Why are people so inconsiderate?

Question

I think that I must be the only considerate person alive! We just had new neighbours move in two days ago. Now I know that they must be excited and want to get everything done quickly, i.e putting up shelfs and putting together various pieces of furniture, BUT why do they think it is ok to continue doing work like that say until, after 9pm?! I have had crap neighbours for the last 8 years, each of them create a lot of noise and a so selfish! Why can't people just do things at a reasonable hour?
Another example of consideration is when people decide to have a house party. If I was to arrange one I would advise my immediate neighbours and the following neighbour. This would at least give them a warning and if they didn't like house parties it would give them an opportunity to make plans. But everyone else just doesn't give a damn, and when you confront them they just moan and in most cases just increase the volume.

Anyone else out there considerate or is there no hope?

Answer 1

I'm with you on this one. We had terrible neighbours for four years. Very loud music till the early hours in the morning, spend whole weekends shouting and swearing at each other. When we politely asked them to keep it down we just got verbal abuse and yes you are right it just made them worse. In the end we've had to move house, it was just too stressful.

I don't understand why people do all that. There just seems to be a complete lack of consideration for other people.

However I also blame the government and the building companies for building new houses with no decent walls. They ought to have to live in these places and see how they like living with paper thin walls. I heard on the radio this morning about the Government calling for more consideration in planning applications for helping aleviate stress in towns. Well building houses and flats where people can relax and have their home as their castle would surely help with this.

Grrr ooh you've got me on a roll with this question.

People should be allowed to enjoy their homes and their lifestyle but with a bit of consideration for others.

Answer 2

I live in a student house (it is an 8 bedroom house which 8 students live in). We are all very considerate about each other, especially where the TV and kitchen are concerned, but there is one person in the house who is continuously leaving the kitchen in a mess, and generally being a jerk. We actually complained to him (because he is a spoilt rich kid) and if it doesn't improve in a the next month we are going to lodge a complaint with the owners of the student house. We have very strict rules about house parties - if there are more than 10 people invited we have to inform the neighbours etc.
What I can suggest is introducing yourself to your neighbours, take them some brownies or something as a house warming present and be very nice to them. Then if they do something to annoy you then you know that you have the right to go over to them and politely ask them to stop, or keep it down. If it is a house party, then go over the next day (don't crash their party) and just politely request them to slip a note under your front door the next time they are planning a party so that you can make other plans.
If they are still inconsiderate, do what my uncle does. His neighbours had a house party one friday night and he was kept awake until about 3am, so he got up the moment the sun came up and started mowing his lawn and making one huge noise :)

Answer 3

Banging and clanging after nine or ten is certainly inconsiderate. I will say, however that round here neighbours usually tell others of house parties and a few offer an invitation.
Some don't but usually do not go at it past round 10 or 11. So not too bad.
Ultimately to answer your question:I do think there has been a severe reduction in overall manners and considerateness in people over the past few years especially.

--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 4

No, your not there are loads of us left, we just don't all live in the same street.
I once read an article, asking do you have bad neighbours? I was ever so quick, and going to answer YES, until I read the reply, which was, chances are they do too. So it made me think.
Perhaps, it's a case of not communicating well enough and always assuming that the other knows they have upset or irritated you by doing something, like building furniture etc later at night.
Perhaps we also expect too much from the human race in general.
Consideration costs nothing.

Answer 5

Hate to tell you this but I don't find you considerate at all. Your poor neighbours have only just moved in, only two days before you start moaning, I am sure they have a lot to do before they are actually settled. I think you just have to be a bit more tolerant until they have got themselves organised. If you are having to endure noise for more than a week then go and ask them to be quiet after 8.30 pm. But come on, two days.

Answer 6

After 8 years of bad neighbors, I would check into sound-proofing my house, at least the rooms I use the most during the evening hours. Hotels have managed to sound-proof against jet sounds, so I think you might be able to improve your environment.
Expensive, perhaps, but weigh the expensive against your happiness; and it wouldn't hurt to check the price.

Where I live noise laws don't go into effect until after 10 pm, so being upset at 9pm wouldn't even get sympathy from the police here. My current vacation home in a gated resort community has an "unwritten" rule of no loud noise after 11pm, and in 3 years no one has broken that rule around me.

Answer 7

I used to have 2 big parties a year - mainly Irish people who like to sing. Next door was a lovely old biddy.
I would invite her, which she always refused. Then one night I brought her round - earlyish - to meet some of the folks. She got on well with them and actually enjoyed herself.
In the end I used to slip her friend £20 and ask her to take the biddy to the cinema for the evening. And my guests were told beforehand there would be no music after 11pm.
Chivalry may be dead, but no reason for thoughtfulness and consideration for one's neighbours to go the same way.

Answer 8

Give them same time.
Maybe they don't have many day's to do all of this work.
To go to a new home you have sow many thing to do and so little time.
Maybe there r good people.

But the truth is that in general people are very egoistic.
They don't care about anyone else only about them self's.
As the years go by it will will be more difficult to find people that care for the others.
I really hope that this will stop, and that we will start to see the others, and became good neighbours, brothers and sisters, friends etc.
We what go too far with this attitude.

Answer 9

Well its one of the most stressful things moving house.

Added to which, maybe your neighbours have day-jobs.. and want to get their new house partially up to fair living standards, how they like it, as quickly as possible. If they get home at 6pm... it doesn't leave much time to get their stuff all worked out in there new home - only weekends. Let them get it sorted out.

I think you should be considerate enough to give them a bit of leeway for the first 2 weeks.

Answer 10

well refined neighbor it seems age or whatever is the cause of your discontent A family has the right who's says a hard working mill steel worker hypothetically 2nd shift only has evenings off or whatever the case may be its none of your business Or be it a welfare family less deserving of such contentment should be all about your hours and schedule because hey they don't work they should be lucky to have neighbor like you aw
Be a unique neighbor and bring up at a better time oh by the way party was fabulous wish I could have been there and say listen next time id love to come but the hours were awkward i sleep for work in the morning A subliminal message will hint them seriously you did it the wrong way .... present it nicely and without authority they have a right for a party leave it alone