I joined a military singles website. I havent posted a pic yet but my profile tells the military men that I am overweight. This Army guy started to email me and then we started to email eachother through out personal emails.Everything was cool.We talked about EVERYTHING and always made eachother laugh.He emailed me quite often and we would even make up little stories of sexually fantasies involiving what we would do to the other one.He is twice divorced(he got cheated on both times and he has 4 kids). He never mentioned that he was talking to anyone else.I asked but he blew it off.well I thought we got along great.Then when he asked for a pic of me I sent him one(he KNEW I was heavy set).Well once he got my pics I emailed him his emails were fewer and fewer.3 weeks ago he emailed me telling me he was sick and busy.2day he emailed me telling me he was "going in a different direction and he was sorry"and wished me good luck.Why did he have a change of heart.should I write him?Im sad.help
2007-03-05 18:12:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no..dont mail him..he doesnt worth u dear..n there nothing to be so depressed..i know its so stupid of me to say that,coz u were somewhere emotionally attached to tht person..but try to understand one thing only very few relations are true on net..coz u never know who is sitting on the other side..the other side of the hill is not always green..hw can get so involved with a person only by the words he say??? try to understand if he stoped mailing u n f**ked u off,even u do the same..if he can forget everything between both of u ,then y can't u?????ahhhhh...there's lot more to say but i cant right now..u better give me ur e-mail id or mail me at "imwidu_sarah@yahoo.com"..n plz try to come out of it as soon as possible..good luck.. see there is one more thing- u accepted him the anyway even after knowing tht he was twice divorced n he had 4 kids,(thts so great of u ya) n look wat he did??????? in the end i just wanna say one thing - forget him..
2007-03-05 18:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Heavy set" can be interpretted in SOOOOOOO many ways. I'm sorry since I don't know anything about you (or your weight at the very least), but girth can be enough to be a complete and irreversible turnoff. I was once interested in a girl who was heavy set, but was very clever to never show herself below her neck (since you can't necessarily tell how heavy people are just by looking at their face). I've seen some pretty attractive heavy girls, so I didn't have a problem with it. I finally meet her and she's over 300 lbs., and a foot shorter than me! That's not heavy set, that's %$*&ing fat! <:S I know how much of a superficial assh*le I'm sounding right now, but that was just too much.
But don't worry. There are guys out there who won't even LOOK at the svelt ladies (I know a few). ;)
2007-03-06 02:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"He never mentioned that he was talking to anyone else.I" He didn't HAVE to. Chatting online/emailing doesn't give you ownership of this guy. He is single and allowed to talk to whomever he chooses, whenever he chooses. The only type of relationship you had at best was "pen pals". So he became interested in someone else he was "talking to". That's life. Learn to decipher between what is REAL and what is FANTASY, chatting online/emailing someone you have never met is NOT a relationship. Grow up and learn to stop wearing your heart on your sleeve. And stay out of relationships until you know how to handle them.
2007-03-06 02:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, don't write him. You win some , you lose some! You dont need anyone like that anyway. And u also should expect that if a person is chatting online, best believe you're not the only one!
2007-03-06 02:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to be mean but he probably didnt find you attractive. that is why you need to post pics on those websites so people know what they are getting themselves into. now you are heatbroken and this could have all been avoid. i would say move on because that is probably not going anywhere.
2007-03-06 02:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if that is his attitude then you are better off without his emails, there are plenty of other men who will take interest in you i am sure....men like that are just small minded in my opinion, you'd been talking for ages so he knew things about you, and when he saw your pic he f**ked off....nah forget about him hun, he aint worth it, delete his email and leave to his small mindedness...good luck
2007-03-06 02:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by deni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were too heavy for his liking...
2007-03-06 02:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well over weight girls can still look pretty may be your not one of them
2007-03-06 02:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋