Okay point form to make life easier for everyone:
(1)Dated for 2 months (2)See each other 3~5 times a week (3)I'm 16, he's 17 (4)Both of our first "REAL" relationships (5)Talked about sex & we both agree to save it till marriage
So here's the deal...
-He tried to make out with me after the first couple weeks, I stopped him. We eventually did right before our 1 month. Then after we made out, he tried to feel me up & I stopped him. Now it's our 2 month and he felt me up. I stopped him at first but then I realized it felt .. right?
My questions are:
(1) Do you think it really felt right for me, or is it still way too fast for us? Perhaps it was just the heat of the moment kind of thing... (I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY AND I DONT WANT TO DO ANYTHING ID REGRET) (2) How long should I wait until giving hickeys lol :$ (3)How long should I wait until like dry sex (4) Am i going way too fast right now? Felt me up inside my bra.
**Thank you for your time =)
2007-03-05 18:50:20 · 15 answers · asked by Needs an answer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if ur both into each other then there is nothing wrong. have fun.
2007-03-05 18:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Nanook~Maybe I need a longer Name?~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off...hickeys are stupid. You are never ready to give them. They don't feel good, they don't look good...just skip over them all together. Kissing the neck, etc. Feels much better than sucking hard enough to make a bruise. Now to the sex part, I had sex when I was 16 at the moment it felt like I was ready and I really really really liked the guy..blah blah blah BUT now that i'm older (not much) I realize I wasn't ready and I didn't want it to be with him. But I can't take it back. But from now on I can pick better partners and now that i am older I acutally enjoy sex. when you're that young you really don't. The best part of the whole experience is kissing/making out/ feeling...the thrill of doing something new. Not the sex..the sex will be awful. No point in putting yourself through worrying if you did the right thing....could I be pregnant (which you will even if you were careful!) Just enjoy the presex stuff. It is much better!!!!
2007-03-05 18:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by UntamableSmurf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If you have to ask us, then you should probably slow down.
2) Giving (or receiving) hickeys is childish and serves only to demonstrate to others that you share a degree of intimacy with someone. Pass on this one.
3) Dry sex leads to wet sex. If you're looking for gratification, turn to yourself first.
4) I think you should probably slow down. Remind him that you both agreed to wait until marriage and if he loves you, he'll respect you.
It's easy to be in love when you still live with mom and dad. When the real world starts to intrude, loving someone and being in love is a lot more difficult. You're just now learning the basics of interpersonal relationships. Don't start attending the advanced class until you've passed the introductory course. You both have your whole lives ahead of you. Don't prematurely limit them due to expectations, commitments, or obligations you're just not mature enough to handle. Good luck.
2007-03-05 19:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is playing it along well to have sex with you. It will happen in the heat of the moment just as feeling you up happened. If you really want to save sex for marriage, avoid anything physical including make out until you are 18. If this guys stays with you for two years, you will know for yourself what is appropriate and what is not. If he dumps you for no physical intimacy, good for you for this guy was just after sex.
2007-03-05 19:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it's too fast, it's too fast.
If you've talked about it and agreed that you should wait but he keeps pushing the envelope - you need to discuss it again. The agreement didn't last long and you need clarification.
You REALLY LIKE THIS GUY .. I noticed you didn't say love.
Wait for the love - and the respect.
Heat of the moment decisions are rarely the right ones when it comes to sex.
2007-03-05 18:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by pepper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young. I'm not putting you down, but i do think as you become more secure, and comfortable in your relationship these things are going to happen and they are going to feel right. I didn't quite understand the reason for waiting? Obviously not a religious manuever, but i think you should just depend and trust the moment otherwise. And you shouldn't give hickeys. No one likes to see them, Nor have them.
2007-03-05 18:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by this_rare_eclipse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) it's the heat of the moment and yes it could feel right...so you better not expose yourself in that situation again....temptation is hard to resist!
2) you can give as long as it's not seen obviously but then again when you're at that act it may consume you and you may not want to stop...so again, if you don't want regrets - clear your mind and don't act on your impulses, IF you can.
3) ugh! ive never had dry sex, whatever...IF you can control the situation then do it...be sure you know what you are doing.
4) i dont want to judge you on that...being touched is a wonderful feeling...just be aware when to STOP.
2007-03-05 19:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that the both of you had talked about waiting until you were married and then in the very next paragraph you said that he felt you up. Obviously that conversation meant nothing to him, so what do you think you mean to him.
Your internal instinct is correct in this situation...I guarantee you that you will regret giving this BOY your virginity.
I recommend concentrating on your future...see listed source.
Remember, virginity is very special and it is a GIFT that you can only give once. I would recommend that you save it!
2007-03-05 19:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by s7lmb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being smart, and dont seem to be rushing it. i bet you think too much about this to really be able to rush into anything ;) besides following your gut and doing what you are comfortable with, and talking to him when you are NOT making out about what you are and aren't comfortable with there's not much detailed advice to give. (its smart to talk about it before you fool around because peoples brains get foggy in the moment, feelings can get hurt, and if you aren't comfortable talking about it with him you shouldnt be doing it in the first place!) one line i think is easy to draw is going below the belt. once you start crossing that line, a lot of bigger choices come up quickly, and once any kind of contact with genitals starts STDs become a risk. good luck! (and i'd stay away from hickeys, they're just tacky ;)
2007-03-05 18:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont make decisions that you regret it later.. What if you give all what he wants then he may leave you later? Is he really determined to commit himself to you.. Married iis a lifetime commitment.. you cant bring back the old ways because you are commited to him.. Even though that theres a annulment what about the children Thats a premarital sex.. Think about it.. if he really deserves it then go on. think about your future its early for you to have a married life..
2007-03-05 19:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by rhean s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to check if he like u as well or it is only sex he want frmo this relation- be carefull not to have a wrong relation that will end by having a couple of sex - then u will regrete.
plus u never heard of other things to do with bf jumping to a sex is not the right thing to do as u said to fast.
2007-03-05 18:57:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋