Here is my deal.. We just started talking to my in-laws again in october aftet a long break. Basically they didn't approve of our relationship, marriage or baby. Now we are moving into out first house and his mom made a comment about it being small. Which it is not. When my husband tried to call her on it, she wouldn't talk to him on the phone saying she can't deal with it. She didn't even get him a chance to say anything.His mother always says rude comments and never appologizes for them. I know everyone in his family is used to it but we are not. My husband wants to completely shut his mother out of our lives since he can't even talk to her. What do you think. do you think it is wrong for us. Knowing that everyone else in his family will turn their backs on us. I have never been accepted and they just pay no attention to me when I am there. They also treat my daughter differently than there other children and I am afraid she will notice soon.
2007-03-05 16:06:24 · 7 answers · asked by jugeeangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if your in-laws are that bad then why would you even want to be around them anyways? or even have your daughter be around them? forget them... if people can treat their granddaughter like that (and their own son for that matter) then they are not worth wasting time on. i would just move on if i were you... just stop talking to them all together.. if that family shuns you (which it sounds like they're doing already) what's the difference? just make a good life with your husband and daughter and later on if they try to talk to you, just revel in the fact that you guys are just fine without them!
2007-03-05 16:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by daisylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is old enough to decide when enough is enough as far as your mother in law is concerned. You two are being responsible and providing a home for your family, who gives a crap whether she approves or not! You two are doing the right thing by staying together as a family of your own! Not heard of in this day and age! At least you are together and trying to be a family! The others will come around soon enough. You do right by your kids, that's all you have to worry about. As long as your husband recognizes your daughter and loves her too, that's all you need to worry about.
2007-03-06 00:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother in laws are frequently the subject of many marital complaints. With exceptions to a few blessed MIL, most do behave badly with the daughter in law.
The only reason that I am very familiar with is that being a mother she feels threatened that her son will forget and neglect her. She feels that not much attention is given to her after the son got married and starts behaving like a tyrant and bullies the DIL in order for the couple to show respect and obeys her wishes.
Well, you will just have to be patience and proved that you are good DIL.
Good Luck
2007-03-06 01:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a real problem with my mother-in-law too. Major *****! I mean, for Christmas she got the other wives over $200 in gifts and I opened up a white fruit of the loom t-shirt, which I gave back. I have never done a thng wrong to this woman and I always went above and beyond to try to include her in my family and with her grandchildren. It wasn't the gift, it was how it was done. She was upset because I didn't put on the dress that she bought my daughter for Christmas, instead I wore it on her for Christmas Eve not day. Anyways, leave them behind. You will never be happy, always trying to please them and all. You will be much better off. Less stress and you will be able to focus on your family more. Don't put your daughter through that either. Believe me, she more than likely notices now.
2007-03-06 00:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by jaytayk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those in-laws should be so out of there. You are just asking for heartache if you try to develop a relationship with them. Do not put your daughter through that. You can do without them.
2007-03-06 05:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your husband's mother, so ultimately his decision. I applaud his bravery for doing so...it takes a lot to cut off mom. He probably recognizes the negativity she brings to his life and family, so in effect he is putting you and your daughter as a priority....the right thing to do. Roll with it and support him in his decision. Besides, it cuts the nasty witch out of your life....do you really need her there?
2007-03-06 00:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the inlaws want respect then they need to give respect. If they cannot do that, they have no place in your lives. Personally I wouldn't tolerate anyone treating my child differently, I'd write that person off.
2007-03-06 01:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋