Mine has been against me and the family from day one. She makes statements like if we don't 'behave' as she wants when she has children we won't see them etc. My son's life has been a misery but he sticks by her. We are all broken hearted because now they don't see us and my son says it's easier for him. She has temper tantrums like a child.
2007-03-05 18:13:04 · 17 answers · asked by elliebear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not a freak of nature with a bad daughter in law, and I would encourage you to live your life to a maximum and not to waste time on this subject even if you are broken hearted. My parents are wonderful peole but in the same situation as you. Since day one their DIL was a complete b itch, turned my brother against his parents and their grandchildren too. She treated my parents like s***, absolutley no repect at all. I'd have no fingers left if I typed details. When DIL had problems, her family abandoned her and my parents took her in, but she forgets all that. The good but regretful news is that after ten years of ill-treatment, my parents have moved on and now live their lives. They have joined a swimming club together and I'm very proud of them that they are finally thinking about themselves for a change.
2007-03-05 22:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Invisible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my father have a bitchy and bad daughter-in-law. My only brother married this divorceee with a son from a previous marriage 4 years ago. Initially she was very nice but then, slowly she began to show her true colors. She will ***** about every relatives including my father (her father-in-law). She will gossip and then passed the gossips around to make everyone go against each other.
The worse thing she ever said was that my father did not pay a single cent contribution to the house (my father is staying with my bro and his family). What she didn't know is that my father gave my brother $20,000 to buy the house she is living in right now. My brother did not tell her about my father's contribution so as not to let his wife knows that he (my bro) doesn't have enough money to buy the house. Pride on his side. So, now my arrogant sis-in-law thinks no ones should have any say about her at all. Daughter-in-law from hell....that's what she is!!
2007-03-05 18:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone thought that your DIL has emotional problems. Thankfully your son is standing by her. I don't condone her behaviour but perhaps you have mirrored hers and not shown her another way. Perhaps you haven't been given the chance.
My brothers wife has caused a major rift betweent he family and my parents have just received a note from her thanking them for their birthday card (they have never forgoten her). I just wonder if she is now regretting what she has done. Try and write to your son if he no longer is in touch and explain that you don't not like his wife just her behaviour and that you wish that you could at the very least keep the relationship alive between him and any offspring. You would be able to build back the relationship if you can build the bridge with your son. Doing this he will at least have somewhere he can still feel comfortable and not an outsider.
Good luck and I sincerely hope that you and your DIL can sort this out. I feel sad for you, it's not easy but remember you are the adult with experience and use your experiences to try to help and not condem her.
2007-03-05 20:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by KANGA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum has one. My brothers wife is lazy, sleeps a lot, watches tv all day, fills the house with smoke, has opinions on everything and evryone,thinks we all love her, can't understand why we can barely say hi to her. My bro works all day, in a physically hard job then often has to cook the tea for the family when he comes home. We wouldn't suggest he leaves her as most of the time he seems happy enough but he can't move, outside of work cos she doesn't like him going out or to the footy or anything unless its with her in tow. She's never happy about anything. I feel quite sorry for her while at the same time I want to shake her.
2007-03-05 18:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by PATRICIA L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a lovely MIL! I think this lady has a lot of growing up to do. Your son must realise that he is being manipulated so if he is happy to carry on like that its his choice and unfortunatley it will only get worse as if she is using children that havre not yet been born against you she will be doing the same to him, ie do this or I will leave and you will never see the children again...
It is a shame but until she grows up or he come sto his senses then there is little you can do - just be supportive for your son as I think he will need it!
2007-03-05 18:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by lovelylittlemoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sympathize with you. That has got to be very sad for you and I hope that this girl realizes that she is tearing the family apart by being this way. I have the world's best mother-in-law and with all my faults she still loves me. I hope that you and your daughter-in-law can work things out. Have you tried to get together with her just to have a friendly talk? Call her up and invite her out for a lunch, just you girls and see how it goes. It may be she picked up some wrong vibes about you and you can set her straight. If she continues to be nasty then at least you can say you tried. Good luck!
2007-03-05 18:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's like u described me. the only thing is my man's parents have died before he even met me, so his mother was spared of all of this. but i understand u - i have 3 sons of my own, i just can't weight when this horror with daughter is laws starts. well, maybe u should concentrate more on your own life? maybe u need to go to gym? this will waste lots of your free time and energy
2007-03-05 18:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriends parents are going through the samething, but the only difference is if you don't give her money then you don't see the kids or run out and buy everything the kids need including food clothes etc. this one is bi-polar, suicidle, antisocial, also in serious trouble with law. check into grandparents rights this should help you out
2007-03-05 18:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by varley s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my mother had one bad daughter-out-law, thankfully I divorced her.
I feel for you, but you know you can't tell your son what to do. Keep with your rules for your household, don't give in to her.... If (heaven forbid) they ever have kids, you will have rights as grandparents. Yes! They have grandparents rights laws now! Don't put up with the "Out-Law". Oh, and smile! :)
2007-03-05 18:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by Keep it Simple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you need is prayer. God can change her. my mother once had one like that even she does not want to see any of us. at a time my father went to see them she drove him away, all my bros & sis no one visits them. we all left her, we hardly see them including our bro but now she has changed completely she could invite my mom to come and stay for some time them. she could ask my younger ones to come for holiday and things like that. its all what God can do.
2007-03-05 20:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋