Changing For Better?

Question

I've changed since freshmen year. I stopped having sex and selling myself to people practically. I've cleaned up my act. Why is it now haunting me? When I was doing it I never thought that I would fail two of my classes and I never thought i would look back and be upset. Now that I have remained abstinent for two years now why is that everything sucks. I don't have nearly as much friends as I used to. I'm really quiet. My grades are well but it seems like now i'm trying my best their are more obstacles. Slacking off is so easy but really trying your best sucks. Any advice, tips, comments or similiar stories you would like to share. Thank you so much.

Answer 1

Keep your head up!! Time shall heal your pain and wounds. It is good to see that you are doing well in school, it seems like you have a lot going for yourself, Lord knows changing old habits is a very hard thing to do, but keep at it. Keep being strong and positive and you will continue to reap many rewards!!! Remember that things do not change over night so if you do not notice a change in your life so soon don't go looking for it, let things fall into place, because if you rush things you might just end right back at Square one, and this time with more regrets, and miserable. Try embracing your accomplishments, and successes and continue to build more!! and everything else will follow!! for ex. true, fun-loving friends, and etc

Answer 2

Perhaps you made too drastic of a change. I'm not promoting unsafe sex, or drugs, or anything crazy, but perhaps you should balance out what makes you happy. Try enjoying some small part of your former self, but with a more responsible, mature attitude. You don't need to have sex a lot or "buy" people in order to have friends. I've seen people do this. I've also seen people go the opposite way. It just seems that sometimes when people don't think their lives are what they should be, they decide to make changes, and take it too far. Find a happy median, where you are at your best and are content with your lifestyle. Base it on what works for YOU, not what works for everyone else. Good luck!