ok. so my ex's best friend has liked me like ever since me and my ex broke up, but i was in the healing process and so i didn't even Think to like him back like that for a long while. but we just went on a date tonight and i had such a fun time.. and i am really starting to like him. but i have heard that your ex's best friends are Off Limits no questions asked.. so is this wrong??! what are you opinions on these types of situations. and THEN another complication is that he just text me afterwards and text me this really cute thing.. but i was waiting until i thought of the perfect thing to say to text back.. and so then he was like ok i understand i will leave you alone. and i was texting my cousin at the same time and she was not getting my texts.. so i hope what i meant to send to her did not go to him. but also my phone was just being spazy and not sending or receiving them i don't think.. so it wasn't that i didn't want to answer him.. it was my phone. :( now he thinks i hate him.
2007-03-05 17:55:09 · 9 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok so my ex was not officially ever my "boyfriend".. we were just geting there.. but then he found some other girl... while continuing to lead me on for THREE of the 5 weeks we were dating, because he started liking her, but continued to lead me on. so he is not really an "ex" but it's easier to say. and so now that girl is his Girlfriend.. and he doesn't give a flying frick about me now due to that fact. and also He DOES now know about me and his best friend because his best friend told him.. and he doesn't seem to mind.. why would he, he has a girlfriend..!?
2007-03-05 18:10:10 · update #1
I've heard the same thing -- best friends of exes are completely off-limits. I say BS. Cheating on your significant other with their best friend? Yeah, completely inappropriate. But, once a relationship is over -- and it sounds like your relationship is definitely over -- I don't see why that should limit your future dating options.
Of course, this can really hurt relations with your ex. I started dating a close mutual friend of mine and my ex's a few months after we broke up, and he flipped out about it. He wouldn't speak to either of us for literally four years, trash talked us to our mutual friends, and even accused me of cheating on him while we were dating! He did eventually get over it, though, and all three of us can get together and have a nice time together now.
One good way to think about this issue is: would you be angry if your ex started dating your best friend? If you don't see that as a problem (or are actually thinking that maybe you should hook them up), then I think you are in the clear, babe!
Hope your txts work better and good luck with the new guy!
2007-03-05 18:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by coreyander 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just put the shoe on the other foot! Would yo want your ex dating YOuR best friend? The respectful thing to do is to see how the ex feels about him dating you.
As far as the text messages go, give it a break. He doesnt think you hate him. Just tell him you were having trouble with your phone and leave it at that.
2007-03-05 18:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain to this person what your problem was...BUT LOOK...dont make things to complicated for yourself...get to know other people outside of your ex's click...you dont want to be classified as someone that goes around the group - if you know what i mean! If they are best friends then that means they see eye-to-eye which means they think alike, and the reason for you and your ex breaking up in the first place would probably reflect in the friend too....think about that ok! GOODLUCK!
2007-03-05 18:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cayotegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to danger it somewhat is her way of letting you off hassle-free. That she isn't into you like that and does not choose to wreck your emotions or friendship. *along with her or her ex. there's a danger that she nonetheless has emotions for her ex and does not be attentive to precisely what she needs. It hasn't been very long and additionally you're able to desire to be a sturdy chum and supply them a while. i be attentive to it hurts and your emotions are significant, yet you're stepping onto difficult floor with this and could desire to take it sluggish in case you opt to make a courting artwork along with her or your chum. you in addition to mght could desire to be arranged for them getting back jointly so which you isn't devastated if it happens.
2016-10-17 09:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by dickirson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm..... about the text thing..just tell him sumthngs wrong wid ur phone and u r sorry abt that..i think he shud understand that..or why didnt u give him a cal wen he sent u a message saying he'll leave you alone... are you on friendly terms with your ex? can you talk to him? if you can then you might wanna just let him know... if not then i think you shud go ahead with this guy..has it been enough time since you broke up? coz u shudnt go out or not go out with somebody bcz of what people will think.. you like the guy and he likes you and you didnt cheat on ur ex.. whts the prob?
2007-03-05 18:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by cranberries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know, i hate this situation...but i can relate. im in love with my ex's best friend, only because he denied his feelings for me for so long. he knew i was in love with him, but he was too shy to say anything, and so i moved on when his best friend asked me out. my advice? if you honestly honestly care for this guy so much, then consider taking it slowly. jumping into things could just give you a reputation, and not to mention, piss your ex off. i really hope it works for you, and maybe it will work for me too. good luck.
2007-03-05 18:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just f*ck his friend and get it over with. Who gives a sh*t what your X thinks do what is going to make you happy.
2007-03-05 19:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it....a friend of mine is going through this same situation....everybody is hating each other right now...look at it this way, would you want your best friend to date your ex??
2007-03-05 18:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by jessfaye05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i'd stay away from the ex's friend, especially if they are good friends, or you cared about your ex at all..how long has it been?
2007-03-05 18:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by 8-tentacles-of-AAnsweroni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋