I used to have a boyfriend to whom I was even engage, but then I find out that he never really want it to marry me, he just bought me a ring to keep me there. We broke up and then came back after a while, but then he became a person that did not want to tell me anything that he was doing and did much of his things on his own, "he kept me out of his life" but if you can imagine, I was never left out when he had his personal needs. We broke many times. To come to the point, he got me pregnant, I was not even his girlfriend anymore, but I had asked him to allow me to stay at his place for a couple of weeks, till I get my own apartment, but one of those night he just did not took no for an answer, as a result I am pregnant. I over come the difficult moment of finding that I was pregnant and that he had no intentions of making things right not even for the baby, we now talk but there is no plans for the future. In 3.5 months I will have his baby,I'm undecided on having his last name on baby
2007-03-05 16:27:32 · 13 answers · asked by Gina 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I gave my child my last name, just didnt see things working out with her dad and I. Started packing my things when I was in early labour. We stuck it out and separated just after she turned 1 for 6 months, got back together,separated again when child was 5 for good. Been separated 9 years now, all is on a good level...but only because he actively participates in child's life. If our child wants to change my last name to his then thats fine its a personal decision which I respect, but we will agree not until after school is finished. Just remember you cannot 'change' anyone, he is who he is, please consider that if you decide to give him another try.
2007-03-05 17:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont put his last name down on the baby. He's an a**. I'm almost 17, 6 1/2 months pregnant. I decided to put my baby's father name down only because he's still my boyfriend and I love him. He's nice.
2007-03-06 00:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by April 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please, for the sake of both you and your baby, do not give the baby the father's last name! Please give the baby your last name. That is the proper way to do it. It will also help for when the child goes to school, to have your last name, even for doctors appts. etc. Plus, obviously the guy doesn't want to be married to you, probably doesn't want the responsibility of a child anyway. If the guy doesn't want you, that is his loss, and not yours. Same about the baby-the guy -it's his loss, not the baby's. And, please, make sure you get legal documentation that shows that you have full legal/physical custody of your child when the baby is born. Maybe before. Please speak with an attorney on this. And, this guy according to what you said, did not respect your no, was it a gradual giving in, or did he rape you? Please talk with an attorney on this too. Or the cops, if it was rape, and not a gradual giving in. I wish you and your baby the very best. Take care.
2007-03-06 00:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to go for child support? In some states the fathers name has to be on the certificate for you to claim he owes you any money, if you are not worried about that and you dont think you will work things out I would use your fathers last name.
2007-03-06 00:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my girlfriends took here married name and maiden name.
Example: Kaylee Ann Suby/bohn
I think on here mailing address it is Kaylee Suby Bohn. Her childern have the same thing.
It is really up to you and only you. You may want to write out a pro and con list.
I wonder do you think he maybe more apt to take part of his life if he has his last name?
You have time to seek out Legal help on this to.
Good luck with what you decide.
2007-03-06 03:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by charontheloose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!!! It can give him rites as a father, dont even put his name on the Birth Certificate. you can add it later, if for whatever reason u want to, but u cant remove it once u do, u should wate, till your sure whether or not you want that @ss in babys life
2007-03-06 01:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him/her your last name... you little one will understand when he/she gets older.
From what you are telling us he hasn't done anything to earn his last name to be put on that baby, he doesn't deserve the right to carry his last name.
Best of luck
2007-03-06 00:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by stayedfocus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give the baby your name. My sister did that. Now she is with someone who wants to adopt her son and him having her name makes it easier on them. Just make sure that if your child asks later, you tell him/her who their daddy is.
2007-03-06 01:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by lilly j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the baby deserves to fathers last name if he will sign the birth certificate
2007-03-06 00:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me i would give the baby his last name. even if his/ her dad isn't around at least he/ she has something from him
2007-03-06 01:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋