6

oy! there lagai.
His mother won't allow u to marry him, he must marry a jewish woman. If he doesn't, his children won't be jewish because if you have a child and the mother is jewish, so is the child. But if you convert and then have a child, ur a convert so your child won't be accepted as a jew, so his mother will disown him and you.
Bless you
Peace.
Ps: u shouldn't mix races, it is forbidden in the torah and tulmad

Answer 7

yes. jewish men want their kids to also be jewish, and they would not be jewish if their mother was a non-jew. in this case, if he is already dating you, he is probably not very religious. just ask him about it. he won't be offended. it's better to get this stuff out in the open early on.

Answer 8

Technically,Christians shouldn't really marry non-believers.
But,if you do get married,if your children are to be Jewish,you would have to convert to Judaism,which means renouncing Jesus.I don't know why you would want to do that.

Answer 9

you're just his girlfriend until he finds a nice jewish girl to marry...so to break it this way

Answer 10

As long you're not a Hivite, Jebusite, Canaanite, Amorite, Hittite or a Perizzite, it's ok (that's what i know)