i have been dating this guy for a little over a month. lately its to the point that we hang out 3 or more nights a week. we sleep over at each others house. i was positive i was really falling for this guy. hes everything i wanted. except he doesnt really have a lot of goals in life. and i do. but hes sweet, caring, and we just clicked from the start. i love hanging out with him. i miss him when we arent together. but a little bit ago i met another guy. he is the totally package, and some. so far. he wants to go on a date. i havent had the exclusive talk with the first guy. but i feel so guilty for even thinking about goin out with this other guy. why do i feel so guilty? should i feel guilty? i find myself letting it get in the when we hang out. not because i think about this new guy all the time. but because i feel so guilty about goin on a date with another guy. i really care for this guy, and dont want to hurt him or mess up what we have goin. but im also curious about this new guy
2007-03-05 19:42:39 · 23 answers · asked by dawn4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK' Think about it this way. Look at guy #1 you say he is a good guy that is good to you but he lacks direction. Some guys need a woman that will make them want to be a better man. Are you making him want to be a better man? Guy #2 i don't know any thing about except you seem to like him for what he can give you. The decision you have to make is do you want things or do you want love. Some guys that's all they can give is there love. Other guys they can give you things and maybe a comfertable life but they find it hard to give love. Hard decision ain't it?
2007-03-05 20:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating 2
2016-12-16 15:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated 2 guys at the same time on two occasions. A few of my friends knew and thought i was terrible then i thought i was terrible and ended up telling both of them and pretty much screwing it up. If you feel bad chances are you arnt going to convince yourself that it is ok to date them both. I dated a guy who i loved but he too didn't have plans for collage and i ended up not being able to take that. If you don't really see a future with the first guy then aybe go with the second.
Personally i'd say date them both, don't feel bad, really don't let people tell you it is. If you feel like your stuck with your first boyfriend (like maybe there is better out there) then your relationship will go down hill. If you feel bad bout cheating then dating the other guy will be bad to. If you understand that each guy is giving you something different and you arn't sure which one you want, then i think you'll be happier.
Don't be slutty about it tho. Don't sleep with one and go to the other. Just understand that you don't want to hurt them just maybe see where its going.
2007-03-05 20:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by kimmy125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to the first guy, to see whyat he thinks about your relationship. Don't even hint that you want to go out with that other guy until you're confident. Tell him that you two need a break from each other, or that you've met this guy and you want to see how it would be like with other people? Still, if that first guy disagrees, and since you like that first guy a lot, I'd say don't go.
Furthermore, you don't really know the second guy. That's one big problem. You don't know whether he's what he portrays himself to be. It's better to kieep with that first guy if you had to pick right now. If you don't, atr least you know that the first guy trusts that you will return to him. If he doesn't, he is just protective, in my opinion.
2007-03-05 19:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard the phrase curiosity killed the cat? well ur case in point i would not mess up a great relationship for a curiosity. i would be honest with the main guy and ask him what he thinks of yalls relationship and just try to get him to give you an opportunity for a date with this guy by offering him the same . let him go on a date with someone else. it could strengthen or weaken your relationship but at least youll know either way. make sure your both in mutual agreement about this or it wont work you can say you want to be sure that you love him and want to be with him so you want to test it and you would like for him to do the same for one date only. any more than that is askin for trouble. but overall be honest. an yes u should feel guilty for dating both at same time. ur betrayin a trust he put in you. hope this helps.
2007-03-05 19:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by war 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Drop the curiosity and work on your relationship with the first guy. Get him motivated and have goals in life. Its not right to date two guys at the same time or else all three parties may get hurt.
2007-03-05 19:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've been there, you've got the guy you click with, but he doesn't have everything.. it's really important a guy has the whole package. i had this guy i thought was awesome, but he wasn't in college and didn't have many goals, ultimately you probably aren't going to be satisfied with that if you want this to be long term. if you have your eye on another guy there is a reason. the one you have doesnt have all you want. if you need any more advice let me know.
2007-03-05 19:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to number 1 guy about his goals in life and how life will be hard with him if you are always chasing your dreams and he is not, but don't go for number 2 unless number 1 cant change for you. if it comes to that use the infamous "we should take a break"
2007-03-05 19:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by otis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a guy who you love spending time with and is fun and you miss when you're not with but isn't someone who you see yourself with in the future is a FRIEND. talk to guy #1 about how much you care about him and enjoy being around him, but you just don't see it going anywhere and think you make better friends than a couple.
pursue guy #2 but don't tell #1 about it, thats just mean and isn't going to help your situation one bit.
dating 2 guys at once is called cheating and yes its a no-no so just don't do it.
2007-03-05 19:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass is always greener, and curiousity killed the cat. oh yeah, can't have your cake and eat it to. have the talk with him, and if his lack of goals is all that is wrong with him, help him develop some. Some guys just need a nudge like that.you said it yourself you were falling for him, and thats why u feel guilty
2007-03-05 19:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by UPbeachbuggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋