Pre-Marital Sex - Christians what do you think of this?

Question

Christians, what do you think of pre-marital sex? Is it good or bad?
Do you believe that engaging in premarital sex has any effect on a marriage? Is so are the effects possitive or negative and what are they?
What verses of scripture can be used regarding premarital sex?

Answer 1

Sex before marriage is wrong. That feeling, bond you have with the first sex partner, is the bond that holds your marriage together. Those that have had sex and didn't marry know what I am talking about. Their "first" still lingers with them, and most still talk to their "first" for a live time, for that bond is there.

Once you have given up that bond, marriage is very hard. Just look around at all the sex that is had prior to marriage and then realize why we have such a high divorce rate.

If sex is that high up a list, then the person should rethink their life some. For sex shouldn't be ranked up that high, actually shouldn't be an item at all ranked till after marriage.

just like not being able to drink till 21, drive till 16, join army till 18, there are rules in front of us for a reason.

But the book does say, forget the passage, that if one does have sex prior to marriage, one has 30 days to marry that person and it will not be a sin. Otherwise sex prior to marriage is a sin, lust and adultery.

I use to have sex as an ahteist, today, as a Christian, I hold myself for the one I marry.

Answer 2

I don't think it's good, although I practiced it. I was not a practicing Christian at the time.

Love, the kind of love that leads to a good and lasting marriage is a considerably bigger matter than a sexual relationship. While I think sex is a wonderful part of a marriage, it is not the only part and--in a lasting marriage--not the most important or lasting part.

Love implies and involves devotion, the kind of devotion that would lead a husband or wife to stay by a mate during the ravages of Alzheimers, or cancer, or other conditions that are likely to come with advancing age. Those conditions can preclude a sexual relationship, and if sex is the sole or most important basis for a marriage relationship there is little to sustain it once sex is taken away.

I think premarital sex is sinful, but--like most sins--it can be forgiven and a marriage can grow beyond it.

While many scripture verses address sexual behavior, I can't think of any that deal specifically with premarital sex as you are addressing the subject.

I would not say premarital sex is good or bad, but I would say it is not the best recipe for a good marriage. It can get in the way of the things you need to sustain a lasting and fulfilling marriage, and those things should be the number one priority in any marriage.

Answer 3

Pre-Martial sex comes under the heading of adultery. Thou shalt not commit adultery is the seventh commandment. It doesn't matter much what twentieth century man thinks about it. God says it's wrong. Some will say that living together is good because it helps to see if you can really live with each other. Such as- have a home, raise a family. share expenses, actually have the same desires and priorities as husband and wife. There may be some truth to that but that's what dating is for. That's what in depth conversation is for. It's called, commitment, care, give and take, taking responsibility. It's called LOVE. A person doesn't jump into the water unless they can swim. Living together is jumping into the water. Dating (see the above reasoning) is putting swimming lessons, and learning to swim first. Learn to swim before you jump into the water. Also, as mentioned in other answers, if one person has been sexually active with several others before becoming active with you could mean AIDS and more. Has the other person been true to the person they dated in the past or not?? Waiting to have sex till after marriage will make it just that much more intimate, that much greater and of more respect, more fun. There is a right and a wrong way of doing things. If a person does things as directed by God, things will be done the right way. Best Wishes......

Answer 4

The Bible clearly tells us that we should not engage in premarital sex. Sex is for married people, between 1 man and 1 woman.
Premarital sex and living together is just practicing at marriage. It is what society promotes, but usually what our media and society promote are opposite of what the Bible teaches, so this is not a surprise.
From a Christian perspective and Biblical principle, not one single positive effect of premarital sex. (just think about it: being dumped, heart-broken, promiscuity, STD transmission, humiliation, single-parenthood/divorce, sexual perversions, infidelity) God does not want these things for us. We need to listen to and follow His Word. Humans have their opinions about things, but the Bible is the authority.

Answer 5

In the bible premarital sex falls under the category of "fornication". Fornication also refers to basically ANY immoral sexual act, such as adultery (cheating on your spouse) and homosexuality. Fornication is listed as one of the ways to NOT inherit God's kingdom. It is considered a gross sin. Instead of asking what effect it might have on marriage, you should ask what effect will it have on your relationship with God. Your relationship with God will affect your marriage for sure!

Answer 6

According to Bible anything before n outside marriage is a sin which includes pre-marital n extra-marital sex.

Answer 7

Well, the Bible is very obvious that it is wrong, fornicators (people that participate in premarital sex) are considered just as wrong as murderers.

As for having an impact on marriage, definitely! I would not like to think that my spouse was physically and emotionally involved to such a high level with another girl.

Answer 8

Pre marital sex is called fornication. It is a sin according to Holy Bible.

Following are some references:

# Acts 15:20
But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication, and from things strangled, and from blood.
Acts 15:19-21


# Acts 15:29
That ye abstain from meats offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication: from which if ye keep yourselves, ye shall do well. Fare ye well.
Acts 15:28-30


# Acts 21:25
As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written and concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from things offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from fornication.
Acts 21:24-26


# Romans 1:29
Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Romans 1:28-30


# 1 Corinthians 5:1
It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
1 Corinthians 5:1-3


# 1 Corinthians 6:13
Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.
1 Corinthians 6:12-14


# 1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:17-19


# 1 Corinthians 7:2
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1-3


# 1 Corinthians 10:8
Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.
1 Corinthians 10:7-9


# 2 Corinthians 12:21
And lest, when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and that I shall bewail many which have sinned already, and have not repented of the uncleanness and fornication and lasciviousness which they have committed.
2 Corinthians 12:20-21


# Galatians 5:19
Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Galatians 5:18-20


# Ephesians 5:3
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Ephesians 5:2-4


# Colossians 3:5
Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
Colossians 3:4-6


# 1 Thessalonians 4:3
For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
1 Thessalonians 4:2-4


# Jude 1:7
Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
Jude 1:6-8

Answer 9

Hmmm... nicely acually it says in the ten Commandments to no longer have pre-marital intercourse... to tell you the fact, i'm in user-friendly terms 11, and that i've got no longer any definat opinion in this actual difficulty. yet i understand for specific God does not want you to do it, so possibly in case you relatively particularly have self assurance in the Lord, and are unswerving to His words you are able to wait till you detect somebody you relatively love till you do it. that is not an excuse to assert which you relatively do love him and you opt to do it now, because of the fact in the experience that your love grew to become into particularly sturdy adequate, you may already have made your vows and gotten married.. Soooo... i think of you may wait.

Answer 10

If you have a concordance, look up fornication. That is what sex outside of marriage is called in the bible.

God says not to do it. Personally, I think it's a really bad idea. Anyone who has had sex, and then seen a relationship go bad, knows how destructive it can be. That is....if we were to be honest about it.

God tells us not to do certain things to protect us....not to harm us.