We are in long distance relationship. He wants to start family but I have to move to be with him (from France). I get depressed when I visit his country (Eastern Europe). Do I break up with him or move with him to the country I can not stand?
2007-03-05 19:21:29 · 34 answers · asked by Prisca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop Him Like a Hot Potato.
2007-03-05 19:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I live in an area that is depressing. It rains a lot, the architecture of most of the buildings is really old, giving the area an "abandoned" impression. There are also a lot of fir trees, adding to the darkness of this place, and the majority of the citizens here are seniors.
...However, I do have a crush on a girl and I imagine that if I could spend more time with her... like have her at my side all the time, I would love this place because this is where I met her and that she is with me.
It should be more about the person than the place. I used to be obsessed with Japan, but that would've been more about the place than the people, and what I mean by that is that I wasn't really thinking about love, but more about a glamorous area. So, I guess you could choose one or the other...
2007-03-05 19:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What don't you like about his country? Is it just that it's different? Does it have to do with the government or religious establishment?
If you love your boyfriend and want to be with him, than you have to decide if you can learn to love - or at least tolerate his country. If your concerns simply have to do with language or culture, then it's just a matter of adapting. Now if you have serious concerns about government restrictions on personal freedom, the education system, the heath care system, or other similar things, then it's a different situation and you have to ask why your boyfriend isn't concerned with the same things.
When you get down to it, people are basically the same no matter where you go. They may speak a different language or look differently, but they mainly want to live their lives and provide for their family. If you are an open minded person you can adapt to anything.
2007-03-05 19:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, which I am not, I would cut my losses. If you really can't stand that place then you shouldn't move there. You will only make yourself unhappy which will put stress in your relationship that may not last because of it. You'll have to go back to France and start your life over. Beside WHO in their right mind would leave FRANCE???
2007-03-05 19:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by I know EVERYTHING! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, is "Eastern Europe" even a country? I thought it was like, 12 countries or something. But, what the heck, snob him and all of Eastern Europe, after all, you've got baguettes and a huge hunk of steel you got off the States as a "whoops, we didn't get you anything" present.
2007-03-05 19:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by Boo-shniggins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he move to you? If you are not willing to do everything for someone then its not really love. It doesn't matter where you live, home is where the heart is and if being with him anywhere in the world makes you happy then you should follow your heart. The fact that youre considering splitting up says alot! You knew where he came from and that it would come to this.... so go with what you think is best long-term.
2007-03-05 19:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you move somewhere that you don't want to go you will end up resenting him and the relationship could break down because of it.
Just picture yourself hearing that language all the time...could you really take it?
France is beautiful, why would you want to leave there anyway?? Find a nice French boy..I hear they make the best lovers! ;-)
2007-03-05 19:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, if you hate his country it will never work out believe me, I have live in his country for 15 years and still feel homesick, if he loves you he will come to your country, try and pusuade him to make the move, refuse to go to his country and see how it goes. If you get depressed just visiting immagine your self living there away fromall your family and friends. Good luck in making the right decision.
2007-03-05 19:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear frined you have made arelationship and now you are trying to break that. People find it so hard in finding such relationships and you are trying to break it.
PLEASE DONT DO IT.
Because if you will do it then you break your as well as his heart.
And then you will be feeling a bit ashamed of yourself.
First of all you try to visit that country or if you have visited that country then a kind of love with that country by visitning plces which you would you would like to see. Ask your partner to tell somwthing about the wurpean history so that you may fall in love with country and love you partner as much as possible.
hope you will able to reunite with your partner.
bye.
2007-03-05 19:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by GUSTO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for you to have a good marriage, you would have to be happy. If living in a country you don't like would make you quite unhappy, I would think hard about it. What country in Eastern Europe is it? Good luck~
2007-03-05 19:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you really don't like that country, then moving there would not be an option and he could not move to france, then i think you should stop this relationship as soon as you can, pls don' t give the guy room for any false hopes.
2007-03-05 19:25:42 · answer #11 · answered by VeronicaB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋