My story is a bit lengthy but here goes... My husband and I came back to the US and were living (quite wealthy) abroad. But we wanted our family to live here. We came last summer and he enlisted in the military. He has since been in training and I am pregnant again (in my 8th month) and staying with my father and step-mother. We are paying big money to live here and until this point I have managed all the housework and chores as well as my daughter. My husband has only 4 more weeks of training to complete and then we will soon have orders of where we will be stationed. But obviously now I am in a delicate condition and have to be here until delivery. So the situation is that my family is being emotionally abusive to me and they have been clear that they will not assist me with my daughter if I become more ill or on bed rest. I have been having pains and its quite hard to lift my daughter and to care for her myself now. I am so angry with them and I obviously can't move alone now! ?????
2007-03-05 19:14:22 · 3 answers · asked by Mom_of_two 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
So what exactly am I supposed to do? This has nothing to do with money but timing. I get so upset that I almost want to pack our things and move to a hotel but I have to think of my daughter. Also I don't think its a good idea to interrupt my husbands final training because we are still waiting on orders to move and its important that he is here for us after training. I feel stuck in this situation and hate my family for intentionally doing this. The only thing I know to do is stay here and avoid them and do whatever it takes to survive until my husband arrives, then move.
2007-03-05 19:14:44 · update #1
I cannot travel abroad now because I am too far along and also because I won't be able to come back traveling alone with two infants. Also it would be complicated to apply for papers in his absence and he needs me to be here to help him restation because he isn't familiar with this country and protocol for moving. Basically I am alone! I have no one else I can depend on now and I am in no position to travel. So it looks like we'll just have to suffer until he gets out and it won't do any good to upset and worry him as well as he shouldn't be distracted now because our future depends on it. Maybe someone in the military could be able to assist me locally and from my own home??
2007-03-05 19:15:03 · update #2
i know you dont want to interrupt his training, but does he know whats going on? where do you live? can you drive? i would get over to the recruiter that enlisted him and ask him, hes in your area i imagine, also you can try the va office and local church parish and or priests, if you have a copy of your husbands orders for training that will help also ther is a web site to try out its called army one source, try a search on that and it has all the info you are looking for, iif you have any additional problems you can email me if youd like and ill try to assist you, i am currently a staff sergeant and it would be an honor to assist a young troop[ and his family
2007-03-05 20:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and wait until the training of your husband is finished so that you could already move. You can no longer do anything because it is a natural reaction from relatives or friends who do not understand you as a burden to them.
2007-03-06 03:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't the "best" answer but you only have 4 more weeks left until you're out of hell!!! You're a strong woman and you can do it. Just try to avoid them to the best of your ability! Don't listen to what they tell you. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it's a lot easier said than done...but you can do it. Just whenever you get down and frustrated just take a deeeeeeeep breath and think of your babies!
2007-03-06 03:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferlittierre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋