Married Dad who's 13yo daughter the other night sat on the couch and not only proclaimed one of the Idol guys cute [ok by me] but then went on to bounce up-n-down, hoot-n-holler while saying other stuff like "woo baby." She's also been overheard calling a guy a "nice piece of chocolate." Well, my wife semi-regularly says these things and other ribald remarks [jokingly] - has done so for years and it never bothered me until the recent incident. As a guy, I may think similar things about women but I am NOT gonna have my 13yo daughter see/hear me say them. She is maturing and will think those things and a whole lot more which is fine but show a little restraint, make appropriate comments about the opposite sex and realize what you can/should say depending on the company you are in. I'm not a prude - I was a stripper in college - but am I over reacting . . . I really doubt it. What to do? What not to do?
2007-03-05 19:39:10 · 4 answers · asked by gwhilicker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hi there ...oh dear she is at that stage .....where mouth engages before the brain has time to think .......been here 3 times as i have 3 daughters and unfortunatly this comes with the girls ......a gentle chat about things should help the situation ....but remember she is now starting to test the waters again and find out how to embarress you and see you squirm ....this again comes with the teenage years .......it does get better but it may take a while .....good luck with youre daughter and no you are not over reacting youre a dad that loves his little girl and only now you are realising that she does look at the boys and this will want you to protect her .......a natural thing for you to do take care xx
2007-03-05 20:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kids will end up saying these things anyway, but make sure she knows it is inappropriate and that you do not want to hear it. Kids are starting to say these things younger and younger. Your wife needs to start acting in a more appropriate way around your daughter.
I have one "worse" story. My sister-in-law speaks inappropriately around her three daughters. When the family gave me an outfit for Christmas, I tried it on. My 9 year old niece said that I should try that on again when her dad (who is my brother) got home because he would really think I was hot. I try to be a good influence but it is hard since I am not the parent. You are in a better situation, you ARE the parent and can have a strong influence on your daughter.
2007-03-05 21:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is a perfect age to explain how childish behavior is out at this time...she should be learning to be quiet and reserved --all needed in later life. Loud, crass behavior is not very becoming of a young adult--explaining this will take tact and the proper wording. Manners and courtesy are respectful actions---expect her to start using them--lead and teach by example--children do mimic what they see adults doing and saying. Crude behavior should not be tolerated anymore---properly and swiftly put an end to it when you encounter it. Give her "quiet time" alone in her room when this happens,give her time to think about what she has done. By the way, the Idol show is silly, self centered entertainment--the girl from Point Pleasant lives by me and she is a low life. Good luck
2007-03-05 22:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you are not over reacting. You just need to let her know that certain things you shouldn't say or do around mixed company,your elders(or any authority figures),and younger(more impressionable)people. She should show some class or at the very least be more discreet,creative and euphemistic so that her comments and antics won't make others uncomfortable.
2007-03-05 19:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by MsE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋