Why can't you accept us the way we are?
2007-03-05 15:20:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you dress sexy and ask the same way you may get the wrong attention.. Sure it is nice to dress and feel sexy but you should be doing it because it makes you feel good not for someone else.. When you find the right guy he will accept you for you and that's the one you should hang on to.. Good Luck
2007-03-05 15:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why don't attractive women fall for fat gamer freaks ? why can't they accept them for who they are?
I've dated a few sexy ladies and when I've asked them about this, they said they would do it just out of curiosity to see what the hell is in such a man's mind... but in reality they would never do it (btw, they didn't know at the time that I am official game tester for a big international game producer :D).
It's the way things are. It's nature's way of making sure that people get together with the best partners for themselves (natural selection, I think). However it shouldn't be your primarily criteria, but it will always affect the way you think, no matter what (because it is in you nature :D). Take it as it is and try to beat this game if you don't really like it. I did and it's lot of fun now, both that I understand why everybody else is acting the way they are and because I can go around the issue and have fun with the girls I want! And now I can truly say that the girls want me for qualities that I value as well in myself, because it is easy to show them what I am all about after I have captured their attention.....
The success formula is simple: find your way to be the best that you can be, learn to appreciate what you've become (cause you worked hard at it), learn what the guys really need (not what they think they want) from you and see what of those qualities you can project to them! Learn to make them listen so that they get to really know you.............it's not easy, no one said it would. You have to attract the attention of the boy in order to get him to listen... and there are many qualities and things that you have to offer besides looks to do it..................
PS: (I'd say trust me, but only salesmen use that) A real man needs more in a woman then just looks: she needs to be sharp, cultured, well-spoken, stylish, classy, fun to be around, can take a joke, not-crazy/freak/insane (mentally stable, you'd be surprised how many freaks there are out there)..........the two also need common interests, good communication, etc etc....if you spend to much on the looks why/why not... you won't get what is truly of essence! So there are so many things that could go wrong which only means that you should give up and NOT CARE for all this and just try to have fun (it will do a lot better than to worry). HAHA, it works like charm!
2007-03-05 23:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by G01an 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not important. If you want a guy who only wants to be with you b/c of how you look, then that's the kind of guy you'll attract. highlight what's important and you'll attract the kind of guy who prioritorizes that.
For example. If you dress sexy, you'll attract a sex-minded guy and not one who is focused on character and more important stuff...
but if you choose not to dress in such a way that is blantantly sexy but that is chic and your style, but focus on your character and being true to yourself, you'll most likely attract a guy with more depth.
its hard these days to balance how to attract a male. I recommend you read the book, "captivating, unveiling the mystery of a woman's soul" by stasti eldridge and "Fight like a girl" by Lisa Bevere.
Love who God made you to be and don't comprimise your body for a guy. Know that your dress and appearance is your first line of defense
2007-03-05 23:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress and act in a certain way, and you attract a certain kind of guy. Believe it or not, some guys actually do like you for who you are.
Well, sorry if this didn't exactly help, it was the best I could do.
2007-03-05 23:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if all the ladies were sensible like you, and no one kept us salivating by wearing showoff clothing, we'd all be healthier. At least, we guys would make our choices based on better factors than sex appeal. But the more women want to dress like loose women, the more men will treat women that way.
Parody of the PUSSYCAT DOLLS song:
..."Don't you wish your girlfriend put out like me?
Don't you wish your girlfriend was a s*l*u*t like me?"
That's the way things seem to be going, too bad....
2007-03-05 23:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually not all guys are shallow, as for myself, i love plain girls that dont over do the make up and dress up sexy. For me sexy is being plain.
2007-03-05 23:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you prefer a guy that smells good and dresses up or do you want someone that looks homeless and smells like he sleeps in garbage?
The bottom line though is that you cant hide natural beauty, it shines through no matter what outfit a girl is sporting.
2007-03-05 23:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be accepted the way you are then be willing to accept the fact that guys don't want to impress you either. If you want someone who puts effort into looking good for you then you'll need to return the favor.
2007-03-05 23:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by AnnaSo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just don't dress like men. What catches my attention is a girl in sun dress.
2007-03-05 23:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They really can't help it. Evolutionarily speaking, males have always been very very VISUAL creatures...that's why we have to look sexy (or you know, pretty, not necessarily sexy).
Not saying I'm HAPPY about that all the time, but that's how it is...
2007-03-05 23:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋