My bf moved out of my house last week because we have been having problems. We came to the conclusion that it would be a trial separtation and that at the end of a month if we think we can make it work he will move back in. Well now day by day I am getting confused. Like he told me he would come see me on Saturday but he never called or came over. I called him that night but he didnt answer. The next day I called one more time and he finally called back hours later and said he was too busy Saturday to call me. But then stopped by real quick Sunday eve and kissed me and said he loves and misses me. Then on Monday same crap, was supposed to visit, didnt call, didnt answer when I called Then stopped by real quick on Tuesday to say I love you etc. 8 times out of 10 he doesnt answer his cell and doesnt spend any time with me at all, but offers to help take out my garbage and tells me how much he loves and misses me. Whats going on? HELP!!!!
2007-03-05 18:57:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I try playing detective to see if he is cheating? We have agreed that we are still exclusively bf and gf. We have even talked about marriage if we can work things out.
2007-03-05 19:06:15 · update #1
Stop sitting around and waiting for him to come see you and to call you. And stop calling him constantly like a lost little puppy. Your being too available. Go out and live it up he's the one who left you and by him breaking your plans all the time he obviously isn't very interested in making it work, now is he? Make him work for your affection. If you stop calling him he's going to start wondering what your doing and call you himself. And then you can make sure your hanging out with friends or meeting new people when he calls, and even when he calls you don't have to answer him. Do what he's doing to you to him. Then say see how it feels?
2007-03-05 19:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key kind of lies in what the reason for the break was. If it was for jealousy on your part, he's probably out with people. If he cheated, most times, he'll either come running back or leave forever, so the multiple returns is good in that scenario. But, you have too many loose ends. Email me if you want a more detailed answer. robert.mcadams@yahoo.com.
2007-03-06 03:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by micky630 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your bf is moving on but whats to keep you on the hook just in case the other one gets away or in case the grass isn't really greener. I would say let him go. Better now than in 2yrs after you have waisted your time trying to keep someone who doesn't want to be kept. I know it will hurt but in the long run you will be doing yourself a favor. I dont know you but I do know that a woman should be loved and cherished. He is lying to you and not respecting you or your time when he things he can just stop by when he wants and have you waiting for him when he knows he is not coming. All that is a way to control you. If you are waiting on him you cant be with someone else. If you are honest with yourself you will see that he is using you. Hope this helps. Dont play detective when you look you find and you dont need to see it to know its going on. You already know he is doing something thats why you asking us.
2007-03-06 03:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Priceless 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He wants his cake and eat it to....believe me...I'm 46 and have played this game both ways....its good to have someone that you know is going to be there when ever you-want or need-and have your freedom too...heck yeah....RED FLAG.....don't call him...don't answer his calls or be home when he stops over....get your life going for you...there are alot of friends to hang out with and your toooo busy for him...."Sorry I Was Too Busy To Answer My Phone"...Listen to me girl....as i said im 46 and boy have i seen it all.....and done the same thing to guys..and when im doing it cause i don't want to be with them as a couple...just when i need something done or don't really have anything better to do so....Y NOT HANG WITH HIM......time to move on...
2007-03-06 03:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by sarah m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still waiting at home wishing hoping the phone will ring? Looks like hes got you as his beck n call sometime woman while hes out doing whatever he wants. Why settle for less than what you deserve or need? Lifes too short theres a whole world out there waiting for you to discover it. I will keep you in my prayers. Good Luck you deserve better!
2007-03-06 03:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Blast this song whenever he's around and see what kind of reaction you get!
By Carrie Underwood:
Before He Cheats
Right now he's probably slow dancing with a bleached-blond tramp,
and she's probably getting frisky...
right now, he's probably buying her some fruity little drink cause she can't shoot whiskey...
Right now, he's probably up behind her with a pool-stick, showing her how to shoot a combo...
And he don't know...
That I dug my key into the side of his pretty little suped up 4 wheel drive,
carved my name into his leather seat...
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights,
slashed a hole in all 4 tires...
And maybe next time he'll think before he cheats.
Right now, she's probably up singing some
white-trash version of Shania karoke..
Right now, she's probably saying "I'm drunk"
and he's a thinking that he's gonna lucky,
Right now, he's probably dabbing 3 dollars worth of that bathroom Polo...
And he don't know...
That I dug my key into the side of his pretty little suped up 4 wheel drive,
carved my name into his leather seat,
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights,
slashed a hole in all 4 tires...
And maybe next time he'll think before he cheats.
I might saved a little trouble for the next girl,
Cause the next time that he cheats...
2007-03-06 20:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't u just simply make drama and tell him that u want to break and c wat he tells for it..if he ask y thn just tell him sum crap thats believable thn after all that he says yes...thn yes he is cheating u and wants to leave bt if he tries solve the matter and tells u that no v cnt break up for these reason thn he loves u but he is bc with some thing else..just ask him directly then...
2007-03-06 03:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by varina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh...do not waste your time on this person. STOP this nonsense...he is up to no good. Even if he isn't cheating, he is disrespectful to you. You think you are feeling stressed today? It won't get any better. I KNOW!!!!
2007-03-06 03:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Melody 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he has been keeping himself busy lately. Ask him to be upfront with you. Don't waste your time and his. Don't let him play you.
2007-03-06 03:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get out. hes either cheating or wants to. if he wanted to be with you he would be.
2007-03-06 02:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋