What should i do about my dad's problem?

Question

My dad has a drinking problem,he drinks almost everynight, he is a big guy and usually doesnt bother listening to what i say. what should i do???:-((

Answer 1

Nothing. You can't force someone to change, they have to want to.

If you are old enough, I would suggest you move out and start moving forward with your life. If/When your dad sobers up, make him a part of your life again. But until then, keep your contact to a minimum.

Answer 2

first of all make sure you don't blame yourself ever for his drinking habbits. my dad used to drink like that all the time too and i thought it was my fault for the longest time that he didn't have a second for me ever or that he was always to busy working, drinking or being passed out. but i realized that it wasn't when i started high school and he and my mom split and he got help. there isn't a lot you can do for a person who won't admit that they have a problem and doesn't want to get any help for it. it took my dad almost losing our entire family and being arrested 3 times to snap out of his spell. also being an alcoholic is a disease. thats really important to keep in mind, its hard to quit and a lot deeper than it seems a lot of times. unfortunatly my dear he's probably going to keep drinking and brushing you off until it hits him just what he's got to lose and what he's doing to you. until then i'm sure you've got some great friends that you can talk to when you need to, or maybe a sibling or cousin, or maybe your mom when you need that family member to talk to. its rough being a child of a drinker, i feel your pain, but remember that under it all they do love you, they're just misguided about it. maybe try talking to him sometime when you can catch him sober and tell him how much he's hurting you. if that isn't something you want to do, maybe write him a letter or email and leave it somewhere that you are sure he'll find it and read it, that way you don't have to say these things you're feeling right to his face, which can be real tough sometimes too. if you have a councelor at school or at church or something, they'll be able to give you more ideas of what to do and how to talk to him, and they'll support you as much as you need.

good luck with things dear, i hope they get better!

Answer 3

I would make a point of sitting him down and explaining that it is important to you for him to listen and just say it. Tell him why it bothers you, why you think it is a problem and any other cons you can think of. After that unless he thinks he has a problem there is not much you can do about it. Sorry.

Answer 4

You cannot do anything about your dad's drinking problem. Only he can.
You need to take care of yourself, though. His drinking affects you in many ways. Check out if there is a support group you could join.

Answer 5

it's your dad's problem and unless he wants to get help, it's going to go in one ear and out the other.
suggest to him when he's sober that he may have a drinking problem. but don't get down on yourself if he doesn't listen.

Answer 6

You really can't change his behavior. There is an organization, which is a branch of Alcoholics Anonymous which is for the family members of alcoholics. They could be of some help to you.

Answer 7

not much you can do, for 1 he's your dad, 2 he's your elder, 3 he's a grown adult who can do as he pleases.

the most you can do is just let him know it bothers you, if he wont' listen, mail him a letter. that way it doesn't dawn on him its from you till he starts to read, and normally once you start to read, you will finish that reading.

Answer 8

Look out

Answer 9

I know what you mean !!!!

Try and sit down and reason with him.