I have been emailing and talking via phone with a young woman online and we were supposed to meet up this coming week. But, she told me that she changed her mind because I am recently divorced, within the past year or so, and she knows all about that. She seemed OK with the dirvorce situation, abut I told her that I am moving out of state in a few months, and she said that she no longer wants to meet up with me because she doesn’t see the point. If she really ends up liking me, what’s the point in meeting up if I’m only going to be moving away in a few months – coincidentally to a town close to where my ex moved to. She thinks I’m not ove rmy ex and I’m trying to keep my option open with her by moving so much closer to her, out of state. Why won’t she at least meet up and give me a chance?
2007-03-05 16:35:35 · 14 answers · asked by julia k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes got a point mate......she maybe thinks meeting you she may like you, but then ur gonna feck off outta state and possibly be too far for more meets and she is perhaps protectin herself from being hurt like is all.
no ones in the wrong its just bad timing bad world, and bad idea to move lol
2007-03-05 16:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by mancman3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I wouldn't have a warm fuzzy about you either. That's just weird, why are you moving so close to your ex? I mean there is a lot more involved than what you explained here.
Maybe she senses that your life is on a different path than hers, so what is the point if it is? What makes you want to meet her so bad? I bet she's wondering that too
Give it sometime and don't rush things. Maintain the online relationship until she feels comfortable with you again. A divorce and ex wives are touchy subjects. Maybe she feels like she'll just be the rebound or something. Patience. Take is slow and put her at ease.
2007-03-06 00:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think from a girl's perspective that when you told her you were moving it kinda made her not interested because most people don't like long distant realationships. She probably thinks that if she did meet you and liked you then after you moved it would be hard to form a lasting bond. So when she said she doesn't see the point, she is basically saying that she thinks the distance between you would be too much of a problem for her. Also moving closer to your ex-wife isn't too bad but it doesn't score you any points either.
2007-03-06 00:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ginger6905 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not meet up with you and give you a chance if you told me that. True, what's the point? There's always the chance that she could really like you but at this time in her life, it's probably not in her stars to take that chance. She's playing smart and I think you need to do the same!
You've never seen this person before so it shouldn't be a big deal. Don't sweat it!
2007-03-06 00:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by LT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman look long term. You tell me...why would she want to meet someone who is A:moving B: moving near their EX.
She has so many other choices...why shouldn't she choose a man with the most opportunity for HER.
You have baggage, and I don't blame here.. There are many other fish in the sea without hooks in their mouths, and she knows this.
Woman meet tons of men per day looking for "chances"...why would she want a used car?
2007-03-06 00:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by johnnyinsnj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What chance do you expect her to give? The chance to meet her then leave? If she was looking for a relationship with you and you are not available to have it with her, she will not pursue that relationship any further. She has nothing but disappointment to gain from meeting. either she likes you and you leave, or she doesn't like you and she waisted her time.
2007-03-06 00:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by dv4unme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she may be right here. if you are moving to another
state then. what would be the used in meeting up when you
know that things will not change when you leave. and she may
feel that since you just recently got divorce that you still have
feeling for your ex. which might be true.
2007-03-06 00:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is necessarily wrong, she just doesn't want to invest in a relationship that she doesn't think is going to last. You should respect her wishes in this. Don't force her to do anything she doesn't feel comfortable with.
2007-03-06 00:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by smoothie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably has had some hurt in her life that she hasn't completely got over she might also have lost people in her life that she has been close to and she may just be trying to advoid being hurt again
2007-03-06 00:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound to me like you answered your own question already.. I sure wud not want any thing to do with you asu r getting close to the ex, why ? ? ? ?
is it really over or are you dreaming
2007-03-06 00:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by chevys4evr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋