I have this damm pattern, I push guys away, I´m usually so scared that they will leave me and I get so nervous aroung the guy I like that I act like I´m angry I ignore them or things like that even dough I like them. The thing is last year I meet this guy and when I saw him I swear that the first thought that went through my mind was that he was the man I was going to marry and he did ask me out and we dated for a while and even dough I really into him I treated him worst that any guy I have meet, now he has a girlfriend and ít´s killing m ebecause I know it was my fault things didn´t work out I was really rude to him and I didn´t show him the real me, the funny, sweet, caring me so I am the saddest person in the world because now he´s with someone else and I´m heartbroken because it´s my fault! So how do I stop doing this and what can I do about him?
2007-03-05 15:13:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey girl you kind of sound like me!! I ignore the guys I like unless they are friends and when they become friends I get scared to take the next step because I don't want to lose them.
I am actually going through that problem with my boyfriend. I love him to death and I have loved him for a while now, but we were friends for a year first. I am so scared to lose him that I am missing out and not enjoying the beauty of this relationship. He says that is his only problem and ultimately I do not FULLY trust him because I will not fully open my heart to him.
We both need to learn to trust others, but of course not be too trusting and naive either.
Go with your gut girl, and if you really care about a guy, tell him. Let him know...and think with both your head and your heart! Good luck to you girl and God bless! :)
2007-03-05 15:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has moved on and now you must do the same.. When you find yourself treating the guy your with badly you have to stop and correct it.. Some counselling sounds like it would help you.. At least you realize the problem and that's the first step.. i would stay single for awhile and work on you that way no one else gets hurt.. Good Luck
2007-03-05 23:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I have no idea....im the exact same way,althought its a lil comforting to know I'm not the only one. All I would say to try to think of him as any of ur other guy friends, and then you will treat him better, also try to think, so what if he leaves me......it happens to everyone at some time or another.
2007-03-05 23:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by Pinklady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow are you my twin? lol i have the same problem, the hottest guy at school likes me, but all i do is push him away.
2007-03-06 00:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by californiadudette1991 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋