And when he cannot avoid look at me, he looks right through me as if I'm transparent. Besides during sex, The other times he would look at me is when we're both in the car front seats talking but that's from the sides. And also when we're both watching tv and sitting beside me, he would turn to look at me to see how I react to the funny scenes. He would only look at me from the sides but never eye-to-eye contact. What gives?
2007-03-05 16:59:07 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The most important question is....
...does he talk to your boobs?
Look, that behavior just isn't normal, and you're perfectly right not being okay with it. Me? I don't trust people that won't look me in the eye. Especially if they used to, and now they won't.
My suggestion for what it's worth is to flat out ask him about it. And don't take some "I don't know..." BS as an answer. Ask him why he does it. Tell him it irritates the hell out of you. Ask him to stop.
Then see what happens...
... and then dump him if you don't believe him or nothing changes....
2007-03-05 17:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by helpful_dude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he used to make eye contact with you and now he has stopped. Then more than likely he is being deciteful towards you in some way. Be careful he could be just useing you for sex. He might be lieing to you about somthing that would cause him to have to keep up with what he might say due to whatever he has already told you. So he cant look at you because he no's he is a fat liar. But never except less than the best for urself honey {dont forget to love urself} if ur not getting what ur need from this realationship. Then stop now dont put to much more in to it. U will be better off down the road and alot less wasted time. Old people say "If a person cant look at u in the eyes when they are speaking to you they cant be trusted.". So u probley wouldnt be asking this question if u couldnt tell that there was something wrong
2007-03-05 17:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Lawd!! Boys are stupid; throw rocks at 'em! Just kidding, but men are such wierd creatures. I think you should be on guard. He doesn't have to stare at you all mooney-eyed 24/7, but a lack of eye contact is just downright disrespectful. Good that he checks out your reactions to the tv, but overall, you aren't feeling "heard" or validated here. I don't know what gives. Maybe he's just not the brightest bulb! You will have to be that judge, but I would never settle for anyone who made me feel "transparent." Never, nope! And I sure wouldn't be having sex with him either.
2007-03-05 17:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
narrrr dont dump him, its gods way of lettin u know, that you have to
give him a good seeing to 4 times a day for the next month is all hun.
so i hope ur stamina is high lol
OR
whack the silly lad round the head, yeah slap him about your house for an hour and tell him u want eye contact from now on, or hes gonna get this on a daily basis lol
OR
he isn't bozeyed by any chance is he lmao, cos if he is, its when he is looking u in the eye u wanna start worrying about lmao,
which bit of skirt is he eyeing up then pmsl
2007-03-05 17:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by mancman3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a well known "tell" when someone is guilty or ready to do something that he or she does not want someone else to know!
My advice to you is to be straight up! Ask him about it. If he gets angry or irritated, that's not a good sign. You may have a real problem and some time apart will quickly make things clearer!
Eye contact is a very intimate and emotional connection that two should have in a loving relationship. I do so understand your concern. Good Luck girl!
2007-03-05 17:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by CSnumber1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys communicate differently than females. Have you noticed that when guys speak to each other they are usually never directly facing each other? Females usually find this as a source of disrespect. The most important thing is how do you verbally and physically communicate. If it truly bothers you though, I would suggest that you first explain to him with out making judgements about how you feel. Don't make him feel like he is weird or he might think you are nagging. Try kissing him more. Remember, love is patient & love is kind.
2007-03-05 17:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should dump him. Back in the day, I had this period where I had kind of a phobia of looking people in the eyes, even my long time boyfriend. He finally asked me one day why I never looked him in the eyes and I told him. A while after that, my strange stage was over and I could look people in eye again. Maybe you should ask him why he won't look at you...
2007-03-05 17:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sammyjo007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the help I can give is to tell him (don't tell him to stop, just tell him about it) and see how he reacts. Then make your decision from there. I have that problem where I find it hard to look at people's eyes (as if it makes them nervous but actually it's just me being unconsciously nervous if that makes sense) but if it was someone I felt very comfortable with, it'd be no problem.
2007-03-05 17:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes not going to stop. He wants to live a fantasy through you and 9 times out of 10 doesn't lead to a very healthy relationship. I think its werid that he keeps trying.
2016-03-29 01:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me you have become a little naurotic about this eye contact. You don't break up with some one because he doesn't look you in the eye. If you suspect him cheating, then ask him. Other than that, it could be you.
2007-03-05 17:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋