we've been dating for 2 months. and he's really sweet, funny, caring, he's handsome too. and i mean i care about him, but i think it's waaay too soon, and i don't think he feels 100% sure about it when he told me he loved me. i know he cares about me. but i don't know what to say back, how would i tell him that i care about him a lot, but don't exactly "LOVE" him, without making him feel bad?
2007-03-05 18:57:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so let me get this straight. he said I loved you just rignt now? so you get up and ask this question. MMMM....you don't have to say anything anymore.
2007-03-05 19:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, tell him how you feel. Be honest. That's the best way to approach things for both of you. Just tell him that you feel kind of uneasy about a serious relationship right now, and really want to make sure that things are going to work out for both of you. Tell him you enjoy his company, friendship, and that he's "sweet, funny, caring, and handsome", but you want to enjoy times together without making it too complicated. Bottom line is honesty is the best policy in this case. If he "loves" you, he will accept what you say--not as a rejection, but just as a sign to "go slow".
2007-03-05 19:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, Thats the most important think. Tell him what a lovely caring kind person he is, explain to him how happy you are and how happy he makes you feel. As long as he feels and knows how important he is too you he will feel loved and special. So you wont have too say it. It took my fiance a long time too say he loved me. Years but he showed it in so many different ways I knew that he did before he said it. It will make the time when you feel ready to say it more special and more meaningful. Never say it unless you mean it, that only causes hurt and confusion. Hope this helps, remember all good things come too those who wait. :.)
2007-03-05 19:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by devangel11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends. Love really means different things to different people. I've dated guys where i said it within a few weeks and i've dated guys where we waited nearly 8 months.
Saying i love you doesn't mean the guy wants to marry you. I think i've been in love many a time, he is just expressing himself in a way he prolly thought you would like as well.
Plus if you guys were having a great day or he just thought you looked exceptionally stunning, somedays your emotions get the best of you. If you are uncomfortable just don't say it back say your cute an kiss him or just smile. If you don't think its a "I'm deeply in love i with you lets name our children" kind of thing just say it back.
Or you could just tell him, i think love takes a long time to grow and i like you an awful lot but i'm not sure thats where we are right now.
2007-03-05 19:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by kimmy125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I almost told a girl that the other day, and I wouldn't have cared what her response would've been, because for my part, I'm telling the truth.
......but I kinda chickened out.
At least act shocked and surprised. That in itself will distract from the fact that you didn't say the same thing back. I don't think he'll notice. The sound of his own heart beating will cloud his hearing and he'll more be thinking about himself and what he just mustered the courage to say to you.
2007-03-05 19:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are and his thoughts/reasons for thinking so. If you are 20s and older, and have spent a lot of time together. It's part infatuation, part he thinks you can see himself with you the rest of his life. If you're in your teens, you are screwed, get out now. He will fall deeper, then become very jealous. Then, either strive and fight for control, or abuse. It's repetitive and a classic scenario. And, I'm a guy telling you this. No sugar coating.
2007-03-05 19:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by micky630 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're in a relationship with a guy you don't love? Uhm.. you could say something like "I care about you too" and he'll probably assume that you're returning the love, I guess.
2007-03-05 19:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly it is not incorrect to tell somebody the way you sense, as properly that's what you sense, if a guy won't be able to respond that in simple terms means he would not sense the comparable. i do no longer think in, "i don't understand, uncertain, possibly, i'm afraid to confess it". rattling it, if somebody tells you that they love you, you're the two going to assert it or go away it. yet yea, i do no longer think of he feels the comparable love you sense for him, undergo in strategies, you the two in love or love somebody, 2 categories, so possibly you should make sparkling this to him in case you meant you like him as a distinctive chum or somebody who means plenty to you, as a results of fact being in love would not ensue over evening and to ensure which you to be in love, he could desire to be in love with you besides, if no longer, it is going to never paintings.
2016-10-02 11:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank..." I really care about u too, but I'm scared or NOT sure bout that "love" thing yet, sry. Plz understand!" If he "truly" LOVES u, he WILL understand & respect ur honest!!! Just be totally upfront & honest w/him.
2007-03-05 19:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Brandi A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming when he said to you that he loved u...u kept quiet...so the moment has passed and he must already be feeling rejected.....so let it go....if he again says to you that he loves you just say its too soon for you to say that you love him
2007-03-05 19:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by snehesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to buy you a house build from the ground put you in school so you can become anything you want in life and buy you a car so can get around in case you need something and ask him for marriage.
2007-03-05 19:16:28 · answer #11 · answered by Chrissy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋