MY LIFE SUCKS!! What do I do?

Question

I've never REALLY had a guy friend until this year and I love it! They are so fun to hang out with (girls confuse me). But I think that some of my guy friends like me. The first guy well, his friend said he liked me and he blushed, he always over-hugs, and well nm i know he likes me. The second guy constantly flirts, and he doesn't aknowledge my exsistence when his gf is around. The last guy isn't really a friend but he was cool and i wanted to be one to him. he stares at me pretty openly and is kind of shy around me eventhough hes normally open. He also tries to show off. I REALLY DON'T WANT THEM TO LIKE ME BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO LOSE THEIR FRIENDSHIP. What do I do??

Answer 1

I don't know. But when you find out let me know. My life could use a shot in the arm.

Answer 2

LOL I've never known any girls until this year, too. I can't say that I know them super-well, but I have actually talked to them under a context that wasn't nerve-wracking. That was a huge change. Anyway, I'm not sure what your question is, but at least take this saying to heart: All good things must come to an end. Whatever your default life is like, no matter how drastically it changes, and no matter for how long, it will inevitably change back. Life is like a vacuum. We can't change the way things go permanently, only temporarily. Neither can we choose the timing or the place in which this occurs, because it just seems to happen on its own.

Answer 3

Wait a minute. Where is the part that explains that your life sucks? 3 guys that like you sounds like a great thing. Definetly a misleading title. You question is hard to answer. You can like somebody but it doesn't mean they will like you back. Is really hard to tell. The only way you'll find out is to take your chances and hope for the best. Well, there is one guy with a girl friend so I would stay clear of that one. It seems that he likes you but is he willing to leave his girlfriend? The guy that blushes seems like the best candidate. He says he likes you already. How much is the liking the real question. The last guy could be a good candidate too. I would take the two individually on a date out of their normal hang out and see what heppens.

Answer 4

Don't make assumptions. Nonverbal cues can be wrong. You might want to bring up someone you are interested in during conversation, asking for a male viewpoint on it. That way, the guy friend doesn't have to be embarrassed by getting rejected since he never admitted that he was ever interested, and you don't make some sort of public announcement that you are not interested before one of them even makes a move. Presuming someone is interested and confronting him with it is dangerous. It could offend his feelings and drive him away. Letting him know you have interest in someone can really spare the both of you a lot of embarrassment.

Answer 5

I know what you mean. I never really got along with girls as well as guys. I am guessing you are pretty young? Most, but not all guys at this age usually only talk to and attempt to be, "friends" with girls they are interested in. If you talk about other guys with them, or do things like try to set them up with your friends this sometimes helps to let them know you just want to be friends. It is fun getting the attention and flirting sometimes, but if you really just want to be friends, you can let them know if they are trying for more. If they understand, they can really and truly be your friends. If it goes further that that, 9 out of 10 times you'll lose him. If you do lose them, they wouldn't be good friends anyways. :)

Answer 6

Just because they might like you doesnt mean ur friendship has to end. If anything, those are the guys that are going to look out for you and are going to take care of you. never treat them different and be a good friend to them. eventually there crush on you will lessen and they will start to consider you as more of a sister then a crush.

Answer 7

tell them before you would possibly be anything more to them, there would have to be a foundation to build it on. you cant make something that big with nothing. tell them a good friendship is a necessary foundation for a relationship. set standards for yourself, like you have to know the guy for 3-4 months before you consider anything more than a friendship. just suggestions, but i hope they help

Answer 8

Tell them how you feel. Maybe it's ok to go out with one of them. Just don't go overboard and go out with one after another. If you really like one, go for it. If you see something might happen, then stop going out with him. Anyway, what really would you have to lose? When I'm friends with someone and I feel something for them, I go for it. If we break up, we are still friends. I don't know what you heard, but you don't necessarily have to stop being friends with someone after you break up with them. A real friend stays close and forgives and forgets.

Answer 9

make it plain to all of them in one spot and outloud that you're definately not looking for a guy. or you can tell one on one. maybe even let it slide that you're enjoying this friendship, but don't want it to go anywhere else. and if true, and if u have a crush on some other guy, let them know u got ur eyes on sumone else.

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Answer 10

It is really nice to have guy friends. But if you want to keep them just as friends then tell them this. Who knows one of them might just come out and tell you that they really like you? But this is your choice.

Answer 11

Give it a few years, finish school and get a job....you will begin to learn about love, liking and relationships. Meanwhile, just have fun and quit analyzing stuff.