there is this guy that i hate and he is dating my mom,they were dating for about a year then she broke up with him because she found out that he was seeing his wife the entire time,but about a month ago my mom started dating him again,he always said he was going to hurt me,but my mom never said anything to him about it,and my mom seeing him again kind of makes me think she doesnt care about me anymore.me and my sister both hate him,he also stole my cell phone and it was really expensive,the first day the video ipod came out i got one as a gift and he stole it.i cry about it every time i think about it,now im crying.i just feel like my mom doesnt care about our saftey and us,do you think she does?
2007-03-05 15:08:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know this will not be easy, but trust in yourself that you can do this ,Try to talk to a guidance councilor at you school or attempt contact with a child protective service feel at a distance with your mom right now for good reasons it seems, it definitely sounds like you need some strong intervention in your family.you must be very concerned for you,your mom and your sisters safety and well being. If your mom does not take you seriously I am pretty sure she will listen to a protective service exspecialy since there are threats to harm you .You have alot of courage to come this far.You are doing the right thing ....Good luck ,I'll pray for you..
2007-03-05 17:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Amana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Princess, your story is rather scary, to say the least. What you need to do is serious--so pay attention. You need to instantly grow up and be alert. stop with the kid stuff about I pods and all the rest. Just realize you are possibly in danger with this guy. keep quiet, remain at a distance, put your valuables away, stay dressed when he is around, and then have a plan if something serious happens. RUN AND CALL THE POLICE if he tries to touch or grab you. Make sure you stay calm to give the police the facts on what happened. Write down his type of car, the color, and the license plates numbers...keep it on you always. Do you have a camera cell phone?? Keep it charged and ready if he does anything...film it...and let the police see it. Don't be nervous, relax and stay calm and cool...be respectful and do not start anything--let him be at fault if it happens to go bad. Do you have atrusted neighbor??? Tell them that basically you fear this guy and would appreciate if they keep an eye on the house when they can--listening to what goes on is important. See if you can go there if needed. If he ever grabs you, scream and kick--poke at the eyes--run when you get loose..call the police. I wish I knew where you were--so good luck and be big--don't be a little kid about this ---be alert and calm.
2007-03-05 23:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow I would talk to your mom and tell her what he has said and done. Your mom should choose her kids over any man. Its not right for you mom not to be doing something about this situation. She split up with him and she should have stayed away and not gotten back to him becuase he will just do it again to her becuase he knows he can. I just think you and your sister need to have a serious sit down talk with your mom and tell her everything from what he said to how you and your sister feel about him but don't do it when he is around becuase nothing will get solved. I just hope your mom isn't afraid of him so he is stayin with him for that reason. You all just really need to talk!!
2007-03-06 00:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mom is really lonely and letting that do her thinking for her, instead of thinking about whats best for you and your sister. Where is your dad, you didn't mention him. Is he available to help? If not then you and your sister need to have a sit down with mom and be honest with her. It may or may not do any good, but start there. If you don't get through to her, than turn to another adult in your life that you trust. Good luck.
2007-03-05 23:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by anncinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does think about her children but her needs supersede all that. She must be very fond of this person despite all that had happened.
I suggest that you consult any close relatives, like uncle, grandparents or church elders and discuss the issues concern as I believed that this person is unsuitable for your mother. I feel that she is going to get hurt in this relationship.
Good Luck
2007-03-05 23:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not say anything in you'r mothers defence but i can tell you that you need to talk with you'r mother and let her know what is going on.You must tell her how you feel and that you and you'r sister belive that this guy is scum.let her know that you belive there are better men out there for her. rember that lonelyness can make people do stupid things . if all that fails try to find someone you trust to explain the problem to. (the only way to get help is to ask for it)
2007-03-06 00:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by alchist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm thats not good. how old are you and your sister, sounds like your mum doesnt care about you two at all, and why is she with this man in the first place. have you told your mum how he makes you two feel, you should report him to the police......... after all he stole from you and he said he is going to hurt you, have you got any uncles so they can come around make sure you are alright. I dont like the sounds of it.....
2007-03-05 23:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is with a very sick person. How old are you? Is there another relative you can talk to about this? Hide your things when he comes over. He sounds like an awful, awful man and he is probably still seeing his wife.
2007-03-06 05:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your mom doesn't care about your safety. I think that she's just too blinded in love with the guy that she doesn't see the harm that he's doing to you and your sister. Talk to your mom about it, i'm sure that blood is thicker than water.
2007-03-05 23:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she cares, in fact i know she cares, but your mom might be in a bad way and unable to protect you
this is a horrible thing to think and say and im sorry because i lived with a mother who didnt care my stepfather beat the **** out of me, but she just couldnt do what she needed to
you have to protect yourself and if you cant come up with a plan for that you need to talk to another adult who can step in and help all of you work it out
2007-03-05 23:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by drezdogge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋