i'm cool and confident round cute girls but as soon as i have feelings 4 someone i get soo paranoid and bad anixety that i can't really speak 2 them!!
2007-03-05 16:08:40 · 6 answers · asked by Casper Sparks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Same way. I get hot and flushed, and smile like a maniac. If they look at me I look away and blush. I feel very self concious and jumpy and like I've got stuff on my face/in my teeth. I try to avoid walking near them and stutter when they talk to me. Garsh I hate it!
2007-03-05 16:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social anxiety can cause these feelings.
http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/ds...
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cognitive_b... worked best for me. I suffered from social anxiety for over 15 years. I've tried meds, individual therapy, and group therapy and studied psychology for 10 years, as a profession, but also with the hope to cure myself.
Depending on your comfort level, you could go to a psychologist that practices CBT and specializes in anxiety disorders, seek a group therapy, or create one. Usually those that do attend the group therapy are a bit more high functioning because as you know, it can be difficult to speak in a group.
Another idea is to see if there are any local research studies being conducted that you could participate in.
The program that finally worked the best for me is this one: http://www.socialanxiety.us/findinghelp.... and I was lucky enough to have a structured behavioral group to go along with it. Sometimes the people that actually attend this program come back home and form groups.
Any questions, let me know ... I can't tell you how much this has improved my life!
2007-03-06 20:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Advice Please 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys and girls get anxiety when they are around someone they like. Our brain naturally catergorizes that person and puts them aside due to our emotions. Our blood pressure rises and we get heated due to nervousness. It is very natural and some people have it worse than others, but what really matters is how you control it. You have to control your emotions and your reactions. It also has to do with your brain if you know that your reactions is paranoia and bad anxiety then it automatically clicks in the moment that person is a mile away. Its the way how you control your feelings. Just relax and know that everyone gets like this but its the way its handled and shown that differenciates the degree of each case. Good luck!
2007-03-06 00:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mary R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah,happens to me sometimes.not always that i cant talk.sometimes i get overly talkative if i am with a guy i like an dothers,kinda away to take my attention off him
2007-03-06 00:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by traces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think it's pretty normal.
2007-03-06 00:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens, but just be your self. if she likes you you will know and if not meet other girls.
2007-03-06 00:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by avalon123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋