hi I'm melody and i'm christian. i met a guy 4 years ago and he is muslim, we didin't see each other, by the way we really love each other and he loves me from all his hearth. he keeps saying that if i marry him he will do anything for me. don't think that i'm stupid, i want marry him because he doesn't me because of my money, look or for using me. he loves me for my self and nothing else. by the way we both have strict family about our relogion. the problem is, he wants from me to change my religion to islam, because he thinks that in future we'll have alot of religion problem. He also respect to my religion very much. But i dont want to change my religion to islam but i'll respect his religion too. i keep saying that we won't have any religion problem and i'll try to do everything for him, because i love him. Now i am in that situation that i should choose one between my religion and HIM, and i can't forgot both of them i want both at the same time. Please tell me what i have to do.
2007-03-05 16:41:25 · 22 answers · asked by Washington D.C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You both need to come to an agreement... You say the religion wont cause any problems, but it already seems to be.
If you can get by on mutual respect for each others beliefs, then great, but if it going to cause problems.... then what? For example, what happens when you have children. Will they be christian or muslim?
I hope you can work it out, as there is nothing like true love, but you do need to see the possible problems with both of your refusal to change.... I'm not saying either of you have to, but if thats what it will take to make the relationship work and neither of you are willing to budge, then I'm afraid to say there are some rocky times ahead.
2007-03-05 16:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by kimison_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is not about some external ritual or some accessory to one's life. It is a profound way to view the world and live in the world. Two different religious people from the same religion are often as odds with each other, because even within the same religion there are variations of worldview. If two people from two entirely different religions meet and marry, it is like two religious worlds are colliding with each other. Thus, two people WILL clash with each other. You and your bf are no exception.
Another point that I would like to make is that marriage is not simply the marriage of two individuals, but marriage of two families. Two families and two religions clashing all the time will drain a lot of energy from you and your partner, because you are not just you, but, partly, a product of your family belief and behaviours. So you will have to expect a lot of clash in your marriage, and I can guarantee you that you and your partner will be frustrated over the cascading effect of these clashes.
If you also can consider your children, they will be quite confused because of two obviously distinct standards of worldview. They will be nurtured in this battlefields and in confusion, because there is no one unified educational philosophy guiding them. That is why the Bible teaches that a Christian marry a Christian, but if you do marry a non-Christian, make sure that that partner is committed to Christian living. Otherwise, St. Paul teaches us, we should divorce that partner. (See 1 Corinthians 7:12-20)
Your decision now will affect the rest of your life and beyond.
2007-03-05 16:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by dansdna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what country you are in. But anyway, he is right that there will be problems if you are not the same religion. And there will be different problems if one of you changes.
What religion will your children be? If you are both serious about your religions, I know this will cause difficulties. Maybe it will destroy the marriage. Both of you will feel very strongly about it when you have children. And besides this, your families will be upset too.
You are a Christian. Can you think of giving up Jesus Christ? Can you think of not bringing up your children in a Christian home?
I know you love each other, but I don't think that will be enough. But it is up to you to decide.
2007-03-05 16:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult both of your families, since it's usually families that made this thing into a big deal.
It doesn't matter if this guy go to a mosque, even if he goes into a Catholic (or Protestant) church is already a different religion. Heck, even if if he goes into a different church in you neighbourhood is already a different religion.
It should be noted that you don't to change your religion, officially.
You shouldn't even have to change your religion according to Islam, and even Muhammad himself have Christian wife.
Besides, you will be doing pretty much the same thing anyway if you're in Islam.
2007-03-05 17:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with wife and husband having different religions is that they will probably end fighting with each other about their children's religion. You will want to teach your children some christian values, and he will insist on bringing them up as muslims.
I don't think it's fair to put children through such conflict. And I think that you should marry this guy only if one of you is willing to convert to the other's religion so that you will have only one religion in your family.
Muslims have the death penalty for leaving Islam. And this may mean that even one of his relatives may try to kill him if he leaves Islam. And perhaps this guy won't even consider converting to christianity.
This means that it's up to you. If you are willing to convert to Islam, then convert and marry this guy. But if you are not willing to convert, then stay away and find someone else to marry.
2007-03-05 16:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha you're in a weird situation. Well, it depends on the man. Is he a controlling man? I live in saudi arabia and have lots of experience with muslims and christian conflicts. You know, Islam isn't that different. They believe in Jesus. They just don't think he was the mesiah. They think he was just a prophet. They believe Mohammed was a mesiah. I don't think you will be that miserable but if this man is controlling you do realize that in that culture, women are generally more subdued than men. Just don't get yourself into something you don't want to. If this man is really a sweet man, you won't be that miserable. I know a woman who was in the same position as you, chose the man, and is VERY happy.
2007-03-05 16:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kuminatano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my fren, Islam is the religion of the Jews and Christians! It is the final chapter of what God has revealed to mankind! Read abaout Islam and you find gr8 similarity in em! I tel you there will be a religion tension in e hse. you have nt yet experience it since u r now in a state where nothin matters but love. but as days goes by as husband and wife then u will noe whats gonna happen. I am speaking from observation and experience i tell u tat.b open minded in all. here go to www.turntoislam.com. it tells u wat u need to noe and ask qns if u need to all for free! theres a lso reverts stories as well! FYI: im am not promotin anytin but juz wanna u be sure tats ur choice to make. May God Guides You.
2007-03-09 04:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by aw_farid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO.You shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone. If he loves you for you, then why say you have to convert? I'm not very convinced.
Religious barriers are huge. Religion pretty much dictates how a person lives their life. I mean yeah you mesh well now, but unfortnatly I don't have high hopes for the future.
Don't give up being you or any aspect of you for anyone, PERIOD. Loving someone is loving all of them, not just some of them to hopefully change the rest later.
2007-03-05 16:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, Christianity and Islam are two different faiths. According to the Koran, Muslims should put down those who don't believe their god. Would you leave God to go for their god? You'll be covered from head to toe too. There's a lot of reasons to this, but I don't remember most of them.
Did he ever look into Christianity and went to a few Church services? He'll probably want to change to Christianity. Remember, if you want kids, you have to decide which faith will your kids will be.
Just pray to God and He'll give you the answer.
2007-03-05 16:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Guitarist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he plans on staying muslim noooooo
Read about how they treat women in that religion. How they are inferior. In some countries how they cut off their clitoris so they cannot receive pleasure from sex.
The muslim religion has no respect for women
Look at the first link below. Its a video of a cleric detailing that its ok for a muslim man to beat his wife as long as:
1) the children dont see
2) it doesnt leave bruises
3) cant cause bleeding
4) not on face
5) no breaking bones
http://www.glumbert.com/media/wifebeat
2nd link is another guy saying how its detailed in their bible (koran) that it is an instruction from the creator just as you would get for an appliance, that it is a mans right to be able to beat his wife.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWGA8i6scYY
Want more northern yank? I can find proof all day long. Heres some more just for you!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wh7qiO3Ygnk&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fb6D9G4gpW8&mode=related&search=
Heres one where a dad murders his daughter cause he doesnt think she's a virgin. Examinations after proved she was. The laws in the region yeild little to no punishment for such an act
http://www.arabnews.com/?page=4§ion=0&article=58104&d=27&m=1&y=2005
2007-03-05 16:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋