Depressed and Insecure, I need advice...?

Question

OK first of all please don't be rude. Everything started when I was for years old, I had an accident, I was sleeping and I accidentally pulled the curtain with my feet, somehow one of the nails on the curtain got into my eye, I had a cornea transplant..but I still had a lazy eye, not only it was lazy but also it was clouded with a different shape...

I remember that people used to make fun of me, and It still hurts me, When I was 15 I got a cosmetic surgery to fix my lazy eye, (whenever I move my healthy eye the other eye moves the same way)

Even tho I got the surgery and one of my eyes is perfect I still feel insecure about my injured eye because I can barely see!

I'm really depressed, Most people won't notice what I have, but the memories of how people made fun of me are still there and I can't forget... I'm 20 years old, I don't know if I should go to college because I'm afraid that ill never get a job doing what I like, (due to my defect) Sometimes I think I'm better of dead.

Answer 1

Honey-----I'm sorry people are so mean----you have been hurt really bad. Hey Listen----you have plenty of things to live for and much to offer the world. There are many things you can do-----and now you will find people will not be as mean to you anymore------children are so very cruel but now things will get better. I'd be glad to be your friend anytime-------and most people would----go on now and follow your dreams and if there is a particular field of work you desire then go for it. Folks said I'd never amount to anything either but I fooled them all and became a well respected nurse in a prestigious hospital.---------YOU CAN DO IT!!!---------Common Friend-----hit it with your best shot.

Answer 2

i'm sorry that you feel this way about yourself, i know about being insecure and having bad thing bring you down to the points of being depressed but i'm started to turn around at the age of 27 i'm realizing that life is passing by quickly and i have to enjoy this time, and i feel you should too, i have two aunts who are going through cancers and they are the brightest happiset set of women and they are sstrong and people to admire, your eyes may be an issue but one that hopefully you can overcome so that you could go on, go to school and do with your life the best that you can. I'm sorry that you were treated badly before i know how insults can make you insecure and it's something that will take long to get over if you ever even do-but i just hope that at least you can think about the fact that you could move from those words on and become a good person with a good job and you have overcome obsticle but your alive and you like it that way--

Best of luck to you...

Answer 3

To many times we beat ourself up over something that no one else knows about or can see. It sounds like your eyes look normal, cosmetically, but you're being hard on yourself for the lack of vision. I've found that if you're open about a disability, people are much less likely to say anything about it especially at an older age. Kids are cruel because they do not understand the repercussions of what they say. Your an adult now so do not let this keep you from being productive or from fulfilling your dream.

Answer 4

Dude, go to college get your degree...dont let anything stop you. Lance Armstrong overcame testicular and lung cancer and won like 6 Tour De Frances in a row. Jim Abbott was born without a right hand, and did he let that stop him? No, he played in over 200 major league baseball games, won a gold medal at the REGULAR olympics, and all with one hand.

If there is something you want to do, go after it, dont let your eye stop you. You have all the oppurtunity in the world, to dust yourself off and step back up to the plate. You can be the "miracle". Listen man, try to get in college, see someone for the thoughts of suicide, and forget the kids that taunted you in grade school, because Im sure if you saw most of them now, they would apologize to you for being mean. Follow your dreams buddy and if you ever need someone to talk to, hit me up on AIM or something (GTFan513).....I'm almost 20 (in may) and in college myself...

Answer 5

oh my ! you have a gift and you dont even know it !! your experience can help others like you . did you know that ? going to college is a must if you want that dream job of what you enjoy doing. your pride and ego are in the way . you have serious resentments about your accident. going to a counselor will surely help that and they can help you see where to let go of your anger in that case. you have so much to live for . many are those who have suffered terrible loss or gone through horrific experiences... when they came out the other side of that their own experience strength and hope has helped so many who are still going through it . yours is a gift to use now its not a burden . God didnt let that happen for no good reason . Use His gift and help another. i realize this may sound strange to you at first but give it thought .. serious thought and see who you can help from your own experience now. look how far you've come. god bless you . (and go to school! )

Answer 6

It seems you are making a big deal out of something minor and something that you need to let go. You need to count your blessings rather than dwell on your misfortunes. Let the past be gone and count each day as another day to do something good for yourself and for someone else. There are millions of people who have serious problems and disabilities, so cheer up and count your blessings. Good luck and God Bless YOU.

Answer 7

Hey there, you aren't better off dead. Please don't ever think that way. Go to college. You might find exactly what you've been looking for there. Your life is just as precious as anyone's! And what you've been through, gosh what a shame it would be for you to cut yourself short of a whole new life ahead of you! I have been where you are in the depression and not knowing what way to go for my life and thinking I would be better off dead. Man am i glad I didn't do anything like that. I am sorry you had to endure such horrible things as a growing person. That is horrible and if I would ever catch ANYBODY doing those things to you, I would put them in their place. I would let them know that you too are one of God's children just as they are. I would ask them how would they like it to have been dealt your hand. I would remind them that they should treat all others like they want to be treated. I just said a prayer for you, I know God heard me. God is listening to you too and would love to have you drop the burden of your problems on his shoulders. Give it to God. Just tell Him you are struggling and so not know what to do. You ask for His guidance as he takes the burden from your heart. Ask Him these things in His Great Holy Name and say Amen. After you pray, walk away from feeling like you are lesser of anybody. You go about your business of knowing you are a smart, viable human being, and get an education for yourself. You can get such a better job with just a small amount of schooling and it is worth it. Best to you and just lean on God, let Him be your leader. He will guide you if you open up to what He is telling you, to do that is to let all of that from the past go and get out there and do it!!!!! I have confidence in you!!!!