What is it with women?

Question

What DO women want? They say they want a guy to treat them like a princess, and yet when you do they think it is creepy or even worse: that you're faking it. They say that they want to spend the rest of their life with a sensitive, caring guy, and yet they only date the muscular, 7' 6" guys that can't carry on a conversation any longer than they can carry a digit in a math problem. They say they want to hear romantic things, but apparently only if you fit the muscular/tall, dark, and handsome formula. They say things like: "And as for weight gain, discharge stains in our underwear and cellulite - that's normal and you men need to accept women as beautiful that have as much of that as we want" and yet when it comes to men they want the best, they want it all, they want Johnny Depp, "We want 9 inches", etc. Does anyone else see the irony and hypocrisy? We need to treat every woman, no matter what she looks like, as if she were a queen, but they can talk to the less-attractive guys as if

we are crap on the bottom of their shoe? Now, don't get me wrong, I am one of the few guys that still put women on a pedestal even though they tend to just step right off of it and into my face, but what is going on in our world? I have my own experiences, yes. Like how the girl I had known for years and was really close to, friendship-wise, turned me down when I asked her out, saying that she didn't want a relationship right now, only to turn around and say yes to the basketball player that asked her out two days later who was not only taller and better-looking than myself, but she hardly knew him. It just seems like such irony to listen to women say how much they want a relationship to come off of a friendship, and yet they will never allow themselves to think of friends as anything more than just that. What do you think?

I don't mean to get on a soapbox here, but this has annoyed me for quite some time. Is it because of society? Women used to complain about the lack of great guys around, but every great guy that I know couldn't buy himself a date because he is less-than-Orlando Bloom-attractive. What he gets is bad self-esteem. Now all I see are the great guys wondering where the great women are, the clean women, the women that hold onto morals and values and the like. Darn, I'm rambling again...

When does it all end? I'm 19 years old, a college freshman, and I've always thought, hoped, prayed, that things would change in college, but my experiences have only worsened with the change...

Women can complain all day about how the guy they are dating treats them badly or doesn't do something or maybe even does something that they do not agree, but I honestly don't think that most women realize just how many great guys are out there. My theory is that like one person said in one of the answers, that most women are flakes. They don't go for the great guys, and the great guys don't want them because the are generally more shallow than the current human gene pool. The women that aren't flakes are not looking for guys, is what I have decided. They say they want the great guy, but they expect him to fall in their lap one morning. They don't want to risk starting a relationship, and if the guy "comes on too strongly" they want to back as far away as possible. How do they expect to find the great guys? They've already pissed off the great guys to the point that they are so cynical and pessimistic about relationships in general that they never want to be in one in the first place.

And don't you know I'm loving how so far most of the women are agreeing with me...

Answer 1

Your attracting these woman into your life. Be positive and think about the type of woman you want and she will love you just the way you are.

Hey! not all girls are the same

Be open minded the more you get angry the more you attract the same girls. Good luck

Answer 2

Well you have it after women who are contradictory...I could come on with contradictory men! I think I'm good looking, I'm smart (no nerd, but yes, got my PhD in microbiology at 26), tall, slim, dress cool or elegant depending on the occasion, but let me tell you, that guys who want the hot smart good looking chick, hell well, when they hear my education level...they get the freaked out look...and then...bye bye! Now, if I tell them I'm a secretary or stewardess...all of a sudden I get the interest.
Tell me where the irony is! Or the dudes who go out with the ugly looking ones. They are nicer to them?! Please...I'm so easy going, its unbelievable.
I guess the women you fall on havent "suffered" enough so they still need the "bad" guy type around! I had that one once, and I think I went so down...I'm NEVER going back to that type again. Now, I found the "nice" guy who isnt a Johnny Depp AT ALL (more like a Sex and the City, Charlotte latest husband type!) and who isnt scared of my education nor my good looks, and yes, it is great to have a guy who treats me as I am for who I am! Oh and by the way, my experience is: dont go for the cute guy coz he will be the worst guy ever! He thinks he can own anyone.
If they criticize you, the women...then they probably dont like you! Let them go...
As for me and the men and the ugly stupid girl...I havent found the answer to that one yet!

Answer 3

I can definitely sympathize with you on that. I've heard it all, it's so ironic that some women say they are looking for a caring and sensitive guy, yet they become swayed by a muscular, powerful man that is a polar opposite. I'm not saying this is a general statement about women, but I have never yet met someone who saw any value in those who were actually caring and sensitive. Women search for someone who is perfect, but there is no such thing as an absolute perfect when it comes to a person. Any female I had seen had been attracted to someone not even close to perfect. It's ironic enough to make me sick.

Answer 4

Yea I have to say we can be really retarded. I think its because its drilled in our head that we should marry this kind of person or be attracted to this kind of man. And we practice this for at least the first, I don't know, 18 years of our life. But you have to admit some men do it too. "Oh wow Beyonce is fine, gee look at Jessica Alba's body etc" we all have our ideals. But no where near everyone looks like Jessica Alba or Kobe Bryant and people still end up dating and getting married because with age people tend to let go of stupid superficial things and go for what they want and need not just what they think they have to have. So stick in there anyone who acts dumb now will be sad later because along with being superficial we also remember and then dwell. So missing out on great guys comes to bite us back in the behind later.

Answer 5

Bless your heart, you are obviously having some female burnout.

Breathe deeply. Remember, all women are not alike. We may sometimes look the same or have similarly structured genitals, but ladies are individuals, too.

Advice:

Run from women that want you to treat them like a Princess, Queen, Goddess, Ethereal Heavenly Creature, or whatever -- unless they are enthusiastic about reciprocating. I hardly even hang out with those types of women/girls because it tends to indicate a - shall we say - demanding and self-centered attitude. Women (or men for that matter) with overly idealized views of their partner will rarely get what they want and always take it out on whomever isn't living up to their ludicrous expectations.

The world is not filled with muscular, super-tall, curiously idiotic men. This means that you still have damn good odds! Of course, the world isn't filled with stacked, ultra-slim, and impressionable young women, either. Maybe you need to reassess your expectations as well.

Either way, good luck. Try to avoid generalizing about women, not only is it unfair to them, but it will also prevent you from being open with the women out there that aren't shallow and hypocritical. You wouldn't want women to hold negative views of all men, would you?

Now I see that you are 19. Great age. But, please do not let your 19-year-old experiences shape your views of women (or humans in general) for the rest of your life. You must factor in immaturity. You must factor in the fact that 19-year-old women are a very hot commodity in this society. To be honest, 19-year-old men don't have the best dating skills either. It takes practice.

Seriously, the concerns you raise are things that people of your age always complain about -- men and women. You could probably start a teenage dating support group and make a killing on concessions. You could probably get some tail, too. But, I digress. The important thing is to ignore people who are not worth your energy, and use that energy instead to find people who like you for you. Looking like Orlando Bloom is not a precondition for getting a girlfriend, no matter how it may seem now.

Answer 6

OK here let me see if i can explain this in a simple way women want everything and nothing at all we want you to treat us like little princesses but not to let us step all over you and let us use you we want a sensitive guy but not a cry baby just someone who can be there for us in an emotional time and to consider our feelings when we need it to be we want you guys to be fit but not overly body builder kind of thing

~hope this kind of helps you get it and we no what you me us women sometimes don't get ourseleves either ~

Answer 7

i disagree with u. i do not think that disharge on underwear and weight gain and stupidity are normal things for women. those re not normal things. and i am sorry if i am searching for perfection - a guy should be muscular, handsome, smart, sensitive, intelligent, caring and WITH MONEY. but i also do not sit at home gobbling humburgers and french fries. i got master degree in philosophy to be able to communicate on the high level, i learned a few foreign languages, learned how to play musical instrument, learned psychology and kamasutra and i am constantly battling with time and nature to keep my body firm and perfect as it was when i was 20 and my face free of wrinkles. so why should i settle for less than perfect? and i know what i want and the most important thing i am working on myself to get what i want

Answer 8

Ouch... You've been hit harder even than ME! <:S

No, women don't make much sense, and neither do they enjoy making some sort of effort (trust me, things would be a LOT different as long as they made some sort of effort). I can easily make friends with women, and I think I can have a firm grasp on what closely resembles "understanding" them, yet for the life of me there is no way of telling exactly what it is they want.

Answer 9

look find a girl that has dated a guy that has been treated like s then she will apprishate the way a great guy treats her. untill then she will want to be around a rebel. but when she gets one to many black eyes she will realize this is not what she really wants out of life

Answer 10

I'm actually married, but, I must say that a soft side to a guy is very necessary, but a little of the "bad boy" side is even more! My husband was like that. We were actually good friends in high school, & for several years after that before we actually became more than just friends, & he was definitely a player. I knew all his secrets, he knew all mine & that kind of turned the heat on & attracted us to each other more. All of that stopped once we got together of course, but he definitely played around & was one of those "bad boys". Just be yourself, there's no better way to attract the person for you than to be yourself. Just be patient ~ she'll come...when you least expect it! Good luck!!