he doesn't treat me right. he doesn't appreciate me. i can't leave him.
how many girls been in the same situation?
2007-03-05 15:47:16 · 17 answers · asked by s89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think all of us have at one time or another. Hmmm, he doesn't treat you right, doesn't appreciate you...yet you can't leave...WHY? Afraid of being alone? Hun, being lonely is much easier on your self esteem than being with a guy and miserable. Grow yourself a backbone and leave him....it's not going to get any better with him, so why not move on and find someone that does treat you right? There are so many out there.....you're wasting your precious time right now. Be the strong woman that you are and get out!
2007-03-05 15:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the situation now. I feel stranded and hopeless but dont be like me. Why cant you leave. You deserve better. Dont waste your life. He comes a dime a dozen. Go out and find the diamond in the rough. Take your time with someone new it will mean more. If he doesnt appreciate you now then he never will. He will never change. History repeats itself and so does abuse. Move on while you still have a chance to pick up and do it. Dont wait around time will run out and so will your options.Please listen to me I have been through this two kids and eight years. I wish I would have had someone to help.
2007-03-05 23:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by hardcore 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm a man. I have the most wonderful woman that a man could ever ask for, and I treat her like gold because she IS gold, to me. I can tell you from my own experiences with my female friends that there are MANY women that have been in your situation. You need to realize your own true worth. If you have always been faithful, honest, loving and strong, there are no limits to how valuable you are to the right man.
How do you know you couldn't leave him unless you assess your true worth, and then try. Good Luck young lady. I hope you, some day, realize how many truly wonderful gifts you have to offer the right man once you two find one another.
2007-03-05 23:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by futurebtmfdr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and it is no good for anyone. It isn't good for you. It isn't good for him. It isn't good for the people that have to watch and love both of you through all the crap. And it really won't be any good for the kids that you two may some day have!!!!!
Here's the thing. You need a hero and he isn't it. That's a tough one to swallow, but here is one that is even harder to live with: Your hero isn't out there somewhere ready to save you.
NO! Your hero is actually IN there somewhere... inside of YOU!
You have to learn how to save yourself. You have to learn to be your own hero.
For you.
For him.
For everyone you love.
Start by improving your self esteem. You can do this better and faster with counseling. Either way you have to learn to love yourself. There is no one out there any more precious than you are. If you've ever seen a sweet baby that seemed to deserve every good thing the world has to offer, or if you have a child in your life that you know deserves all that life can hand out, just stop and think... You are every bit as deserving as that baby or child. You are the creators little child and you deserve every good thing life holds. Life was invented for YOU-- and for all your family of fellow life-enjoyers. As soon as you start figuring that out, you will be on your way to a healthy self esteem and good mental health as well. Then you will no more want you to be mistreated than you would want an innocent baby or child to be mistreated.
I wasted 13 years of my life before the day came that I suddenly understood that. Some people never see the day...
I hope that day comes soon for you.
Blessings...
2007-03-06 00:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by ladylovestolive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I went out with a guy who was mean to me and just didn't apprecite me and I was way to weak to leave him. He ended up damaging my confidence really bad and I just kinda started treating him exactly like he treated me and he got pissed and dumped me. You might think you won't be able to do it, but in the long run, it's for the best. My friends also really helped me during that time. But now I have a really nice boyfriend that would never do anything to hurt me.
2007-03-05 23:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same sisutation right now. I don't really think that we are weak, I think that we have been treated this way for so long that we are afraid. My heart goes out to you. I hope that you will be ok.
2007-03-05 23:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of girls have been in this situation and the only solution is to be strong and decisive and leave the guy or whoever it is that is abusing you and taking your feelings for granted, nobody deserved to be treated badly especially emotionally!!!
2007-03-05 23:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step you should take is talk about it. Tell anyone that listens. Talk about it to everyone. Get everyone's opinion. You will get stronger and others will help you realize what a jerk he really is. I did this with my now "ex" husband. It was my first step. Then I got counseling for myself, and that also helped me get stronger.
2007-03-05 23:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you spoken to him about how you feel? have a strong clear assertive talk on how you feel he has been treating you and where the relationship is heading. if he does love you and care for you, he'll make important neccessary changes. if he doesn't; you know he's not worth it so please love yourself more and leave. you don't need anyone else to make you feel happy or beautiful except you.
2007-03-05 23:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not a question of girls or guys being in a situation like this... nobody deserves to be treated wrong or not appreciated.... you need to leave him and find someone who will respect you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated... unless you like to be treated like crap, move on, he isnt worth your time.... you deserve alot better than what he is giving you
2007-03-05 23:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋